For bill

I wish to dedicate this post to my submissive, bill.

He is a beautiful and loyal male who has supported me through many emotions... particularly, recently.  His service to me for the past 20 months has been exemplary.  Sure he has been less than perfect at times but overall, the man has been spot on in his service.

During our time away in Canberra, he was a strong support to me whilst my Caramel was dying.  He pampered me non-stop which also included him just sitting beside me listening to my sentimental memories and tears.  He encouraged me to go out for dinner or have a drink just to get out of the hotel room.  His attentiveness was 10 out of 10.

Of course, the pampering of my feet was particularly special and always melt when my feet are worshipped.

I always liked the Pancake Parlour so he took me there... well it took us bloody half an hour to find the place but once we got there a Potato and Cheese pancake for me with cottage fries.  Ok food cheers me up too.

I went to get a haircut and bill waited outside for me patiently.  We were in the Canberra Centre and walked forever just to find me a pair of boots.  bill wanted to buy me some... just because.  I wasnt too thrilled with all the walking though and was about to give up but he persevered and finally we found Betts.  bill bought me a pair of Leather boots, and I have to say they look rather stunning on me, and so very comfortable.  I think I will stick to leather footwear for comfort from now on.

bill is a great driver and navigator and drove me everywhere, patiently, and even when I became impatient with his slow driving he wasnt perturbed... he just kept driving every so often say "Yes, Mistress"... ha ha ha

When Caramel died last Saturday, I cried and I am not ashamed to say that.  We, Mistresses, are human after all even though many put us on a pedestal and see us as untouchable, unfeeling goddesses.  bill, being the empathetic man that he is, joined me in tears.  We are bonded... and I believe he will be with me for a long time... well, unless he meets a future wife.

Thank you bill for your stoic support last weekend, and for your impressive service in the past, present and future. 

Who wants to suck my cock?

Quote: 30/5/12

As author Vikki Gemmell says: Everyone has a public life , a private life and a secret life.

Flogging scene

 On Friday, 30^th April, I visited my submissive for the evening.

Our plan for the evening involved chat, dinner, flogging scene and aftercare.

I arrived at 5.00pm and was greeted by my submissive, naked, kneeling, smiling.

I was provided with a glass of wine, then my submissive sat down at my feet whilst we chatted about events for an hour.

Dinner was served at 6.00pm.  A lovely potato bake with roast chicken throughout.  Most enjoyable meal as my submissive sat down at my feet eating his food.

We relaxed for a while.  I then watched my submissive set up the room, set out my floggers and prepare the area for our scene.  He also assisted me in tightening me up in my new outfit.  At 8.15pm, once my submissive was placed in arm suspension, we commenced our flogging session.

I proceeded with the purple friend, moved on to the rubber foe, then to the red friend and then to the purple net foe which looks like a friend but is truly a foe now.  I alternated between floggers and hearing my submissive whimper, and hearing his tears made me wet.

The only criticism I have about this planned scene was the music.  I felt it did not quite connect us in this scene and so it was a little ‘off’ for us both.  I did not quite feel complete but it was still enjoyable enough.

I will enjoy I have the right music for impact play in two weeks’ time.

I flogged my submissive for one hour.  It was intense and then it was INTENSE at times.

We finished our flogging scene at 9.15pm.  Our aftercare commenced.  This involved discussing how my submissive was feeling.  He was trying to understand why he feels such sadness after an intense scene together.  He cannot comprehend why his Mistress cares for him yet inflicts great pain on him.  He does not understand that his giving of pain, giving himself to me, brings me pleasure and that is what I sought from him.  It is still about my submissive it appears… it is not about me completely.  His thoughts cross into vanilla thinking rather that remaining in the D/s thinking.  This will take time but I will need to enslave him more… in time.

We have agreed, yes, he has consented, that we will increase our impact play in order to densenitise my submissive against what it is we do.  The in-between scenes, he will be rewarded with bondage and strap on play…activities he particularly enjoys ;)  generous aren’t I?  *smiles and winks*

Next, I received my aftercare.  A foot and leg rub.  Next, some pampering worship.  It was, as always, very enjoyable.

My submissive gave me a lovely bunch of flowers as I departed for the evening.  He is a beautiful soul who still struggles at time with his submission… but he does do fabulously majority of the time!!

Caramel - R.I.P. cont'd

If you think Ms Neta is a cold-hearted bitch... you have not been reading my blog properly.

I wrote a post last week about the impending death of our Caramel.  However I did not expect it to occur 2 days after I visited the Vet.  Too damn quick!!!

Whilst I was in Canberra, he died on the Saturday at 2.35pm, 26th May 2012 on our child's lap.  As he passed from this world, he was surrounded by love, and definitely did not die alone.  He was buried in our backyard with some final words from our children.  This was hard for them losing a member of the family, a beloved pet.

I was extremely upset as was my family.  I felt helpless because I was not there to support my children and Jack during the loss of such a beautiful little boy who has brought us all joy.  Caramel was approx. 20 months old when he died of kidney failure.  Too young.  I'm sorry I did not understand the signs... excessive drinking of water, and weight loss.  Since his death last Saturday, I have researched kidney failure and even if I did recognise the signs earlier, there was nothing we could have done for the little darling.  All I have said to our children is that he had a wonderful life with us and we will always treasure his memory.  We have one of his offspring so his memory continues to live on.  Fare well dearest Caramel M.  You are missed by us all.  xox

Assignment 3 from my trainee:28/5/12

Assignment 3 - I was pleased with my trainee's efforts.  Some submissives who want to "serve" can't undertake assignments like this because they don't have the commitment to learn and embrace the higher level of Kinkiness.  Many just want Kinky sex without the knowledge or understanding behind what drives many of us in this journey.

Edgeplay

            Edgeplay is any type of play that would be considered “edgy” and comes very close to crossing a submissive/slave’s limits or goes very close to the edge of what is considered “safe play”. Certain activities like breath play (strangulation and asphyxiation), needle play, knife play and blood play are all examples of edge play. However, as different people have different limits, what people consider edgeplay is also different. One person may consider needle play to be within the scope of “normal” BDSM activities whereas another may consider it to be edgeplay. Severe humiliation is also another example of edgeplay and for some people even mild humiliation would be considered to be on the edge. Edgeplay is different for different couples as everyone is different and has different limits and skills. It is also possible for activities such as needle play that may start out as being considered to be edge play by the couple to after a few times of doing it for it to no longer be so close to the limits set down at the beginning of the relationship.

Safewords

            Safewords or safe signals are words or signals that the submissive/slave uses in a scene to inform the Dominant that the scene is either going too far and they want it to stop completely and immediately or they just want the Dominant to stop a particular activity but to continue the scene. It is important to have safewords/signals as they are a very clear way to tell the Dominant how the submissive/slave is feeling about the scene at any particular point in time and when the scene is getting too much for the submissive/slave and they would like it to either stop immediately or just slow down. It is especially useful when a relationship is new, especially if one or both, people in the relationship are new to the BDSM world and play or when an established couple are testing out new limits. Not respecting and acting on a safeword/signal given by the submissive/slave is grounds for the immediate termination of the relationship.

RACK vs SSC

            RACK stands for Risk-aware consensual kink and has the intent of educating and making the players in a relationship aware of the risks inherent in the activities they undertake as part of the D/s relationship. It means that the players in the relationship are both aware and have consented to the risk. If both players have appropriate knowledge of the risks and have consented to them then go ahead. This is the basic idea which is at the core of RACK. RACK is especially important when considering whether or not to undertake any form of edge play.

            SSC on the other hand stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual. It has the intent of helping to make sure that all the players in a D/s relationship are safe, the submissive/slave is unharmed, sane, neither party is intoxicated at the point of play and are able to clearly differentiate fantasy from reality and consent fully to all activities that are going to be undertaken. Another important part of keeping the players in a relationship safe is to make sure that the submissive/slave has no underlying injuries or conditions that will be aggravated by the play being performed.

            In short RACK seems to deal more with the activities that are being undertaken and SSC is more about the people who are undertaking the activities, whether they are the Dominant or the submissive/slave.

Visit to Canberra - Part 2 (10702)

I will complete this later but I just wanted to share my experience at the Birthday Party I attended in Canberra on 26/5/12.

It was fantastic.

I will be back to write up the experience in a day or so.

On 26th May 2012, I attended a combined birthday for WM and KF in Canberra.  There were about 100 guests from all over Australia and we celebrated it fabulously at the Temple.  I travelled to the party with my submissive, bill,  MM, nick and fox.  There was a burlesque show, a fire twirling demonstration, and an impressive whipping scene with a bullwhip.  There were plenty of submissives/slaves and Dominants of both genders.  The Fetish outfits of many were wonderful to observe.  So wonderful to be around Kinky folk who enjoy Fetish gear, and Fetish gatherings.

There were so many people I caught up with and they were so friendly, so approachable.  Grounded people, my kind of people.  WM looked beautiful in her gorgeous corset and her submissive was very attentive to her needs.  KF had an anime cutesy look and she looked gorgeous in pink.

The Temple was impressive with a tree in the middle of the lounge room which was used for a mummification scene.  It was terrific to watch.  There was leash play combined with trampling by the gorgeous N.  The new dungeon had a newly made cage, a rack and all sorts of kinky goodies to play with.  One day, I hope to have my own dungeon and play with all the naughty boys, and perhaps some naughty girls...

I gave MM's submissive a punishment with my leather strap.  10 straps he got as he did something inappropriate to me a few weeks ago.  At the end of the strapping, he was shaking.  His Mistress gave him aftercare and I went on conversing to other kinksters.  We left the party about 2.00am to head back to Canberra city.  I must say thank you WM for an amazing event, and the Birthday Cake of delish!

Corner Time 2

A Corner Time punishment from the lovely A.  She is such a delight and I had to share her experience with you all.  Enjoy the description of what she endured.  Yum.

 

It was my pleasure to implement the punishments, A.  Believe you me  :)

 

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First of all I put on my stockings and my (3 sizes too small) 9 cm (3.5") high heel open toe sandals. Then I wrapped my ankles in the spreader bar and stumbled to the corner. I set my alarm for 62 minutes (I always add a few minutes to make sure that I do my full time). I placed my arms behind my back, left hand holding right wrist, set my chin to my chest and closed my eyes. I said: "Thank you, Ms Neta, you have been a marvelous punisher".

 

While standing there with my eyes closed I was thinking back at this past dreadful week. It started all with Miss G giving me a purple punishment (1600 lines) for wearing black instead of white knee socks with my school uniform. I had to write these lines in one single day, and Miss G had given me a strict schedule: wake up at 3 am, do my morning duties and dress up in full school uniform (with white knee socks of course). From 4 am to 5 am: one hour Corner Time. From 5 am to 11 am: 6 hours writing lines. Then 1/2 hour lunch and toilet break. From 11.30 am to 5.30 pm: 6 hours writing. Another 1/2 hour toilet and dinner break. And then from 6 pm until the finish (8.30 pm): writing the rest of my lines. Then from 8.30 pm to 9.30 pm another hour of Corner Time. Then I still had to scan all my lines (40 pages) and upload them for Miss G's inspection. I had to indicate my errors in red, and I made about 16 errors.

 

The next day I was confronted with Ms Neta who gave me an amber punishment of 460 lines - every  20th line in a different color, for cheating on my Statistics exam. It took me about 4 1/2 hours to write these. I sent them to Ms Neta, and I had indicated that I had made 3 errors. Her verdict was that I had to write an additional 85 lines for making errors, intermittently poor handwriting, sending in my lines too early and loss of concentration. The cherry on the cake was one hour Corner Time. I had to sit on the floor, eyes closed and think about why I had sent in my lines too early and what would be the consequences for Ms Neta. I had to write 1/2 A4 report about that.

 

The next day I got my verdict from Miss G for making errors in my 1600 lines: I got a red punishment of 800 lines, but she gave me 5 days to complete them. However, as long as my lines were not handed in, I would have to do a daily one hour Corner Time. I started writing the same day and finished some 400 lines.

The next day I met Ms Neta again who gave me an amber punishment of 500 lines for smoking, every 15th line in a different color. This one also took me about 4 1/2 hours to complete. I didn't make any errors this time and so I didn't get additional lines. But I had to do 75 minutes of Corner Time, sitting on the floor in a white T-shirt and white shorts, cross-legged, hands on hips (a position that was impossible to hold for 75 minutes), eyes fixed on the wall. I also wrote a report about that punishment.

 

My last and final punishment came once more from Ms Neta. I had been talking in class and was not paying attention to what the teacher was talking about. I asked for an amber punishment (maximum 500 lines) and was at first nicely surprised that Ms Neta only gave me 420 lines, every 10th line in a different color. But then I saw the line: it was actually about 1.5 lines long, thus it would be equivalent to about 630 lines (a red punishment). But I couldn't refuse this from the fantastic Ms Neta. After all, she is doing all the hard work, using up her precious time to compose a decent line that fits the crime, checking my lines for errors, and finding a right position for my Corner Time. Compared to that, writing the lines and standing in the corner is peanuts. It took me about 6 hours and 15 minutes to finish my lines, and then it was time to take my position in the corner, standing in my heels and with the spreader bar between my legs.

 

Finally my alarm went off, and I repeated once more: "Thank you, Ms Neta, you have been a marvelous punisher". My feet really hurt now. What a horrible experience!

 

That was probably my last punishment this year, I must now try to be a good girl, but I will probably make new errors and then Ms Neta will be there again to correct  my attitude and turn me into a better girl again. Ms Neta, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being such a kind lady and such a wonderful punisher. We'll probably meet again, don't know where, don't know when. But I know we'll meet again some sunny day!

Visit to Canberra: 25/5/12 - 27/5/12 - Part 1

I went to Canberra with my submissive on Friday, 25th May 2012.

Unfortunately it was not as good as I was hoping it to be.  Our family was enveloped in sadness due to one of our pets falling ill.  I won't go into too much detail except to say he died on the Saturday so it has been an emotional rollercoaster for me being away from my family during this very sad time.

My submissive bill was extremely supportive during this weekend and what I would like to say to him is THANK YOU for being an amazing support to me.  If it wasn't for him, Ms Neta, would have gone 'insane' with grief. 

Email: 28/5/12

Now this was received in my email box today.  I am uncertain if it is a generic email being sent to all Dominants who have lovely feet/shoes but I was kind of tickled pink by its content. 

Enjoy the read

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Hello Ms Neta, I love your images. Especially all of the shots of you wearing your sexy high heel shoes. I really love the view looking up at you in the shot captioned "you've missed a spot on my heel..." and if it was I that was down on my hands and knees at your feet, I would think that I should deserve a good HARD kick in my face as you demand that I "START OVER... CLEAN IT AGAIN... AND DO IT RIGHT OR I WILL BE KICKING YOU A LOT MORE AND HARDER TOO!!! Now LICK" I am a high heel foot fetishist with a HUGE fetish for the shoes. Its a sexy pair of heels on the pretty feet of a beautiful woman that really does it for me. Well, its also all of the dirty cruel things that might happen to me while I am at the feet of a beautiful high heeled woman too ;) Kick me HARD, crush me, squish me, and step all over my body and face as you trample me beneath your deliciously dangerous sexy cruel high heel shoes. Then make me kiss, lick, suck on, and taste the shoes, feet, and toes that torment and abuse me. I love it! Anyway, thank you for sharing and showing off all of your beauty. I hope to see more of it, preferably from the floor and from beneath your cruel crushing high heel step. I would love to see you do some high heel POV angles looking up at you from under your spiked stiletto heel and I love everything else with a high heel foot fetish perspective too :) Kisses and licks your delicious sexy shoes and feet and every single one of your yummy little toes.

Shoe lover, M D.

Loss of a Family member

Caramel: July 2010 - 26/5/2012 - R.I.P.

Caramel: 24/5/12

It is 3.05am in the morning, and Ms Neta is feeling extremely sad and exhausted.  The reason.  Our guinea pig, Caramel, is dying in his last days.

My daughter discovered him yesterday morning - Thursday, 24th May 2012 - still in his cage, caked eyes with a shrivelled appearance.  I ran down to see him, picked him up and he was so cold.  Hysteria ensued.  I rang the Vet.  Had to ring back to make an appointment at 8.30am.  Got an appointment at 9.00am.  I gave him water, washed the gunk from his eyes, talked to him, held him to warm him up, hugged him.  I then rushed to the Vets to be informed, shortly after, that Caramel probably has kidney failure... and is gravelly ill. 

A month or so ago I noticed how much he was drinking plus he had lost a lot of weight but was still very active.  I was concerned but because he appeared OK did nothing except ensure he had fresh food.  2 days ago he was very active.  Yesterday, all the puff left him.  His female mate, Nitro and daughter, Toffee are present and happy. 

I am leaving for Canberra in 2 hours and have been awake since 1.30am.  I have had 3 hours sleep in 24 hours and have no desire to sleep due to the sadness I am feeling for the loss of our sweet, beautiful Caramel.  The boy is so wonderfully natured and he is still young.  No older than 2 years.  Why do our pets die?  A rhetorical question.

I am downstairs keeping him company.  He is on critical food, and we just need to encourage him to drink water and eat a little food beside the specialty critical food we have.  Its hard when an animal does not want to eat because they don't have the energy to do so.

Caramel will probably be gone within the week, and so Ms Neta will not be completely with it for a while.  Distraction and immense sadness of his decline in health is all-consuming for me at the moment.

Will add more later as this is my memory of my first guinea pig pet, Caramel.  Beautiful boy.

Service: 15/4/12

My submissive visited my residence to repair the side of the roof.  He completed the roof job and then was requested to clean the spider webs off all the windows on the middle level of the house. He was smiling while he worked. Once he did the brushing down of webs off window, he vacuumed the ones draping the walls and ceilings in the parent retreat area.  It was a pleasure to watch him undertake domestic service for me, his Mistress.

Thank you my submissive bill.

Special Day with my submissive: 25/3/12

Wednesday was a special day. Met my lovely Mistress at the Raincheck Cafe. I had already been to the State Cinema to buy some tickets to the movie "Headhunters" a Norweign film. Back to the Raincheck to grab a table and order a weak latte for my Mistress. Was getting excited because everything was falling place to be perfect timing for my Mistress when she arrived. Very nice to be here again, great feeling and my face gave a smile when I saw my Mistress driving past looking for a park. Sooo reliable :) Had a wonderful lunch together, great chatting then over to the State. Hope my Mistress would like the movie, good reports from the critics but a risky choice. Some of these foreign movies miss the mark. Was a pretty good movie, I enjoyed it though enjoyed the way my Mistress was loving the movie even more. I am sure she enjoyed it more than me.

Scene: 25/6/2011

Tammy's feelings and thoughts after my first experience with Ms Neta

Laying out the clothes hoping that this would please Ms Neta and setting the requested food onto a plate, was making my heart race. Then Ms Neta sent me the message, come and meet me outside, dressed in a long black coat and gloves, there was a hint of a black collar visible. The black leather outfit looked stunning, it was hard not notice the smooth skin of Mistress's breasts were very visible in this outfit along with the plump red lips. The next hurdle came when Mistress asked Tammy to strip naked and then dress in the selected clothing, stripping off was fast and clumsy not a request Tammy was used too especially in front of someone. Getting dressed was worse really clumsy, unsure if Ms Neta noticed but his hands were actually shaking while getting dressed.

Once dressed Ms Neta commented and fussed over how Tammy was dressed, this was a rush to actually have a Mistress make her adjustments to make Tammy look, Like a proper sissy. Photos were taken lots of photos, now this made Tammy really smile on the inside. Laying onto the bed arms tied behind in a long red night dress, was very ungraceful, if you could see Tammy's face I'm sure it was red, but the real discomfort came from the nipple clamps they pulled hard and caused considerable pain. Ms Neta smacked Tammy's  bottom, he wasn't sure if this was the start of more of just a tease.

The next hurdle came when Tammy faced Mistress's black strap on, it was there hanging out in Tammy's view daunting and confronting. Mistress ask's Tammy to kneel and kiss it, which she complied with, eventually Mistress tells Tammy to suck it. With a big breath Tammy opens her mouth and takes the strap on cock in her sissy mouth, he felt ashamed and was sure he felt silly, then the humiliation Ms Neta took a picture and then more with this cock in his mouth. While he was doing this he was able to see how smooth Ms Neta's skin was on her legs the other thing notices was the warm scent that was evident while sucking the strap on.

After doing this a few times Ms Neta puts Tammy back on the bed on her back, and lifts the red dress up revealing the pink panties. He hears something fall onto the bed next to him not sure what it was, he waits in nervice anticipation. Ms Neta rolls him towards her many times so he can suck the black strap on cock.
Eventually Mistress says its time to go, Ms Neta discusses that Tammy will need to be dressed better next time and will slowly start trying out things on her. Once Ms Neta leaves Tammy is allowed to undress which she does slowly and lays on the bed and allows her body to slow and relax, and ran this first encounter through her head again.

During this whole experience nerves and anxiety ran high, however Ms Neta made Tammy feel at ease with her touch and words. Not knowing what was happening next was the biggest thing that was felt, along with worshiping the strap on cock a very unusual experience. After the smack on the bottom I did wish for more. The comment about taking the bag of cbt gear did make me wish I knew about it as I would love to just see what things were inside. Along with the mention of fingering my ass as a starter I have for a long time wanted to experience the feeling of a finger rubbing Tammy's prostate.
It has left Tammy wanting more and to experience things like, Smacking and cbt, I do have many more things to see and try and it will all take time.

Scene: 17/5/2009

Thank you ever so kindly for our time last night. Without exception, the evening was excellent. Your company is always one of comfort and admiration.

The intense and stimulating anticipation that you worked into the season was electric. The sensuality that you deliver, the softness of your touch, and the silk velvet texture of your skin heighten the experience.

The simple but effective restraints which rendered me venerable and helpless. Your exquisite combination of pleasure and pain is impeccable. You brought me to the brink of ejaculating on numerous times. The power that you extruded from that beautiful mind and body of yours is overwhelming, and you have such a beautiful grace about the way you executed it.

My bitch ass enjoyed the treatment Mistress. The stimulation and discomfort worked its desired magic. My nipples thank you also for their desired attention and not be be left out in the cold, my little clit cock endured some immense pleasure and pain. The full force of your beautiful foot came as a shock. Not to forget when you sat down hard on it with the full force of your glorious, voluptuous being, crushing the little feller bring tears to my bitch eyes..

I just wish to conclude by saying that you are just the perfect Mistress. A bitch like me is ever so lucky and I will honour and respect your wishes and desires.. I will never disrespect your orders or instructions again as they are delivered for a purpose and a reason. After all, you are the Mistress, and I am your submissive, bitch and there is no room in your life for little insignificant sluts that are insubordinate. So thank you Mistress for taking me back.

You are the most beautiful and caring person anyone could ask to be their Mistress. So, thank you Mistress Neta and take care.

~written for me by dave~

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Poem: 18/1/2010

True Goddess

 

The beauty the power the smell the deep brown eyes that look straight through you and take your heart at first glance and keep you in a constant trance .

 

The perfect body the one that naturally demands worship love and respect, the body you kneel and beg to constantly belong too, the body that has the shape of a REAL WOMAN.

 

The soft caring voice yet also the voice of true power and beauty, the voice that sends a shiver down your spine with every order ,the voice you long to hear time and again.

 

The natural elegance that just flows with every step you take an elegance that turns heads no matter where you are the elegance that constantly makes you have a certain aura with every move you make the elegance that with one slight touch can make a man shake .

 

 

~written for me by paul~

Journal: 20/5/12

It has been an extremely busy week this week but fun at the same time.

My workplace duties have been productive and my kink life has been unbelievable... in a good way.

On Wednesday, I caught up with my submissive and we had a terrific evening.  His service as always was exemplary.  A beautiful dinner which was chicken wrapped in proscuitto in a mushroom sauce and a lovely green salad with caramelised kumara and garlic throughout.  A lovely sparkling wine was served.

We conversed about the goings-on in the local Kink scene which was both good and sad.  The passing of a local kinkster, and good where many of the locals are coming together and enjoying each other.

Later, a clothes peg zipper scene was conducted  Photos were posted earlier in the week.  The pain was immense once the zippers were removed but the pain subsided pretty quickly.

The rabbits, guinea pigs and birds are flourishing under my nurturing.  Such wonderful little creatures.  The dogs are around me as usual and get equal attention too.

My trainee is progressing well.  My submissive keeps in constant communication with me, and is excited about our trip to Canberra next weekend.  Jack and the family are a wonderful support system, and I do love them all very much.

My interactions on the WP Group have been an interesting time, a learning time and it has been most satisfying for me.

And, I've been texting regularly with my sissy boy.  He's such an enthusiastic one, almost puppy like.  Its cute.

Currently, life is very good.

~Ms Neta~

Task by my trainee: 19/5/12

I requested my trainee to come up with 10 service-oriented tasks.  This is what he came up with:

• Cleaning the play equipment
• Serving your food and drink
• Running errands for you
• Providing hand and foot massages
• General house cleaning
• General chivalry (opening doors, getting chairs, hanging coats etc.)
• Laying your clothes out for you ready to wear
• Polishing your shoes
• Sexual service
• Providing my body for you to use

He did pretty well considering he is relatively new to the Life.  Its even more wonderful he isn't a "Do Me" type person.  If he was of course he would not be in my realm.

Scratches

Pic from a takedown scene in 27/2/10 - lots of scratches

Ms Neta

This blog is about Ms Neta's journey.  

It includes a plethora of photos in various poses and scenes, I write a journal, I post educational information for Dominants and submissives/slaves from various sources.  They are credited if I have their names.


I am a lifestyle Dominant, a Mistress, a Disciplinarian, a Punisher, and now... a line setter.  I run a few groups on Fetlife.  I am adored by many and loathed by a few.  I love Dominant and submissive/slave dynamics. 


I own a submissive, I am training a new submissive, and I have a pretty sissy who I enjoy.


I am a serious woman, I am a sexy woman, I am complex woman, I am a smart woman...I have many layers.  If you think you know me, you don't.

I am a Lady and I am a Bitch although fair when necessary.

I am Ms Neta.

Enjoy my Blog.

Kiss my Royal Arse!

I'm feeling generous - Enjoy

From one of my new favourite writing students...

Thank you Ms Neta,

You're a wonderful person!

Here is my report about my corner time:

First of all I have to tell you that I'm sorry, but I have to disappoint you in one way: this position, sitting on the floor, hands on the hips was simply impossible to hold for 75 minutes! As I already have some back problems, this seemed to get even worse. So from time to time I had to move my hands and grab my legs for a while. Otherwise I would have fallen down.

Now apart from that, all went well. I started with saying "Thank you Ms Neta for helping me focus", and at the same time I was staring at a point on the wall. In the beginning this was very dull and boring, but after a while the wall seemed to come to life. Although the wall paper (cream colored) has no particular design on it (only some randomly dotted lines), it looked as though several figures started to appear, and they even started to move around. They looked like some little trolls, right out of the world of Tolkien. They kept coming at me. It was very scary. Although I have never used drugs (apart from my bad smoking habit and some alcohol from time to time), it felt as though I was on a trip (well, that's the kind of description I've read from some drug-abused people). It was a very strange, sensational view. But every once in a while all disappeared and all I saw was that dreaded wall again, that I still had to stare at for I didn't know how long. Then the trolls came back, disappeared, and so on. Until all of a sudden the alarm went off. I just repeated again: "Thank you Ms Neta for helping me focus" and then I could finally get up. My legs hurt, my back hurt and my head felt turning. What a relief! It was finally over!

I hope that you are not too disappointed because I couldn't hold the position that you ordered me, and I hope that you liked my report.

Thank you again, Ms Neta, for helping me focus.

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To this student who did this, you are a delight!  Please know this.

Attracting a Dominant

Obeying even simple directives is the thing that catches my eye first. Answering any questions I ask honestly is also important. Showing you have a grasp of reality is another thing that will get you past the "why are you bothering me" stage.Here are a few generic do not ever do if you want to catch the eye of a female dominant.

1.      Do not say "anything you want" if she asks you what you enjoy having done to you. If she did not want to really know what you enjoy she would not have asked.

2.      If given an assignment DO IT the way she has directed. She is looking to see if you can obey or even want to obey. An example of this is: Order: Send me a fantasy that will be able to be done in real life easily that involves serving and does not involve any sex act. So far 99% of the subs told to do that end up sending something that involves "servicing" a gang of Dommes or being paraded in drag all over the place. Not one has had the smarts to fantasise about doing laundry, washing the car, mowing the lawn. In other words Dommes want to know if you see "service" as only sex or as making her life easier.

3.      Do NOT go on and on and on about how you can please her sexually. Believe me when I say a Hitachi vibrator is much better than any male can ever hope to be. It is always there when you want it, does things the way you want it done and never runs out of energy.

4.      If you do not understand what she is telling you to do ASK for clarification. That shows you have the ability to think. Doing something the way you think she wants it done when you are not sure what was meant is simply stupid.

5.      Do not send the same introduction to a list of 20 Dommes in your area at the same time. Believe me Dommes network much better than you can ever dream of. If you hit on all of them at the same time it will take the maximum of about 3 days (if that long) for you to be identified as a "wanker" for that very reason.

6.      Be polite and understand that "no" is an answer you are going to get often. If you write back a nasty reply to someone who is not interested in you it will get around quickly. (see rule number 5).

7.      Offer things that will make her life easier in person. Learn to cook, clean, do car maintance, landscaping and anything else you can think of tha will free her time up so she can relax.Another thing is learn to talk to her about things that do not center around sex and how often you want/need it or your burning desire to be in chastity. Learn about music, books, current events (sports are not the only current event out there). Show her you are a well rounded companion as well as a sub/slave.

8.      Do NOT come at this with the mental attitude of "if I do this or that she will play with me". That shows up very quickly in how things are done and we are NOT unpaid pro-Dommes. By that I mean unless SHE suggests you clean her garage and then she will beat you, offer service without expectaion of being "served" in return. You will get a positive reaction very quickly if your attitude is one of service not of barter.

9.      Ask HER what SHE wants and then do it quietly, effeciently and cheerfully. You will definately get positive attention by showing that mind set.

10.  Follow the above suggestions and you will be beating Dommes off with a stick. I am sure the Ladies here can add to this list but at least you now have an idea of what is truly seductive to a Domme.

~Author Unknown~  and a big thank you to the Author!!

Submission is not a gift

Submission is not a gift.
it is not wrapped up in a pretty ribbon and perfect folds
it is intense and sometimes ugly in its raw form
It is bound in the will of the sacrifice
Tried by tears of pain, effort and truth
Once you let go and open yourself up
once you are stripped and naked
You are chained to a need, bound by it
and its stronger than any collar around a neck
more seductive than any poetic words or charm
To submit to it is to give one person
the power to completely destroy you.
To surrender to it, to accept it and to ultimatlyl love it.
And in turn to find the strength to not fear
but to trust that person not to destroy you
For them to love you for your beauty and strength in the act
to respect and appreciate your sacrifice
and to bind it to his own will.
:~Author Unknown~

Tips for sub/slave's journey

Attend local munches and skillshares.  I suggest you contact a Group Moderator as a point of contact for when you attend so you have someone to greet and introduce you to other members.
Find a mentor who can help you, guide you in your journey.

It takes honesty. Honesty and trust in and with oneself, and honesty and trust with others.  It takes tintelligence and rationale.

It will take patience.  It will take understanding of yourself and that you will make mistakes.  There will be times where you will doubt yourself, your abilities, you will question the way you've always thought about something, and realise that sometimes change is necessary.

Question things until you understand them and be honest with yourself about lack of understanding and show a ‘want’ to understand.

You have to find someone you connect with, feel attraction to, and who you share interests with.  Think vanilla relationship with the added excitement of kink.  You will get to know them, build trust and respect, and eventually love. You take things one step at a time, and see how they go. Remember be safe and smart about things as you progress.

What is sub space?

The reason sub drop occurs, is a direct result of sub space... as you are taking your submissive deeper and deeper into sub space, the brain is producing more and more endorphins, and adrenaline... so much so that it goes into overdrive, and produces far more than the body's normal and natural amount, hence the euphoric high the submissive experiences.

After your session is over, the brain takes a while to realise there are no more external stimuli present and then begins shutting down production of those chemicals in order to attempt to bring the chemical levels back down to a level state. What it does however is it completely shuts down production... so much so that the levels often drop below normal after the fact, usually by the next day. 

When this happens, there is usually a period of depression associated with lower than normal chemical levels in the brain, then as the brain realizes the levels are low, it begins production again, but over produces once more to compensate, not nearly as much as when in a scene, but still, which leads to a period of happiness and giddiness once more. This is kind of a roller coaster, produce too much chemicals, then shut down, level drops bellow normal, overproduce again, and its a roller coaster effect as this goes on until the brain finally gets to a normal state again. This period of depression and euphoria, then depression again and so on is sub drop, it usually leaves the submissive feeling very confused and emotionally unsure, and vulnerable, a period in which she/he relies heavily on her/his Dominant, and for most new submissives a very scary period.

That for the long and short of it is the mental reason for sub drop... it has nothing to do with true depression, it has nothing to do with the submissive disliking or being mad with the Dominant, it has to do with chemicals, plain and simple... and it is every Dominant's responsibility to realise that, and plan for it, and to help the submissive work through that period and support her/him. Often I have heard that exercise helps to level out the sub drop effects much quicker, so if you are a submissive, and want to shorten the effects, go for a nice run, or a bike ride or something the day after.
 

~Author Unknown~ .

People's thoughts on protocol

I would like to mention that I make a distinction between rules and protocol. Rules are the founding principles of a relationship, the obligations that what has been agreed to uphold. 

Protocol includes aspects such as what he is wearing, how I want him to sit, and when he should call me Mistress.

Respect is about mental/emotional relations. Protocol is about actions. They can have no connection or a very large one. Personally, I would never follow protocol of a Dominant I did not have respect for.

Techniques on processing pain

Breath & other techniques for processing pain & expanding pain limits.

Here are some techniques.
BELLY BREATH
1. Breathe naturally for a few breaths, then notice which first fills up when you breathe in, your chest or your belly?
Which goes up and down when you breathe?
Most fill up only their chest, which means the lungs don't get cleaned out.
You want to fill both belly and chest, belly first, and to do so, you need a strong exhale.
2. Become aware of your belly, and on the exhale breathe out like you're blowing out a stubborn candle, and tighten your belly squeezing it back towards your spine, blowing out all the air.
No more air to blow out? Let your belly pop out away from your spine, and fill it w/ air letting your belly fill up, then letting your chest. Bring in less air in than you blew out.
3. Now blow out again, belly back towards spine.
4. Breathe in, filling belly 1st.
5. Do this, gently, for several breaths till you feel you've got the hang of it.
4/8 COUNT BREATH
1. On the inhale, count to 4
2. On the exhale, count to 8.
3. In on 4, out on 8
4. In out in out...
If 4/8 is too much try 3/6 at first. Always double the exhale for this particular breath. Also, the longer the exhale the more mileage, 4/8, 5/10, 6/12, etc.
If struck on the exhale, the lower half especially, it's usually easier for the bottom to receive it.
If struck on the inhale, it's usually more painful.
If something really hurts, breathe out, breathe out. breathe out, blow it away.

Other pain processing tips.
Imagine surfing, riding on the sensation, the sensation following your exhale and you riding that sensation.
Imagine pain as a sensation to surrender/relax into, rather than something to endure. Consciously relax all your muscles, especially on the exhale. Breathe into where you're relaxed and out thru where you're tight.
Imagine pain as a color, and then spread that color out from it's locus to over your body.

And please, don't think that because you will be more relaxed you won't have as much fun, or be as excited. Relaxation and Excitement together is called Euphoria in the essential oil world, and I think they're on to something.

 

One that I might add, in the limit-stretching department: When topping in this mode, I give a long warmup, including the sort of breath coaching you describe. If it goes well, toward the end of the scene, I have them pull in a really deep breath, and hold it for my slow count of three. They'll exhale all the way, of course--and the top strikes hard just as the exhale _ends_.

As a top, it's sadistically amusing to watch someone try to scream with empty lungs. For the bottom, it's like getting a whole new screen on a video game! At least it's been that way for me, the times I've bottomed for it. And when I top it, when they finally do remember how to fill up their lungs, they're about as likely to say "Oh, WOW!" as to make that scream that was their initial plan for the air.

By SybilHoliday

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Thank you Sybil Holiday for sharing your knowledge on processing pain.

Find a guy...

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”(author unknown).

Do dominants really need aftercare (9922)

Unable to credit the writer as he/she is unknown to me but the information is most informative.  Thank you to the author for enlightening the community.

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Aftercare is a much debated topic among those who are into the rough and tumble play of BDSM. Whose responsible, what is needed and how long it should last are often discussed, but with the submissive in mind. Dominant aftercare is a phrase you almost never hear.

Dominants don’t need no stinkin’ aftercare! They just dish out the sweet nasty and life’s all set. Tops need nothin’ from no one, ‘cause they’re tough. Being in control makes everything instantly easy. Dominants always know what they want, especially after play, so no one should bother asking.

And if you bought all that, I have a fine little slightly-used nuclear reactor in Japan to sell you.

Tops need after care too. It drives me nuts that we don’t talk about this.

“Aftercare” is the term pervy folks use to refer to the set of actions and attention a person needs after kink play to return to a state of stability in mind, body and heart. It can be as short and simple as a glass of water and a moment to sit. It may be a complex combination of emotional processing, physical recovery and a period of intimacy. Soothe the sweetly savaged skin and gently come down from that adrenaline high to be able to rejoin the world without being too jarred. For many, aftercare includes some sort of sensual or sexual time.

The word aftercare conjures mental images of basic beat-body care, emotional comforts, snuggly blankies, water and validation — all for the bottom. The idea that a top might have aftercare needs is completely overlooked. She’s supposed to go from super-top to super-caretaker and then back to super balanced everyday person, all on her own. It’s just not realistic.

I don’t know where this myth came from, but it can potentially do much harm to a top or bottom’s mental well-being, as well as to their relationships. Perhaps the assumption is that aftercare is primarily about injury or body-damage care, and since the top isn’t hurt, she doesn't need anything. This, of course, dismisses any exhausted flogging arms, feet tormented by sexy shoes, tired legs and rope burned fingers. Aftercare can be about grounding a bottom from a place of emotional rawness and vulnerability, but feeling raw and vulnerable isn’t the exclusive domain of bottoms. Any new top, or even an experienced top trying new things, can feel uncertainty. Exploring intense emotional states can leave any good person who’s topping in a place of potential roughness. Dominants or tops unleashing their inner beasts, that part of them which society disapproves of, may leave them in need of validation of their humanity and desirableness.

Ignoring the aftercare needs of dominants and tops may lead them into a pretty bad place. Negative repercussions can include self-doubt, exhaustion, resentment of the other, self-loathing, overcompensation with domineering behavior, loss of interest in play or even physical ailments. If SM is supposed to be fun, this isn’t going to work.

On the other hand, excellent aftercare, for all parties, can leave everyone in a much better place. It can make the difference between a good play scene and an amazing play scene, in retrospect.

So what does aftercare for a top look like? Maybe you already do your aftercare. For some dominants, providing serious care to the bottom is their own aftercare. For others, the ritual of putting away their toys and cleaning the space is another form of aftercare.

But if you’ve never considered your aftercare needs and don’t feel you’re getting the post-play balancing and care that you need, consider these points to figure out your after care needs.

From whom do you want the aftercare?

Would it be from your bottom partner in the scene or not? It doesn’t have to come from the bottom, it can come from someone else entirely. If you need sex as part of your aftercare, but the person you play with isn’t someone you have sex with, then you need that special sex-care person for your après-play. The person caring for you doesn’t even have to be a bottom; they can be a top. Some of the best top-aftercare I received was from other tops and dominants with similar style of play and mindset.

When I’m going into a particularly intense or emotionally boundary pushing experiences, I’ll arrange for one of my exquisite dominant cohorts to witness my scene and be there for me afterward. They’re particularly suited to relate to my highs and lows. If I want to talk about techniques, they know the details I need to gab about. If I want to bare my heart, they know the emotional challenges that come with topping. If the aftercare is from someone else, top or bottom, arrange for it in advance. Since I like to BYOA (bring your own aftercare), I make sure to arrange this well in advance.

When and how long do you need it?

The duration and timing of aftercare for a bottom varies widely. It can last minutes or hours, take place immediately after a scene, or possibly even days afterward. A top should consider as well, about how long she will want her aftercare to last and when it should take place. Will this be immediately after the scene, hours later, a day later or many days later? Will this be over several hour or just minutes? Let your aftercare provider know, so they can prepare.

What does it involve?

What will your specific needs involve? Will you desire food, water, chocolate, a blanket or any other items? Will you want to talk or be quiet? Maybe you’d like to wail and break things or break down in tears or hysterical laughter. Would you want people around you or not? Again, the more you can share with your aftercare provider, the more this helps them prepare.

It’s important to recognize that a dominant or top, who behaves tough or completely in control of any scene may not be on such steady ground afterward and can be just as in need of aftercare as the bottom. No matter of your play partner or another person provides your aftercare, it’s vital prepare for and discuss your needs in advance. If they’re not used to Top Aftercare, they may look baffled, but carry on.

If you’re a bottom, consider bringing up aftercare for your top or dominant play partner before a scene.

It comes down to this — tops are people too. They have strong emotions, desires, vulnerabilities and physical stresses during play, just as bottoms do and it’s just as important to take care of the top, after a scene, as it is to take care of the bottom.

Joining of a new group

I have been focussing on a written punishment lines group I've recently joined and I have provided a few punishments to willing, naughty students.  I am thoroughly enjoying my line setting duties, however, I am looking for upcoming school holidays to enjoy a little break from the delightful little tyrants.

I am setting lines non-stop and its a little tiring but I will pace myself in the next week or so.

However if my gorgeous little tyrants are reading my blog - it may be a little tiring for me but at the same time exhilarating!!

Now back to enjoying my other Kinky activities for a little while.  

The Passing of a young soul

Sad news was received today.


One of our local kinksters died yesterday.  No one knows the circumstances except he passed away at a young age.  33.  Too young.  


The local community is mourning the loss of such a good soul who contributed intelligence to our scene and his nice and gentle nature.


Why are all the good ones always taken so early.


Goodbye C.T.

Clothes Peg fun: 16/5/12

A clothes peg scene with my submissive last night.  Clothes peg zippers applied to his underarms, his inner thighs, as well as clover clamps on his nipples - he hates the clamps, then the removal of them, quickly, leaving the marks as shown in the last photo.  His pain was exquisite to watch.  Mmmm

I adore foot slaves

I just had an interesting text from my sissy boy who looks forward to massaging, licking, sucking and worshipping my feet.  I adore foot slaves.

Ms Neta

Enjoy

Banished for Do Me behaviour

Three weeks I asked for one of my "sub" boys to write a poem about why I had brought happiness into his life.  He responded he would have difficulty writing this as he was not good at writing down his thoughts.  Of course, I knew this was incorrect as he is very articulate.  Anyway he said he would attempt it.  


Last night, I was deleting texts and saw my request - which I had forgotten about completely.  I decided to send him a text to query whether he had made an attempt and his pathetic excuse was "I tried Mistress but I failed".  I responded and said "that's OK - we know why I am really here - take care ..., Cheers."  He text back "I'm sorry, Mistress".


It was very enlightening to me because it really reinforces the "Do Me" mentality by many pretend submissives.  All these Do Me males want is to be titillated and are not prepared to do anything other than provide 'service' that suits them.  Their service is superficial and laughable in its pathetic-ness.  If I had asked for a photo of his cock - oh I would have received it in seconds.  I ask for something of medium depth, and receive excuses and shallow apologies.


Well I am pleased to say this person is now no longer permitted to be in my realm or even hear my voice again.

I don't and won't tolerate this type of behaviour, and he has now been banished from my realm.


~Ms Neta~