Domination and submission - 23/11/12 (22527)

I requested my Kinky Ass-istant to conduct another task for to be handed in by today, 23rd November 2012.  Being the impressive gurl, she is, the assignment was handed in promptly.  I requested she write me half a page about meaning of a D/s dynamic.  This is what she wrote:

Domination and submission

Domination and submission means many more things than can be written in half a page but I will try and explain what it means to me.

The D/s dynamic, to me, is the mental side of BDSM. Physical contact, though desired is not necessary. It is based on the ability of the Dominant person to get inside the mind of the submissive. The people involved do not necessarily need to know each other; though for the relationship to work they must learn from each other about what works for each. They do not need to know real names or even meet as the relationship can be carried out by phone, email or even old fashioned snail mail.

What is absolutely required is that the participants get erotic enjoyment or some form of pleasure from either dominating or being dominated. The domination does not have to be sexual. The submissive can gain great pleasure from just serving and pleasing the Dominant as the Dominant can take pleasure from being served and pleased.

I think most people think of dungeons, whips and chains when D/s is mentioned and in many cases that may be exactly what they desire. It is not that for me. To me it is about control and consent. I look for the opportunity to do something for you that will please you in some way. I hope that you will get pleasure from setting me something to do that will benefit you, amuse you, entertain you or in some way make you smile that smile. It doesn't have to be sexual or sadistic, although that is always welcome; it is just about doing something simply because you ask for it to be done. It will always be my pleasure to attempt whatever you want because you want it. I hope that I am not only compliant to your will but actively seeking to do my best for you. I want, more than any pleasure of mine, to please you.

D/s is also about trust and respect. I need to be able to trust that you will not do anything, or ask anything of me that would harm me or my life just as you need to trust that I will not seek to interfere in any way with your life. I have the utmost respect for you as a Person, a Dominant Lady and of course your absolute right to privacy. I believe that you respect my privacy as well.

I do not believe that all Dominants are by nature cruel any more than I believe that all submissive's are ‘doormats’ though of course some are. Many submissive's are Dominant in their normal life and enjoy the giving up of power in a D/s relationship. Some submissive's dominate other submissive's.

What D/s means to me is submitting to you in whatever way you desire, if it is possible for me to do so, but not for what I get out of it, but the hope that it gives you pleasure in some form. My pleasure is always secondary to that but when I please you I gain great enjoyment from it.

Task: 21/11/12

Dear Ms Neta

 I very much enjoyed submitting to you for this task but I found it harder than I had expected. I had a problem with the pegs.

First of all I could only get wooden ones so no colour.

Second I found it difficult to get them to stay on. It was O.K. on my nipples and the hairier parts of my belly but on my chest they kept sliding off so what had been intended as two lines ended up as just where I could get them to stay.

I did the full 10 minutes with all 20 pegs so because of the fiddling around some were on for considerably longer.

Anyway, thank you it was quite painful where my skin was thinner and I enjoyed both the submission and the pain.

Respectfully Yours
Your Kinky Ass-istant
 

14/11/12

Yes, I am still on sabbatical but I had to write up my journal for my recent kinky journey to Melbourne on 3rd and 4th November 2012.

I left for Melbourne to attend two Kink events with a mistress friend of mine.  I arrived in the afternoon, picked up hire car, drove to Footscray to buy some hair product, then off to Brunswick to my hotel.  What a lovely day it was in Melbourne.

I was starved once I arrived so went for a walk to buy a kebab.  Oh what a delight.  I got back to hotel, text a few people, then had a nap.  I awoke at 8.00pmish via a text alarm and contacted my mistress friend to find out when she was arriving.  She had arrived and was downstairs with the submissive driver - our driver for the weekend.

I rushed around to get dressed before they arrived at the hotel room door.  I was not happy as I had not had any communication about when she was to arrive.  Anyway she arrived, we got dressed, and left for the Event.  Kinky.

We arrived at the Club.  It was rocking!!  Of course, I looked terrific.  PVC from head to toe.  Before I knew it, I met up with other kinksters who I did not realise were attending.  It was fantastic.  I would say I caught up with 15 other Dominants/submissives/slaves - both females and males.  It was an amazing night.

I gave two birthday spankings to a slave TS, and a female slave.  It was most enjoyable... except for a rude interruption by a female dominant who wanted to comment on the TS slave's shoes.  UGH.

I had a male submissive in service to me for the evening.  andrew.  He was delicious.  Our driver, andi, was very good and my mistress friend was taken with him.  Everyone had an enjoyable time, I must say.

Our driver drove us back to our hotel room, stayed and massaged both our feet.  It was nice.  By 3.00am I was exremely tired and wanted to go to sleep.  I got to sleep, then my mistress friend woke me up with her snoring about 3.50am.  By 7.00am I decided to get up, well stay awake and text with people.   This Mistress was one tired woman.

My mistress friend and I were off to having morning tea with the TS slave and so we travelled for 40 mins.  Nice day.  Had a lovely coffee and banana cake.  Enjoyed the dungeon she had created with her own hands - wrought iron furniture, spanking bench, cage, suspension bed, totally amazing room.  Oh, I would love one of those.

We left around 12.00pm and stopped to have lunch... OK, we got lost, so decided to stop and have lunch.  We then found our hotel and chatted for about 2 hours.  It was time for my mistress friend to leave so I drove her to the airport.  Yes she was in Melbourne for about 15 hours.  Aah, a Girls' weekend.  Anyway, I got back to hotel room, listened to jazz music, rested, had a nap, woke up and was picked up by another Mistress friend.  We went off to a Japanese restaurant and had a right old chat... well, she chatted for 2 hours and I listened, nodded, and nodded, and nodded.  :) 

She dropped me off about 8.00pm, and the submissive who was in service to me the night before was coming over to massage my feet.  He brought some beer, as I really felt like one, some cream for my feet, and grapes. 

I requested he remove his clothing, apply pegs to his lovely nipples and tend to my feet... which he did beautifully.  We had a most enjoyable night together I have to say.

Sleep was calling me and I was asleep about 11.00pm.  I woke up about 8.00am, and prepared for my return to Hobart.  About 9.00am, I checked out of the hotel and then parked car walked to the $2 shop in Sydney Road, and shopped happily.  Incense, candles, bits and pieces for the family.  I drove to airport and flew back to Hobart.

Overall, I had a terrific weekend with my mistress friend with only a couple of annoyances. 

Hooray for Kink weekends.