Mistress Neta's Domain: The History about Ms Neta

Sunday 12 June 2011

FemDom

I, Ms Neta, identify as a Female Dominant (FemDom) which means I control every aspect of my Life.

In my Vanilla life, my dominance is subtle but evident. I do not need to demonstrate my dominance for people to discern it.

What does FemDom mean to me - it conveys my natural dominant nature, my identity, which I have only fully embraced.

I saw this comment, and liked what she said: “I would add that it's not really about getting what I want; rather it's about having the space and confidence to assert that. For me, Femdom is about having freedom of choice. I can be arbitrary and capricious, or I can choose not to. I can be pushy and "violent," or I can be subtly persuasive. Being dominant allows me to express the whole spectrum of who I am…”

I don’t think of my dominance as a default state consciously – it is my natural state… its there, its who I am, its my identity. I certainly do not go around puffing out my chest (generous that it is) and speaking to everyone assertively or aggressively reinforcing “I am a dominant, yes I am”. In fact, I’m probably low key in my every day life and every so often, my assertiveness emerges.

Satisfaction is very important to me when my submissives serve me well. If I am satisfied, I am motivated to ensure my D/s relationship will be successful, enjoyable, and that both parties smile at the end of each play... and that both parties will think fondly of each other on a daily basis. Mutual respect is important for both parties as well. If respect isn't there, then the relationship will definitely not prosper.

I feel aroused, energised and motivated when scening. I expect to be pleased through correct protocol and a responsive submissive who is willing to give up control for me. The pleasure is certainly greater when this occurs. I am satisfied when I dominate/control my submissive, and he has responded to me satisfactorily. I feel in a good mindset and satisfied with my D/s relationship when both parties have gained pleasure – my pleasure, his pleasurable pain.

I entered the Life in 2008 as a newcomer uncertain where my journey would take me.

In 2009 I became known by the Kinky community as engaging, charismatic and special. However, because of my fast growing popularity, a few local members became haters of me. This made life difficult for a few people who enjoyed being around me.

I arranged the first ever kink party as a breakaway from the main group in my state which was highly successful… however, it appeared my presence was pulling the BDSM community apart so I decided to move on in order for it to heal without my presence.

The skillshares I arranged were: Protocol, Rope bondage, OTK, CBT and Sounding – 2009/2011

I arranged a FemDom Afternoon tea with a CFNM theme… very successful 7 Dominants and 3 servers - 2009

I visit Melbourne often to attend Kinky Events and Skillshare: Abode, Provocation, Hellfire, Fetish Markets and Adrenachrome. 2009/2010/2011

I recently attended a High Protocol FemDom Afternoon Tea with 9 Dominants and 6 servers. I learned to make a birching rod from willow trees. May 2011

I attended Uber Club in Sydney. I conducted a Chemical play scene with M160 in the Medical room. It was empowering scene! May 2011

I have managed five on-line groups but recently resigned from four of them due to upcoming study in Frontline Management for twelve months. June 2011

I am rather serious about this Life and take it seriously. I would like to live it 24/7 but unfortunately that is not possible at this time in my life. Perhaps when my family are older, this will occur.

I am a mentor to a few Dominants and it is very satisfying to watch their growth and passion for the Life.

Currently, I am served by two submissives. A primary and a secondary. The primary is prominent in my life alongside Jack and my family. My secondary is flexible and available when I wish a change of scenery.

Goals for my future

Mistress Neta's Domain