o Someone who wants to come to your house within days or even hours of meeting you online to play, expecting you to be naked and tied to the bed waiting for them.
o A picture-less, blank profile
o Slightly odd or incorrect terminology, ie "I am a Dominate" or "I am going to Dominant you".
o Beware of someone who says you shouldn't contact other people in the scene.
o Lack of discussion of limits, safewords, experience or your interests
o Controlling vanilla aspects' is a massive key.
o An angry dominant is not a dominant, they are just angry and potentially a bully.
o Newcomers attending public events and being approached by dominants to play immediately.
o Background knowledge on a person you just met if someone else knows them. and don't assume they are a person with good intentions.
o Someone stating they have extensive years experience but when questioned cannot give a name of anyone who would know him/her, will not say who taught him or how he learnt, and doesn't ever go to clubs, events, munches etc..and does not think public events are anything but "boring and for newbies"
o Trust your gut, trust your instinct. If something doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t so get out.
o Refuses to meet in a public place.
o Reluctance about giving personal and factual information about themselves.
o Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
o Someone who states you are not a true sub/slave/Dominant
o Someone totally unwilling to meet others in the scene, let alone join a group, and forbidding you to do so yourself.
These Red Flags should be familiarised so the signs an be easily recognised.
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