Saturday 26 November 2011

Upcoming Week

Well this week is going to be a busy one.  Let me outline the plan:

  • Monday:  Attending a meeting.
  • Tuesday: Attending a meeting.
  • Wednesday:  Attending a Marketing workshop all day.
  • Thursday:  Catch up day on all paperwork.
  • Friday:  My primary submissive's birthday.  That evening, the organisation's Christmas party.
  • Saturday:  FemDom's Christmas Play Party at our new venue.  My son's birthday.
  • Sunday:  Jack will take out children to movies for our son's birthday.  Rest day for Ms Neta.
I feel busy already and its only Saturday night. *sighs*


~Ms Neta~

Service: 26/11/11

This afternoon, at 2.00pm, my primary submissive, bill, arrived to undertake some chores for his Mistress.

The first chore was to put up three family photo frames for me on the blank wall leading into our house.  He measured with precision and finally got all three frames up.  He did a fantastic job.

We then had a coffee, chatted and enjoyed the water views.

My family do enjoy his company.

Next, bill was requested to hang coat hooks up in the laundry.  This was done promptly.  The family now have somewhere to hang their coats.

I requested bill to bring me a glass of wine... again he did so promptly.

We then went downstairs to watch a DVD on the new plasma TV.  It was an enjoyable watch.

We all had a Chicken dinner together followed by ice cream.  It was a lovely gathering.

Jack, my husband, then showed sub bill the amazing effects of blue ray technology.  Aah, boys and their toys.

sub bill left at 8.20pm.  What a lovely afternoon/evening.

Thank you bill for your service.  You do me proud!



~Ms Neta~

Friday 25 November 2011

Secondary submissive: 26/11/11

Today, my secondary submissive asked if he could be released due to the death of his dog last week, and his second dog going completely blind.  Very sad that he has lost one dog and close to losing the other... perhaps.  He has scheduled an operation in Melbourne in two weeks' time for restoration of his dog's sight.  Goodluck to them both.

I am happy to release sub scott as he needs to focus on his life and dog at this time.  I wish him luck in his life.

I have enjoyed our time together, sub scott.  Thank you.

~Ms Neta~

Saturday 19 November 2011

Similarities

I am in the process of training a new submissive.

I was discussing with Jack, my husband, about the similarities between all of my submissives who are currently in my realm.

  • All masculine
  • Handimen - carpentry
  • Domesticated
  • Enjoy own company
  • In management
  • Generous and respectful souls
  • Well travelled
  • Enjoy sports - cycling/badminton/hockey
  • Adore Ms Neta

R.I.P. Poof

Yesterday, Saturday, 19th November 2011 - I received a text in the early afternoon from my submissive scott informing me his dog, Poof, had been bitten by a snake and died in the morning.  He was very upset as he had had Poof for a long while.  He also said he was not surprised he'd die this way as he was always chasing and curious about wildlife. 

I liked Poof very much.  He was such a loving dog to his owner, and he welcomed me excitedly when I visited.

May you Rest In Peace, lovely Poof.  Your daddy, Milo (your brother), Bon will miss you, as will I.


~Ms Neta~

Friday 18 November 2011

Flogging Scene: 17/11/11 (3501)

On Thursday, I went to visit my sub bill.

We were going to go to the movies but the two sessions were too early and too late, so I decided we would have a flogging session instead.  Hey, I do like to flog viewers.

I arrived at 5.10pm to a flustered sub.  He had been running around arranging furniture, cooking food, grooming himself and mentally preparing for our night of impact play.  The man looked slightly crazed.

I told him to calm down.  The food smelt absolutely wondrous.  He is truly a magnificent cook.  I helped stir the chicken gravy for the roast chicken.  Roasted kumara - sweet potato - potatoes, garlic and onion were providing exquisite smells.  The baked broccoli with a dijon type sauce was added to give it extra tasty flavour.

The table was set for me.  My wine poured along with a glass of water.  My food was dished up and damn did it smell and taste delicious.

sub bill sat on the floor as he does when we dine together in private.

We chatted for two hours about a variety of matters going on in the scene, and then into our vanilla lives.  He is a good listener.

Next, it was play time.  His suspension wrist restraints were clipped on, and I tied him up to the ceiling.  Arms extended.  I ankled cuffed him.  We were ready.  The chemical brothers' music was pumping out of the stereo and away we went.  I used 8 types of floggers, and a paddle. These floggers vary in size and provide differing marks and sensations on the body.  Most of these, sub bill, would state are foes.  I started off with the 4th one.  Light, almost shoe-lace like, and started slowly but already he was flinching.  This continued for a while as I prepared his body for the onslaught of the next few that would be forthcoming.  He moved away from some of them and I had to move him back to position so I was not off aim when flogging his glorious back.  Those red marks were looking more 'red'.  I did have to cover a mole up so it would not be irritated by the floggers.  We continued our flogging scene for 50 minutes.  It was intense for us both.  sub bill was jumping around like a cricket at times and at times I thought he would pull the rope through the roof.  He is strong after all.  I varied hands using the floggers, speed, type and enjoyed giving the pain to my adorable submissive.  He endured.  He whimpered.  He screamed.  He try to escape.  He cried.  But he endured for me.  I watched and slowed down when I knew it was a little too intense for him.  Once I could see he had caught his breath and was ready for more, I continued.  I thank my sub bill for what he gives me - his pain because of his love for his Mistress.

Afterwards, aftercare was given.  sub bill struggles at times with the flogging scenes.  He can't understand why his Mistress hurts him so when she cares for him so.  We talked.  He cried.  We talked.  He started to relax.  We talked and hydrated.  He proceeded to massage my sore and dry feet.  He is a good man, and I am blessed to have met someone who can give his mind, body and soul to me.  I am blessed to have a sub who trusts me and will try other types of activities for his Mistress.  He was exposed to some other activities that evening that he had never tried.  We had an amazing time together.  His rigid thinking has becoming more flexible over the past year, and OMG yay for him!

~Ms Neta~

Task undertaken by sub scott: 16/11/11

I requested sub scott to take pics of his cock and balls tied.  I need to keep my boys stimulated... so to speak.  The first two pics were so-so.  I requested sub scott to do CBT bondage again and to ensure I could see a purple tinge.  The last two pics depict this.  :)




Mini Rant: 18/11/2011

I have a mini rant.


WTF does it all mean when my name is used by others to reinforce their views without my knowledge.


Ms Neta is close to packing it all in and leaving the scene completely.


I am sick of these people who believe my name carries much weight and use it when it suits them.  WTF.


Oh well, what can you do but IGNORE them, I suppose.

~Ms Neta~
A fuming Mistress.

Wednesday 16 November 2011

First Assignment: 15/11/2011

I am in the process of training a newbie to the scene.  This is his first assignment, and I do believe he has done quite well.
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Based on my research, which has primarily been wholly reliant on resources found on the web, a summary of my understanding of the difference between a submissive, a bottom and a slave is as follows:

Submissive
A submissive is an individual who has a need to submit and willingly surrenders or gives their self to a Dominant.  A submissive willingly gives control and surrenders power to the Dominant and becomes the responsibility of the Dominant to determine or make choices, decisions, directions or acts for the submissive.  The submissive willingly submit to the Dominant whilst maintaining some choice through prior discussions with the Dominant and will usually have a safe word to end the submission if so required.  The submission to the Dominant is usually for agreed periods of time with discussed rules, restrictions, structures, limitations and/or requirements that may range from many to very few or none.  A submissive usually only submits to a Dominant they are in a Dommes relationship with, unless otherwise agreed, and are polite and respectful to others outside of this relationship.  Hence a submissive is an individual that has a willingness and a need to submit and surrender control to a Dominant for agreed periods of time with discussed limitations.

Bottom
A bottom is an individual who enjoys the lower role or bottom position in a play session.  A bottom is not necessarily a submissive and may be a Dominant or a switch.  A bottom derives pleasure from being in the bottom role without relinquishing complete control to the Top.  A bottom may direct or have significant input into a play session either before or during the session so that they derive their pleasure or achieve what they desire from the session.  Hence a bottom is an individual who enjoys the bottom position without submitting to the Top and maintains input and some control over the session.
  

Slave
A slave is an individual who has given ones self fully and completely to a Dominant and relinquishes all control and limits to their Dominant.  A slave gives all freedom of choice to their Dominant and is completely owned by the Dominant at all times.  The Dominant makes all decisions for the submissive to which they completely comply without refusal.  A slave gives their Dominant their complete trust and feels complete when they have surrendered to their Dominant.

The primary difference as I understand are that a bottom enjoys the bottom position in a play session and does not relinquish control to the Top, a submissive has a need and willingness to give ones self to a Dominant for their control but still maintains some control or limitations, a slave completely gives one self to their Dominant relinquishing all control, limits, choices and freedoms willingly and fully.

Hyperactive

Today was a tough day.  There was a screw up at work in relation to a report sent out last week.  This report was proof-read by three people but still no one picked up the error.  Now is that irksome or what, viewers?   Anyway this morning I had to rectify the mistake and so it was an intense 3 hours.  
I am feeling very hyperactive.

I am feeling hot.

I need release of all this pent up energy.

I do believe I am feeling somewhat aggressive.  I need some hard play.   Sharp and pointy things are envisaged in this play along with some rope bondage.  WEG.

Well, I will have to play with one of my boys soon... BDSM play that is.


~Ms Neta~


Bitch!

Tuesday 15 November 2011

How To Spot A Toxic Domme


--- The Dominant does not want to know you as an equal and/or if role playing, does not allow Out Of Character discussion. In the role and out, you feel important matters cannot be discussed. (Egocentric, Abusive) * Every good Dominant will allow you to bring up issues you have if you communicate them appropriately at the right place and time. If you choose to communicate the issue, take responsibility for your actions and do it right. Be respectful and see if this is well received. If a Dominant isn't open to proper feedback, she isn't open to you.*

--- The Dominant says things like: "It is all about the Dominant!" This can be tough talk, or she may genuinely not care about your needs. (Egocentric)

--- The Dominant has an interest in your Linden Dollar balance and other possessions which strikes you as unusual, or employs schemes to take them from you or lets you buy things she takes from you. The Dominant also may talk you into making purchases in RL for them and may even ask you to keep them secret from a RL partner (wife, girlfriend, family, friends, etc) or even from your own Mistress in RL. (Manipulative, Abusive)

--- The Dominant regularly leaves you kneeling or in other ways unused for a very long time and there seems to be no purpose for keeping you idle, other than her wanting to do other things and matter-of-factly neglecting you. (Egocentric, Abusive)

--- The Dominant seems to run through a lot of slaves, but has very few or no long-term subs/slaves. (Egocentric, Abusive)

--- When dealing with relationship problems, the Dominant will respond by issuing threats or ultimatums about what will happen if a perceived problem arises again. (Abusive, Manipulative)

--- There is non-negotiated, hurtful verbal abuse taking place on an uncomfortably frequent basis especially not balanced by a lot of affection and support. Examples may include sarcasm, pointed “interrogation” of motives or behavior, belittling in front of others, frequent “teasing,” or “playful” insults. (Abusive)

--- The Dominant does not ask you for your limits and does not negotiate the relationship/scene with you before giving you orders and demanding submission from you. (Abusive)

--- The Dominant is one who more often that not tries to issue orders to owned submissive/slaves without the consent of that subs/slaves Mistress. (Egocentric, Abusive)

--- Poor-quality dominants often regard submissives with disdain. They may try to give orders to, or attempt to touch (perhaps even whip), someone who has not previously agreed to submit. They may demand submissive behavior before negotiations, or even personal acquaintance, have been completed. (Egocentric, Abusive)

--- The Dominant drives a wedge between you and your SL friends and associations, isolating you from friends you chose, to associate exclusively with him or his social circle either through direct or implied pressure. (Egocentric, Abusive)

--- You have a sense/gut feeling you are being manipulated and that it isn't good, but you cannot identify just how this happens. (Abusive)

--- You cannot do anything right and this is all your fault. There is consistent punishment, but no reward. (Abusive, Evil)

--- The Dominant gets Real-Life angry with you and punishes you in a way to make you feel Real-Life bad or miserable. His aim seems to be to make you really suffer to pay for his real anger. (Abusive) A Dominant should never, ever "punish" (whipping, caging, etc.) out of real anger or when feeling down/disapointed/burnt out, etc.

--- -Beware especially of the person who will not read books, attend workshops, or go to club meetings, and/or does not want you to do those things. They may know that such resources discuss safety, consensually, negotiation, ethics, and limits - and your hearing that would reveal their abusiveness. (Abusive, Manipulative)

--- The Dominant puts you down and punishes you all the time, far beyond your comfort level, and he appears to have no specific reason for it - she just does. (Abusive) Y/you must understand that consent is an ongoing process. It must always be present, not just in the initial part of the relationship or right before a "scene."

--- The Dominant blackmails you into doing things she knows you really don't want to. (Abusive) Consent is free and not coerced by fear of something nasty happening, whether that nasty is physical harm or the fear of the partner leaving, or of being called a wimp. Consent is one of the hallmarks of BDSM, distinguishing it from abusive activities which may appear superficially similar. Consent is valid and meaningful only if it is informed, meaning that all the participants have full knowledge of the activities to which they are consenting, if it is uncoherced, meaning that the participants give the consent freely without threat, force, or intimidation; and if the people involved give that consent from a condition of sound mind, meaning their judgement in not impaired by drugs, disease, or any other condition which might cloud or distort their ability to make reasonable, rational decisions.

--- At the scene, or throughout the relationship, you keep finding yourself doing things you don't like to avoid consequences you like even less. (Abusive, Manipulative)

--- You are genuinely afraid to offend your Dominant. Not excited, but scared because you expect consequences that authentically feel bad. (Abusive)

--- The Dominant seems to hold little regard for what you think is important, and does not really seem to take any needs you may have into account. (Egocentric)

--- You find yourself logging off feeling less than well more often than not, regardless whether you think it is your own fault or not. (Egocentric, Abusive)

--- The Dominant has a fondness of putting restraints on you that you yourself cannot remove, and abuses these restraints for the sole purpose of making you suffer or humiliate you. (Abusive) A Dominant who is responsible and who respects you will always give you an option to safeword and/or will make sure you have a way out in case of an emergency... A good Dominant has the well being and health of your body and your mental health as one of their top priorities.

--- Whether you like the scene or not, almost everything that happens is exactly what the Dominant wants, and after that you're dismissed. (Egocentric)

--- The Dominant does not provide any aftercare and sometimes claims that “real Dominants” or “real submissive/slaves” don’t do aftercare or they don’t take the time to provide any aftercare or often “forget” to provide aftercare. (Abusive)

Duchess Jovial Denimore 11/14/2009 Referenced several educational SL and RL BDSM Educational resources for this list.

Thank you Duchess for this list.  It will be very helpful for submissives and slaves.

10 ways to be a better submissive and more?

1. Don't be freakin' needy.
 

2. Remembering that you represent your Master/Mistress, that you wear their tag.
 
3. Be an "open book".
 
4. Seek out knowledge of your Domme's kinks; don't just expect your list to be addressed, anticipate his needs.
 
5. Always be willing to learn.
 
6. Be more understanding of a Master's/Mistresses' moods and circumstances.
 
7. Behave with gratitude for rewards and punishments / corrections. not require a pat on the head for everything you do for the dominant.
 
8. Be attentive, show your awareness of when Mistress/Master logs in, or when your in their presence follow the protocols they expect, such as addressing, positions etc.
 
9. Pay close attention to direction given; keep notes and watch especially for subtle directions; follow directions given without argument or asking "why".
 
10. Knowing your own self worth? Remembering that even though you are submissive, that you are your own person with your own thoughts and interests.


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So viewers, do you agree with these thoughts of a submissive (sylian)...?

Sunday 13 November 2011

Movember: Prostate Cancer


During November each year, Movember is responsible for the sprouting of moustaches on thousands of men’s faces in Australia and around the world. The aim of which is to raise vital funds and awareness for men’s health, specifically prostate cancer and depression in men.

On Movember 1st, guys register at Movember.com with a clean-shaven face and then for the rest of the month, these selfless and generous men, known as Mo Bros, groom, trim and wax their way into the annals of fine moustachery. Supported by the women in their lives, Mo Sistas, Movember Mo Bros raise funds by seeking out sponsorship for their Mo growing efforts.

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I am supporting one of my friends, a male dominant, who is involved in this campaign.  I am uncertain if anyone else is involved in the local community but I am supporting this male because it is for a very good cause.  Like breast cancer for women, prostate cancer is a killer of many males.  Lets support Movember.

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My sub went for a biopsy for a lump in his prostate last Thursday.  He receives his results tomorrow at 3.30pm. 

I will update once I find out his results.

~Ms Neta~

Today: 13/11/11

Today, I met up with some kinky and non-kinky folk at one of our local markets.  We all had a wonderful get together.  Very social, and a lovely day at that.

  • Miss V
  • Charles H.
  • debbie-ann
  • Skitty
  • Hunter
  • Jack Payne
  • Connie and her family
The southern fried chicken was absolutely delicious.  Thanking you Miss V for your super-cuisine.

The Meeting - please watch

Not what to do when meeting a Mistress for the first time...


Enjoy with amusement, or not!   Click on link below:


Saturday 12 November 2011

KK pic in September 2011

Ms Neta and Mz Amore at Klub Kunst in September 2011.  She is wearing a beautiful hand-made (her own hand) corset made up of swarovski crystals.  A talented Dominatrix indeed.

Sunday: 13/11/11

Its Sunday, I am lying in bed with the children screaming, bunny laying beside me, the day looking overcast, creamy coffee served to me along with a golden syrup crumpet.

bill went into hospital for a procedure on Thursday, Friday night he had chills and unwellness.  I went to visit him last night and we watched the Source Code together.  Its a good movie.  We enjoyed each other then I left for home to fall into bed.  I had a great sleep.

Preparing to go to Snug market shortly.  A few kinky folk will be meeting us there so it should be nice for a short time.

I will be back in full force soon to update all the goings-on in my life along with some education information.

Until then...


~Ms Neta~

Tuesday 8 November 2011

An Outing: 5/11/11

I went out to a 40th Birthday party.  We all had a terrific night.  It was a 'vanilla' event with a few kinky folk.  I look rather divine, don't you agree?  Yes?  

A sad loss: 4/11/2011

On Friday, 4 November 2011, Mistress Adela's submissive husband died.

He died at his own hand... by accident.  Asphyxiation Play. 

He was a quiet and a lovely chap with a wonderful smile but  he played hard and extreme. 

Our condolescences go out to Mistress Adela and her family at the unexpected loss of her husband. 

This accident, this tragedy also reminds us Kinky folk of having safety protocols in place when edge playing.  It is imperative you always inform someone if you are going to play by yourself, particularly edge play, and that someone else is in the room or nearby.

This reminds us all to play safe.

Again may I extend my condolescences to Mistress Adela and may you rest in peace with lots of fun, sub matt.

Mind Fucks 5

o      A mind fuck is a way to confuse the senses and bring out subspace. For example, blind fold you, tie you up, boil a pot of water, put it under your chin so you can feel the steam, tell you I am going to pour it on you, but instead pout a cup of cold water instead. It can be sensation play, commands, positional, it can be anything really as long as it gives you a surge of fear, and then calm, or calm then fear. Its fun, you should find someone experienced in mental sadism to try it with.

o      This may be a bit more mild, but it was still really fun considering I try to "hide" my emotion by avoiding eye contact. It's still there, but I don't have to see him react to it. So once he forced me to hold eye contact while he tweaked my nips--which make me painfully horny without getting me off--and he would count for how long I had to hold it. but then he would pause! and contemplate his fingers or a dot on my skin. he would vary it by slowing down or counting 5 "and a half" or go back two counts. If I broke eye contact, he would most definitely start over. All this varying with steady counting for the alternation between calm and fear as SidDMic said. He really enjoys seeing the panic in my eyes and then hope when the counting evens out again and all the activity in my head that catches itself trying to get away.


o      Another one is to tie up a blindfolded sub/slave in a chair, tell them that the next sound that they hear is you spreading thin glass (like lightbulb thin) on the floor. Similate the sound of such glass falling in a circle around them while spreading classic potato chips. Then untie them and force them to walk over the "glass". Hee hee

Saturday 5 November 2011

6 November

My birthday today has been celebrated beautifully by my loved ones.

Tuesday 1 November 2011

Scene: 2/11/2011 (3097)

Before
Tomorrow I will conduct a scene with my submissive bill.  A rope bondage scene along with Strap On play.  The nice big 8 inch cock, and even the 9 inch cock may come out.   I will provide pics and comments on Thursday.  Stay tuned!!  :)  

Well I am back and what an enjoyable scene I had with my primary submissive last night.  He is a joy.  He met me in the doorway kneeling when I opened the door to his home.  He greeted me in his usual courteous way.  Took all my equipment which I carried in from the car.  The impact equipment was for him to clean and sterilise for me.  Floggers, Canes, whips... you know, all those fun things that elicit pleasurable pain.

We chatted with a glass of wine about our days.  The blues music was playing in the background, the candles gave the room a relaxing ambience and my submissive was at my feet presenting my birthday present.  Yes it is my birthday this coming Sunday.  He bought me an ipod, and a blues CD.  I didn't want perfume as he has purchased plenty for me in the past.  He is a generous soul.  

After
After our chat for an hour, it was time to put him in some rope bondage.  See pic above and below.  A two column tie was applied to both thighs, a lace around his cock, and his arms were tied as well.  He was restrained.  As you can see in the 'after' pic he loves rope bondage and his cock gives him away each time.  His smile was from ear to ear.  He was ready for the invasion of his bitch pussy arse.  I prepared my Strap On cock for the next part of the scene.  A vac-u-lock.  Its a great brand and its so much more easier to control than other Strap On harnesses.

I lubricated the 8 inch cock, its pink not black, but cute nonetheless.  I pushed slowly into his cock.  After 30 seconds, I pushed forcefully and the cock slid into his bitch arse.  Goddess, that was hot!!  He squealed then relaxed.  I slowly moved in and out and looked into his eyes.  At first he was nervous and babbled.  I continued to watch him and slowly he gave into his yearn.  His face was flushed, his excitement evident.  I increased my speed... and he moaned.  I continued at a nice steady pace and eventually he started to move to meet my thrusts.  With his increasing excitement, he got a little frantic and my cock fell out.  Awww!.  I pushed it back in and he gripped me with his legs and we fucked for a while.  It was intense and delicious.  Unfortunately the cock fell out again, his bitch arse needed elevating.  So I decided to change positions.  I removed the ropes from both his legs and his arms and requested he move into the doggie position.  Such a hot position.

Used on my sub after the bondage scene
I lubricated my cock again, got him to push back and slid my cock into his arse again.  He screamed.  I did give his bitch arse a good reaming.  I fucked him hard and long and he was loving every minute of being fucked by his Mistress even though he was exhausted.  My hips were rhythmic and I have to say with this new Strap On cock, it really was most enjoyable fucking him and knowing he was have pussy arse orgasms.  He has such a great arse and every so often I would slap it because, well, damnit what a divine sight.  Oh yes, it was making me wet too.  After a good after an hour of fucking, I stopped.  He collapsed on the bed, satisfied, tender but still satisfied and I cleaned myself up, removed the cock, took a sip of my wine and smiled.


It was time for a foot massage...