Hello, All. I'm back

Good morning All

Its been a long while since I have posted in my blog.

Life has been incredibly busy - kink and vanilla wise.

I am still busy in the local kink scene.  I led a very successful kink group but withdrew in November last year due to a few factors.  I am feeling in a better headspace now and am focussed on my local FemDom group, and a Sissy group.

I've had a couple of D/s relationships that did not last for long.  One for about 2 months, and another for a year or so - with plenty of ups and downs.

I have taken up photography and so take photos of male submissives.  Its enjoyable but many of the men are "shy" and so hesitant, and some are thinking "ooh kinky sex", and others are flaky.  I've a handful of genuine men who I have done some lovely photos of, but I need to up the ante and do more artistic photos.  That will be a major focus for me this year.

I have also starting into body building - perhaps competition, later in the year.  I will see how well I am committed.

There have been many happenings and I look forward to posting updates more regularly this year - 2019.

Until beautiful people, Thank Goddess its Friday.

Mistress Neta

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As it should be...

Departure 6/4/15

Good morning People

Just a little note that I will be gone for a month.

I will return once the project I am working on has been completed.

Meanwhile, don't forget to view my other blogs for your viewing and reading pleasure, and if you have already done that, well, re-read them again.

I do hope you are all enjoying the Easter break, and getting your kink on.  Always important to balance out your life - 100% vanilla is just not exciting, in my opinion.

See you all in the near future  :)

Mistress Neta

Journal 19/3/15

Good evening Folks
Another long day but low key compared with my past couple of days.

It is my day off tomorrow so I am looking forward to study.  Yes, I am studying again - vanilla study - that is.  I hope to finish this Certificate by June just to add to my business repertoire.

My kink life is going along quietly.  Not too much happening but at the same time, there is always something happening.

My boys are worshipping me well, and their commitment to me is strong.  I am in the process of training a new person...I will see where it takes us as he is new to the Kink world but keen to be part of my realm, my Queendom.

My family are growing up quickly and I am pleased to say they keep me 'young'.  My animals are beautiful but growing older and I sometimes get a sense of panic knowing they won't be with me forever.  I will enjoy them as often as I can as they do bring much joy into my life.

I have ceased the volunteer duties I was undertaking on Sundays (approx 3 years of service) due to my disappointment in the new management, and their new processes in caring for their clientele.

My workplace is in a state of flux and there are employment opportunities ahead for me in the next month.

I have decided to visit the hairdressers next week to have my hair styled like I used to and bring the spring back into person.

This blog will not be as active as I have my other blogs I tend to frequent however this one  will be used to post any pertinent info I'd like to share with others, and just fill you in on the goings-on of Mistress Neta's world...when time permits.

Sending you all fluffy hugs, Everyone.

:))

Domination; mental versus physical.

This not my writing but I had to share with you on Lex's perspective about "mental versus physical domination"

Written by Lex

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Those that know me, know that on a regular basis (okay, on a weekly basis), I often ask people if they have any ideas for topics for me to write about. That these questions often coincide with the day that I am actually writing is in no way suggesting that I am actually struggling to find a topic at the time. It merely means that, as a blogger I like to write about things that I think my audience would like to hear, although I do also write in what I love to write about. Trust me, I am, I mean strong minded enough not to write about something that does not hold my interest at all.

So when the opportunity was given to write a blog about mental domination/control versus physical forms, I thought that was a brilliant opportunity to put my words and thoughts onto (virtual) paper. This was originally supposed to be last week blog post but decided the rant was almost fun to write and since it was a lot longer than I intended to be, I figured it would serve as a blog post.

A lot of people in Second Life and to an extend I suppose in real life as well, is make the mistake that one needs to control the body before the mind follows. Which means that physical play tend to be on the forefront. Cuffs, whippings, spankings, bondage. And don’t get me wrong these are all quite good fun in their own right.

However, there is another school of thought. One that I personally subscribe to. This is that the mind needs to be controlled first, and only then the body will follow. And by controlling the mind, you create a longer and stronger bond then when you just tie someone up. Of course this all hinges on the assumption that you want to create that kind of bond with a submissive.

As always the following will be just my opinion (and possible those whom happen to agree with me), and there is no true way, except those that works for the people you are involved with. Also this is not a write up about what way is better according to me. I wanted to present and highlight the different types or styles that are out there. So with my usual standard disclaimer out of the way, let’s see where this will take us and what is involved:

Okay, so first of all, let us kick this off with trying to at least in some way to define what we are talking about. Physical and mental domination are by and large just terms. And by just terms means that since a large part of the terminology within BDSM comes down to semantics and frame of reference someone has, there are often similar terms for the same activities. Other therms that are used to describe the same activity I am writing about are sexual versus non-sexual BDSM play.

Physical domination is perhaps the easiest to kick off with because this is something that most people have some experience with. This is the act of controlling someone through  physical means. This could be just pure strength (think for example the classic pinning of arms above your head or behind your back), or through other means, such as restraints such as rope, cuffs.

But there is more to physical domination than just restraining someone. Because there is a whole area of play that covers this, including of course impact play. In short, physical domination involves some form of physical contact to control the submissive.

In mental domination, physical contact is not there. The submissive does what the dominant asks by the sheer power of their (the dominants) mind and their (the submissives) will to please. Now that sounds very heavy handed but in reality as anything it comes in a many shades and levels.

Mental domination could be as simple as the dominant telling you to stay and not move as they leaves the room, expecting you to be in the same position and same posture when they return. However again, much like with physical domination, mental domination knows many applications. After all the sub-disciplines (really, pun not intended) of mental domination include such wonderful activities as mind fucks (or head games), humiliation, hypnosis to name a few.

So with the above in mind why do I think that mental domination has a stronger effect (or at least on me) then physical domination? Well I guess in part it is just that because it is the way I tick or am wired. I am not even going to touch on the whole nature versus nurture aspect. And the above does not even mean that I dislike physical domination. I am mean, this is me we are talking about, bondage anyone?

The truth of the matter for me is this: I think that mental domination can create longer lasting, deeper bonds that lead ultimately to more fulfilling relationships. Of course a good relationship has everything in balance and as such, so must be the mix between mental and physical domination and control.

But, in my case, if someone managed to snag my mind, and strings it along there is a lot more that I am willing to do for them and for them to do to me as opposed when someone just ties me up. Sure tying up is fun. Enormous, ridiculous amounts of fun actually. But just slapping restraints on me, and then walking away without anything of a deeper connection, without any interaction, without feeling one mind pushing against another, it just is not there.

And this is what I mean, once you have someones mind captivated, their body will be stimulated. The brain is really the biggest sex organ out there and capable of so much. And yes, the counter argument that it is possible to overstimulate the brain so that it, in a way, temporarily shuts down but while people may return to experience that feeling again, there is an easier chance to step away from that, whilst with mental domination the pull one can exert on the brain is much larger  and thus creating, in my opinion a deeper reaction, both mentally and physically from the submissive.

There is one more reason why I prefer mental domination above physical. As you all know, I do visit the world of Second Life, which was of course how this blog was given form in the first place. But in an online world, be that Second Life, World of Warcraft, IRC, Yahoo Chat to name a few possibilities, the physical element is just not entirely there. Someone can roleplay spanking you, and if you have been spanked in your life you can probably recall the feeling in your mind and the associated reaction that you may have to it.

In this case, mental domination really comes into its own strength. If you can control someones mind and make them go along, you know that you have a good connection with your submissive, and you have a start of a relationship where you now can build on and work on deepening the submission.

As you may have noticed, I have not really touched upon the techniques that these different school of thoughts deploy. I do that for a specific reason. For one, I think there are other sites that are much more suited to that than my blog. and secondly; some people are better schooled in these techniques and how to use them. Above all, I think that the methods used are highly dependent on the relationship you are in at any given time. What works for one submissive, may just not work for an other and just totally backfire for the third.

My week

Good evening All
I have had a busy day.  I have been given two employment options from an organisation I am currently working for.

So, I wrote my application over the weekend, and undertook some investigation at the organisation I may be working.

Many people recognised me and queried whether I was looking to join them.  I smiled and kept my responses neutral.

I like the feel of the place, and have decided to put forward an application which I was informed would be considered favourably.

We also have an audit next week so my focus is to ensure all documentation is all in order prior to inspection.  So, people, a lot of stress has fallen on my shoulders this week.  Next Wednesday roll on where I can rest, and focus on the Spanking Party I have arranged for the 28th of March.

My blogs

Hi All
These are my blogs for your wicked viewing.  Actually they are quite tame, nothing too insane going on in them  :)


http://msnetaerotica.blogspot.com.au/ 

http://msneta.blogspot.com.au/

http://mznetadomain.blogspot.com.au/

http://mistressnetadomain.blogspot.com.au/

http://clubfemtasmania.blogspot.com.au/

No censoring

Hi Everyone
It appears Blogger, due to thousands of users protesting against the censoring policy for bloggers, is no longer going to take any action.

THANK FUCKEN GODDESS FOR THAT!!

So, people I will continue to blog my usual stuff when time permits!


Mistress Neta

ANNOUNCEMENT: Going private... shortly

Good evening

It appears that effective 23 March 2015, any sexual content in my blog will be censored by BLOGGER.

The alternative is to remove the sexually explicit content or change my blogs to private setting. 

I have decided to turn my blogs to PRIVATE SETTING in a week’s time.

If you wish to continue to follow my blogs, comment on this post leaving your email addy and I will add you into the private settings, otherwise, I bid you all farewell.  And, thanks for following.

Ms / Mz / Mistress Neta

~ With Dark Romance in Mind… always ~