After Care

After Care of my submissive, bill.

7-wheeled Wartenburg Wheel

My new toy and My favourite flower

The exciting 7-wheeled wartenburg wheel

No more FemDom!

From hereon in, I will no longer acknowledge the label, FemDom.  I find it superficial and 'porn-like'.  These days, everyone has jumped on the bandwagon and the word has lots its strong meaning, its identity, its strength - it has become common as muck in a negative way.  Ugh

I am a Female Dominant, a Dominant, and will no longer permit anyone to refer to me as a FemDom as they will be corrected promptly.

~Ms Neta~

One Year Anniversary - 28/8/2011

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The "Do Mes"

I saw this post about Do Mes and I had posted a writing earlier in my blog but liked this comment by a very well known and respected Dominant, Ms S, and decided posted part of it on my blog as her words ring very true.

“Yeah there are plenty of screw up, wannabe's, jerks and nimrods out there but its us that allows the behavior in the first place. If you set personal standards and NEVER let them past it, none of us would have these stories to share. These are not submissives, and to equate them to submissives is an affront to every person out there that embraces submission and slavery and brings honour to it, themselves and their Owner/Dominant/Mistress/Master.”

“Neither of my submissives play games, they do what they need to do and what they are required to do to serve me, their submissive peers and our community at large. I am blessed to be friends with some of the finest male submissives out there, and the reason they are not available is that their Owners know what to do to keep them happy and do so, all the while never being topped from the bottom.”

The majority of the comments were about experiences with “do mes” and  many of us, Dominants, have experienced these types but many of us also forget these types are NOT submissives or slaves.  They are pretend submissives who will try their best to fool Dominants.  Half of us pick up on their shit, others don’t.  In my earlier days, I was fooled by a few but can now pick up their pretension pretty quickly.  There are also a lot of “do mes” who have a fetish about "submission" and only enjoy this fetish every so often when they’re in the mood – otherwise many of them are ‘vanilla’, "bedroom kinksters" or even ‘male dominants’.  Not interested in D/s dynamics at all... well, only during their fetish moments.

Anyway the reason why I am posting this is just a reminder that it is important not to lump the “do mes” in with the real submissives and slaves out there who are extremely genuine in their submission and slavery.

We admire and honour the genuine in this Life.

Scene with sissy Tammy: 16/8/11

It appears Tammy has been slow in submitting her assignment so I will write up a brief summary of our scene on Tuesday, 16 August 2011.

I arrived at Tammy’s hotel room (goddess, I feel like a Pro Domme but hey without those wonderful Pro Dommes we Lifestylers would be inundated with numerous Do Me queens).

I arrived about 8.00pm.  I will write in dot point form easier for me to recall…

Ø      I had a small seafood platter ready on the table for my culinary pleasure.

Ø      Conversation ensued about what’s been happening in each other’s lives.

Ø      Next, I showed the clothing items I purchased for Tammy.  A green dress, a pink top and dark pink skirt, a black and red lingerie piece with suspender belts with matching panties and a black negligee.  2 pairs of black shoes.  Yes she was spoiled but she has been generous to me – going to NZ and bought me two boxes of K bars, went to L.A. and bought me back a coffee mug, went to NZ and bought me a car sticker – I love NZ.  Generosity works both ways.

Ø      Next, I requested Tammy dress in all items and parade them for me.  She struggled with the shoes but this is an area she is just starting to explore with me.

Ø      The last item was the lingerie piece which suited her very well.  She loved it, and I thought she looked very sexy.

Ø      She was owed 8 spanks from me for a couple of transgressions.  I rewarded her with 24 spanks with both hand and brush.  WEG

Ø      After that I sent her to the bedroom, face down, bound both her hands and feet with a rope handcuff.  She felt vulnerable

Ø      A 5 inch purple dildo was inserted into her arse.  She felt vulnerable from the invasion.  Excellent in my opinion.  This item was manipulated and she did enjoy it.  Thankfully she did give herself an enema.

Ø      Her cute little arse was shiny red – so cute.

Ø      She was in the face down position for a period of time whilst I sat and occasional pushed and pulled the dildo.

Ø      Next, undid the hand rope handcuff and had her turn over on her back.  I reapplied the rope handcuff and proceeded to use the electro kit on her.  She found this intense at times.  I was quite happy to see her spasmodic movements.  WEG.

Ø      Her pretty little fat cock clitty was streaming with pre-cum.  I am surrounded by sluts it appears. 

Ø      I applied pegs to her pussy balls, flicked them off, reapplied them, flicked off again.  Aah, yes Ms Neta was having some fun.

Ø      The scene was over.  I was pleased.

Ø      Next, I sat back and permitted Tammy to revel in Ms Neta’s essence.  She did well.

Results of Microbrand one week later.

Microbranding of my sub bill, one week on.

I'm back: 26/8/11

Well good afternoon to those who are viewing my blog today.  I have returned from a holiday in Sydney with my family and its great to be back home with my pets.

Will be posting some terrific pics and stories and knowledge over the next couple of days... just because  ;)

~Ms Neta~

An add on to sub scott's PP account

You did look beautiful as usual, and your dress shows your wonderful full figure and attractive looks, which I do like and admire. You are definitely the one holding that group together, and I could tell they all looked up to you. You are the most outgoing and accepting of them all I thought. Your supervision of most of them and your assistance and knowledge I could see was appreciated, and they called on you and your experience at different times. It does show how much you are liked and respected, and envied to a degree. There seemed quite a mix of experience there.

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definition of a FemDom Lifestyle by an ex-slave

I found this in my drawer this evening which was written by my ex-slave, gotenks about his perspective of what a FemDom lifestyler is...  I thought I would post and share his thoughts.

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From my understanding of a FemDom lifestyler, it is a relationship where a Domme sets the strict rules for the submissive to live by.

"Domestic Discipline" is a crucial part of any FemDom lifestyler, it enforces the act to put the submissive into place to do what is ordered by You, Ms Neta, and it is what makes the relationship work.  Any of the tasks You ask of me, it can be punishable to the submissive by You, Ms Neta.

This needs to be part of my every day living, where You are looked upon as my Superior and in a FemDom styler the relationship is a 24/7 basis where  we can live with one another or keep 24/7 contact with one another over the phone, email etc.

There is no certain scene to a FemDom lifestyle (e.g. the dungeon) being a FemDom is Your life, in the household, the outdoors etc.

There is no power competition in a FemDom relationship lifestyle since the Female is the Superior, me being the sub serving You, Ms Neta.  i have to accept that You are in complete control over my life sexually, socially, working for You (but some of these i might need to talk to You about, with off limits Ms Neta) because i will have the passion for You to be my Dominant Mistress.  i will learn that Your decisions will benefit me and i will accept this very much.

Such a relationship needs to grow and trust needs to be made between You and i, Ms Neta, and i hope we can find the balance to make it work.  i believe we will make it work, Ms Neta.

slave gotenks.

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well alas, gotenks and I did not survive the relationship.  He could not handle the strictness but as well he was living in another state and this is always a killer for many LDRs... especially if there isn't constant real time contact.  gotenks was a good boy, and he tried, but I think on top of his depression he really needed a 24/7 domestic relationship with a Dominant to keep him in the right sub headspace.  Unfortunately for him, I was not interested.  During his time with me, we had some good times. 

~Ms Neta~

Ego is not a dirty work.

Microbranding scene 18/8/11

On Thursday, 18th August 2011, I microbranded my primary submissive, bill.

My very first microbrand when I was taught by SBJ.

The first time was earlier in the year which was with the letter N only. 

This time around I decided to do a circle with an N within.  I am not an artist as such so my designs are basic but they do leave an impression on who my sub belongs to.

This time around he was a little like a jelly bean jiggling and shimmering while I branded him with my little hot iron.  I went deeper this time and he felt my trails of cell popping.  The smell of burning flesh, well only slightly burning smell - ha ha ha - was satisfying.  

My sub bill was extremely honoured to have my mark on his cute bitch arse.  Such a good boy.

Before Shower

I will take another pic in about three weeks to see how well it has healed and branded his lovely flesh.

After Shower

Still to come...

An account on scene with Tammy

An account on scene with sub bill on microbranding

An add on to sub scott's PP account.

Journal 15-19 August 2011

Good morning

This week has been an absolute blur so this week's journal will be in dot point as I have more things to do shortly and this Mistress is running out of time...

• Monday - quietish evening - the calm before the storm...
• Tuesday - Met up with my sissy, Tammy, for some time together.  A write up of our evening will be provided in the next week along with some terrific photos.
• Wednesday - Visited my friend, Miss V, and her friend, C.  We had a lovely lunch together and talked about a variety of topics in relation to Kink.  This get together was also a time to meet with her friend to see if I thought she would be suitable for our Lifestyle.  My conclusion... not at this time.  She is a beautiful person but has no direction at this time and needs to find out what she really wants to do before venturing into the unknown.  We will support you C in whatever journey you decide to take.
• Thursday - Met up with my submissive, bill.  He cooked me a beautiful meal, massaged me.  I microbranded him, I will post pics in a separate post, then we had some Vac-u-lock Strap On fun.  My sub is a gorgeous slut.  I love hearing his excitement.  Very sexy.
• Friday - tied up loose ends at my workplace as I am off to Sydney for the week, got on FL and made a few comments, received some emails from people who miss me.  Spoke with sub bottom scott whose attitude has changed immensely.  He trusts me now and it is coming through his speak and interaction with me although had to pick him up on his patronising attitude on occasion.  His parent speak actually.  He was unaware and will endeavour to improve in this area and speak in a more deference tone.  My submissive bill booked our airline tickets to Melbourne for the OzKink Festival.  All done.  Just accommodation, skillshares and car to arrange.  Busy busy.

My week has been hectic.  Off to pack shortly for the family trip.

~Ms Neta~

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sub bill's account of the PP - 13/8/11

The experiences to the play party did begin at home as this is where my Mistress would travel before hand. I was full of apprehension and tension as I caused my Mistress some displeasure a few days ago and I had not seen her since. I had apologised strongly and compassionately and she had kindly accepted but would monitor me closely. I was kneeling in the hallway, trembling, waiting for her arrival.

The door was ajar, ready for her entry. I could hear her the hard soles to her shoes on the driveway. Her confident strong walk. My Mistress swung into the hallway and she did look stunning. Long heavy, black, fur lined coat. I glimpse of fish net stockings. Latex peaking from the v of her coat, surrounding a cleavage to die for !! Gorgeous black leather, laced shoes, her fantastic new glasses. The list goes on, black floral pendent sitting above her cleavage and small colourful bright stones piecing her ear lobes. All this didn't matter, i was looking for a smile, some form of happiness, softness in her eyes. I thought I could see it, I did see it, I could feel it. It was such a relief, such joy to see !!!! All the apprehension and tension turned to excitement and passion for my wonderful Mistress. Now i could think about the play party, now it could be a good night !

Chauffeuring my Mistress to the play party was a pleasure Arriving there with my gorgeous Mistress gave me such calmness and quite confidence. I  imagined if  i  arrived here alone, how my personality would be so different, nerves and insecurity would fill me.When we arrived there was still much to be done to the venue to but I wasn't to concerned, I was with my amazing Mistress. It was good when scott arrived, having someone else helping me to get things ready. Also liked the effect this gave my Mistress, ordering us around. Another sub, nnet was there doing his bit, preparing a cheese platter. I get a good feeling from him. Mistress asked Miss A to give a demo on building floggers to get things rolling. My Mistress seemed  interested and took note on how to make them though i feel she has grown attached to her own floggers. Before i knew it things were happening and scott was being flogged. I was glad he was first. A short time latter I was happy to have the attentions of my lovely Mistress, she tied me to the cross and warmed me up. Miss A used some of her own floggers on my arse. Didn't like the rope ones so much but did kind of think  her duct tape floggers were pretty good. I was comfortable with her duct tape flogger, liked the sound it made and the sting disappeared quickly. I say this flogger could be a friend to me. My lovely Mistress then enjoyed flogging my back mild to medium impact. She used some of her soft leather floggers which are also friends to me. One problem though was the metal shed was not lined and the heat from the fire was escaping through the gaps in the roof. Could feel the cold air being stirred up by the floggers and swirling around me.Wishing I did have a beanie on this naked body !

SK turned up latter and gave a good demo on needle play. Actually gave more than a demo ! My Mistress was jabbed by two of her needles. dog was feeling for his Mistress and was sorry to see blood coming from her arm but hey she wanted to experience it and was happy that she did. The two needles piecing my Mistress formed a cross with one putting pressure on the other, it looked painful to me. 

Mistress Neta and Ms S did  do some electro play on me after doing similar play on scott. Did notice scott jumping and squirming around a few times and was wondering if i would be next. Ms S did tie a shoe lace around my cock and balls which always gets my cock excited. Hoped this did not disturb my wonderful Mistress. Don't know if Mistress Neta enjoyed the electro play so much but Ms S did. Some of the sensations were quite amazing. One setting felt like i had an extra ball and it was moving around banging into the other balls, very weird ! Another setting felt like a thick rubber band was around the balls and being moved up and down the sack.

Mistress Neta was also happy to give Miss Z some experience and training in flogging.  

Was very surprised how much needle play nnet was taking from SK, I admired there connection together, especially when they have just recently met.

Overall it was a successful night and i was happy to serve my Mistress at my first play party. 

The Dominant's Creed

As the Dominant to my submissive I know that she gives herself to me in mind, body, soul and spirit and does so of her own volition. In me she has placed confidence, reliance, faith, hope, and dependence.

I will endeavour to ensure my submissive's needs and desires are learned, and her limits are respected at all times. I understand that the gift of submission is priceless and will cherish it always.

Through my actions I will demonstrate that I am in complete control of myself thus allowing me impress upon my submissive the need to relinquish any control she may subconsciously retain in order to facilitate our erotic power exchange.

I accept responsibility for all aspects of my submissives life, ensuring that each decision I make in her regard is the best for her body, spirit and soul. Never will I place my submissive in jeopardy, nor will I compromise the trust she has placed in me.

In order to bring my submissive to new heights and understanding, I will work to achieve a vast knowledge of all aspects of the lifestyle, thus allowing me to be the teacher that she so richly deserves.

I will honour, defend and guard my submissive at all times showing that my love for her will provide a safe harbour in times of adversity.

My Dominant self is rooted both in reality and in fantasy, yet I can easily differentiate the two never allowing the fantasy world to overtake that of the real world.

In times of distress and hardship, I will shed the role of Dominant and provide for my submissive, a supportive partner and confidante.

While often unrelenting and strict, bringing my submissive to tears, I will always kiss away the tears that are shed showing my submissive that while stern, my heart belongs to her.

I vow never to lift a hand to my submissive in anger. When punishment is needed it shall always delivered with a tender and discerning hand and for a valid reason.

I pledge to my submissive patience and understanding, tolerance and steadfastness allowing us to grow and nurture the bond we have established so that it may withstand the test of time.

Above all else, I will wear the title of Dominant with great honour.

My primary bitch

My primary submissive, bill.

Preaching to the Perverted - Movie

Minister on a moral crusade employs young computer whizzkid Peter to infiltrate the London S&M scene. Peter has to gather evidence of physical "assaults" in order for the Minister to prosecute and shut the scene down. But Peter gets unwittingly drawn into it and falls for the Mistress Tanya Cheex. Written by Gareth Watkins 

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I have just commenced watching this movie.  I'll give my thoughts afterwards. 

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OK watched this movie but still have 5 more minutes to watch due to it clashing with one of my favourite law shows.


What did I think of it?

My first thought was I want my own dungeon with my own harem of slaves and submissives.  It was a terrific little movie although did not like the main male character initially and his god-fairing ways... but he turned out OK at the end I suppose.

Mistress Tanya Cheex, she was an amazing Dominatrix, and yes you could see the sadness and loneliness within her but she covered it well and got on with her Life... the yearning was evident thought.

She had some exquisite Outfits especially that purple coat, and her hair pieces and makeup were rather stunning.


I look forward to seeing the last few minutes to see how it pans out.  This will be a good movie to watch with bill.

I encourage everyone to view the movie just because it is a cult classic and it gives an insight into the world of this charismatic, yet lonely, Dominatrix.

I loved that her deepest darkest secret was the being married with children and living happily ever after - it was so... cute, and unexpected.

sub scott's account of the PP - 13/8/11

Hello Ms Neta,

I needed to let you know some thoughts and feelings from Saturday night.

I was less nervous, attending than I expected (again). I am sorry I was late – there was no street sign and I stopped up the road to check on the internet, then saw a house sign (for #!!) on the way back down. Waiting for things to start and not quite knowing was a bit nervewracking but okay, I knew it would.

There is no problem with you sharing me out to others, as that is one of the reasons you wanted me to attend. I am pleased Miss S was first since she’s likely to play with me in future. Impact play is becoming more okay. That started pretty easily, with softer blows that had little effect. I think Miss S was surprised how quickly I reddened up without pain. I don’t mark too easily. (BTW: there was so little redness on Sunday morning that I didn’t think it worth photographing for you.) Those impacts started to build up, but were no worse than with you. I did expect after I called orange, that she would continue, but appreciate she wanted to save me for others later. Was it Miss Z that then had a little training? I heard Miss S tell her she was hitting much softer than she had been herself, and Miss Z’s strikes weren’t causing pain. As she gets more experience she probably will. Boy was it cold though standing there bent! I was shivering, yet apparently my bum sweating! Being uncomfortable is my problem though (but it didn’t help to keep my balls out of my groin!)

I could hear Bill being flogged in the background and that went longer than I thought. Or maybe I did lose some track of time with my head down or blindfold on. I was aware of others in the background, but not knowing what else was happening…

The electro was interesting. I felt a tiny tick, tick, tick. It didn’t feel sharp enough to be a pin or wheel. After a minute or so I realised it was too regular and that it was the machine. Different settings did give different sensations but I could mostly get used to them and imagine you having quite a bit of fun. On high settings it felt almost abrasive and very strong. I hadn’t realised Miss S was holding it onto me at times, and that it was worse when she wasn’t. I guess the muscle contractions were more widespread and stronger when my cock wasn’t being held. It was interesting. Not sure about pain, but a very different sensation to what I’ve previously felt. I think Bill also felt the same.

Your thumb cuffs were next for me. They were on tight. Miss S I think worried a little, as my thumbs were quite red and a little sore. I still had feeling in them, no pins and needles or other effects, only that it was difficult to do things. A drink was easy, jeans were more difficult. No doubt there are some challenges you could set with them!

The clips on my nipples you applied weren’t too tight or painful, and not as tight as some Miss S had on me at one point. Miss A trying to hit them off was a different matter though as you gathered. The edges of the clips had dug in somewhat, and having them caned off did make them dig in more, and a small cut on both sides. It was very hard to stay still and not move or flinch as she’d directed, for such pain. I would have kept going, but couldn’t not move at all either. These things happen, am a little sore from the cane on my chest but not bad and the small cuts are healing.

The spanking chair was next for me. With jeans Miss A strikes were mostly not painful. I did enjoy then – as for a short time with Miss S – both having a go at once. Miss A I know now can be a hard and strict lady. Your blows there would have been harder than most of hers, other than the 5 she gave me that I counted. That chair could work well with multiple positions Ms Neta!

I must say, I am pleased I wasn’t Martin. He didn’t look too comfortable at different stages once the needles were behind his nipples and SK was twisting and pulling. It was slightly confrontational to see. Not sure how he felt or his experience, but I was impressed by him. Maybe SK is a redback, beautiful as she is? That level I don’t yet wish to try, more acceptance and self control of pain would definitely be needed beforehand.

sub scott.

More PP pics - 13/8/11

One needle in, one to go...

Miss S giving my sub scott a spanking

The three mistresses... again

My sub bill's hot caned and flogged arse

Pics at PP - 13/6/2011

My sub bill enduring...

Having fun flogging my sub bill

A look of nervousness although still looking gorgeous

Three mistresses

Caning by Ms A

My first kinky needles. Yes, the pain was not exquisite but I have now experienced them.

Needles enjoyed by nnet

Note: 13/8/11

Just watching, and listening to, La Boheme (Giacomo Puccini) opera - absolutely stunning voices these Singers have... I am moved.  Pre-relaxation before Play Party this evening.

Will write up the PP tomorrow evening for all to read and enjoy the pics.

Oh and my sissy Tammy is visiting on Tuesday, staying overnight, so I can play with her more extensively and intensely.



~Ms Neta~

Psychology of Humiliation

Humiliation in general touches strong emotional buttons, the more so when it becomes sexualised. Because of this, consent and paradoxically a high degree of awareness and communication is needed, to ensure that the result is desirable rather than abusive. For example, a submissive male may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways.

Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualised by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) ones sexual degradation.

For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, in female domination, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used to submissives, such as "faggot".

As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people remain a fantasy - they would have strong reservations about it being public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. Others do explore humiliation with partners, and many people use online humiliation (where the humiliator and others are involved via the internet using chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other

Self-Discovery

•  I started off naive to the Scene and so surrounded myself with people who I respected only to find they had their own agendas.

• I was adored by many who only wanted to have their needs met but I wasn’t savvy enough to recognise this initially.
• I became bored.
• I eventually came to the realisation I wanted, needed to be surrounded by like-minded sisters.  I wanted to learn more about this Life and how to approach it from an intellectual level rather than a sexual level.
• I wanted to understand what my role meant, and how I could apply this in both aspects of my Life.
• I have come a long way in my three years in the Scene.
• I have been respected, disrespected; adored, dismissed, loved and ridiculed. 
• I have enjoyed highs and endured lows in the local scene and unfortunately due to this my reputation has been tarnished but I am a survivor, and we survivors are tenacious.  I will continue on in the quiet war.
• I have enjoyed some amazing highs from and with interstate and international Kinksters.  It is such an honour.

Carrots, Eggs, & Coffee!..............

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they  had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest  do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

If you don't send it, you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day with this message!

May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!

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Basics of Service

The basic principle of submissive service in a public setting can be summed up in one word: Attentiveness.

Your behavior should reflect your attentiveness to the dominant's needs and desires at all times. Your role is to serve those needs and desires. Is your dominant about to light up a cigarette? Is your dominant's coffee cup empty or has the coffee grown cold? Does he or she need a chair to sit on? Does your dominant have special needs (physical challenges, dietary restrictions)?

It is your job to ensure that the dominant's comforts are served by making any and all appropriate arrangements to make the dominant's life easy. Similarly, it is your joyful task to demonstrate, through your attitude and demeanor, that the dominant's needs come first. Your ability to devotedly serve your dominant is a standard by which others will judge you AND your dominant.

Not only will your attentiveness please your dominant but it will impress those you meet both with your dominant's power and your submissiveness. In other words, you will be a submissive who a dominant is proud to own and one who others will believe is worth ownership.

Some submissives mistake their ability to take a heavy beating as the proof of their devotion. Certainly, it can be a highly erotic type of service to endure heavy pain for your dominant, but what about all those moments when your dominant isn't "doing" you? Are you as good a slave to her (or him) during the quiet moments as you are when your dominant is giving you what you crave?

The following guidelines will help you to convey to your dominant and others that your wish to serve is sincere.

Rules of Public SM Etiquette

1. Call a dominant by the title of her or his choice (e.g., Mistress, Ma'am, Master, Sir, etc.) If you don't know what his or her preference is, ASK.
2. Don't lunge at a dominant, stand too close to him or her, or thrust your hand out in greeting. Wait politely until the dominant greets you or initiates a handshake.
3. You don't need to act like a mouse but it is respectful to periodically lower your eyes in deference to the dominant.
4. The only person who has the right to give you orders is someone to whom you have consensually surrendered control. If such a person gives an order, an appropriate response would be, "Yes, Sir" or "Yes, Ma'am."
5. When an order is given, do your best to comply immediately.
6. If the order pushes a limit, either use your safe word (if you have one), or tell the dominant that you are having a problem and need to talk to him or her.
7. If a dominant wanna-be tries to order you around, an appropriate response would be, "I have not consented to this."
8. Anyone who tries to pressure you into service or tells you it is expected of all submissives should be avoided.
9. Basic rule of thumb: if someone is rude to you, you are under no obligation to be polite to them, even if he or she is a dominant. Clearly he or she is not a good one.
10. Open doors for the dominant and wait until she (or he) passes through before following.
11. Have a lighter or matches handy so you can light a dominant's cigarette or cigar.
12. If the dominant does smoke, discreetly empty the ashtray every so often.
13. Offer to fetch a drink for the dominant.
14. Keep an eye on the dominant's beverage glass and offer to get a refill whenever it is empty.
15. Offer to carry the dominant's coat, equipment bag, or other cumbersome object.
16. When standing beside your dominant, make sure to stand just behind his or her elbow, so that the dominant is slightly in front of you. (Note: some dominants may require that you kneel in attendance.)
17. Do not assume you may take a chair beside your dominant unless she or he has already discussed this with you. Wait until your dominant tells you where to sit. If the dominant gives you no instruction, politely ask where she or he would like you to be.
18. Avoid starting requests with phrases such as "I want" or "I need." Instead, ask for the privilege by starting with: "May I please" or "Mistress/Master, may I have permission to...".
19. If you are in a club or at a party, never bolt away from your dominant's side or give the impression that you would rather be anyplace else but next to your dominant. If something exciting is going on which you are dying to watch, or if you see people you know, ask permission to go.
20. No matter how attractive another dominant may be, when you are in the company of your dominant, control yourself and do not flirt or otherwise express untoward interest in someone else. Even if you are not yet collared or formally owned, if you wish to become owned, you will significantly reduce your chances by acting shallow.
21. Always remember to say "thank you" for every privilege your dominant grants you. For example, if you've received permission to do something, do not charge off like an animal just released from a cage. It gives others the impression that you couldn't wait to leave your dominant's side.
22. Do not argue in public with your dominant. If you are genuinely upset about something which cannot wait until you get home, ask your dominant for permission to discuss it privately and out of earshot of the crowd.

Journal: 11/8/11

Good morning

Its Thursday, the first day to open my folder and study for my Frontline Management course.  Ugh... more study but will be well worth it when I receive that piece of paper in a year's time.

I finished the Census work on Tuesday.

I caught up with my submissive on Wednesday and went shopping to buy some items for my sissy.  That was kind of fun.

I have been thinking about whether I should discontinue my relationship with my submissive due to some issues of late... I am not interested in being brought down but uplifted.  This life is a good life and I wish it to continue on a positive note in all areas of my life.  It is an issue for me to seriously consider, and for him to correct his attitude.  He has been excellent in his service but of late I have not enjoyed the 'negativeness' of his thoughts emerging.  Perhaps, he can rectify this and we can continue on harmoniously.  We'll see.

I finally got the last unit of our VH complex rented.  Unfortunately not a lease but a rental agreement but at least it is now occupied, so it will bring in some income for my workplace.

I am going to send an email to my workplace about being given me a bonus for all the work that was undertaken to sell the units.  I must do that today actually.

Jack, I and the family are off to Sydney next week for a week's holiday.  Very much looking forward to some time away with the family.  Let them go feral in another state. ha ha ha

I bought some lovely lacy lingerie the other day, colourful and feminine.  They enhance me even more that I expected.  Did I mention, I'm hot!

My new glasses look absolutely fabulous on me.  The comments I have received are that they make me look pretty, stunningly hot and very professional.  Its quite amusing as I am still the same Woman but the new accessory has highlighted my lovely face ha ha ha  What a Woman!

Young patrick is seeking my help to find him a mistress in Melbourne but it appears most of the gorgeous Women I know are mainly Pro Dominants and Lifestylers who are already being served.  It looks like he is out of luck.  I did text that I knew of someone who was in their 60s in Melbourne and he turned up his nose at the age.  Aah services was does it really mean to some of these people out there.... I will bump that posting in this month just so people can read and understand, and be honest with themselves about what they really seek in this Life.

I see my second submissive/bottom is progressing well in wanting to please me in his service. I received a wonderful email from him which I have not responded to properly as yet.  He is a surprise, and very smart in this outlook.  I am liking him more and more - I have discovered his inner nerdness as well.

Well these are my thoughts for the day - it is time for me to prepare for my workday as my dogs, the four legged kind, snort around me.

I'll be back this evening with some new thoughts, posts and pics... loving this Life indeed.  Oh I might even start up my exercise again, or not  ;P


~Ms Neta~

Weight

Well its Winter... am I suffering the Winter blues where you hibernate in cooler months, eat, drink, sleep, do not exercise, eat some more until the warmer seasons emerge...

Well, I wasn't suffering from the Winter blues but I do believe I am now... for a short period that is.

I was informed this evening that my weight is a little concerning as it has increased... slightly over the past few months.

My plan always was to recommence exercise and improved diet from 1st September, first day of Spring, but I may have to begin earlier.  :(

When I do recommence exercise and improved diet, it will be for my own benefit rather than for anyone else's desire, and superficial vision of me.

~Ms Neta~
I'm Fucken Hot!

The Submissives' Creed II

I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience. I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Mistress/Master and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm. I will not try to manipulate my Mistress/Master. I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should. I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not accustomed to or comfortable with and expanding my limits. I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being. I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Mistress/Master, and will do my best to fulfill His wishes and desires. I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused, I know that submissive does not equal “doormat”.

I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissives, I will share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that they will learn from where I have been I will take the time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path.

I will be responsive to my Mistress/Master, I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist Him in His responsibilities as my Authority, I know that Dominants are not telepathists, and will not expect my Mistress/Master to know thought or feelings which I do not share.

I will never think myself a “better” submissive because I choose to submit on a different level than another. I will not be boastful of experiences I have had as a sub. I know that my actions reflect upon my Mistress/Master, and will do my best to help others see him in a positive way, I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Mistress/Master.

Above all, I will wear my title of submissive with honor, I will never cause others to think that being submissive means to be weak or sub~human. I will take pride in who and what I am, and will never show myself in a negative way.