Attracting a Dominant

Obeying even simple directives is the thing that catches my eye first. Answering any questions I ask honestly is also important. Showing you have a grasp of reality is another thing that will get you past the "why are you bothering me" stage.Here are a few generic do not ever do if you want to catch the eye of a female dominant.

1.      Do not say "anything you want" if she asks you what you enjoy having done to you. If she did not want to really know what you enjoy she would not have asked.

2.      If given an assignment DO IT the way she has directed. She is looking to see if you can obey or even want to obey. An example of this is: Order: Send me a fantasy that will be able to be done in real life easily that involves serving and does not involve any sex act. So far 99% of the subs told to do that end up sending something that involves "servicing" a gang of Dommes or being paraded in drag all over the place. Not one has had the smarts to fantasise about doing laundry, washing the car, mowing the lawn. In other words Dommes want to know if you see "service" as only sex or as making her life easier.

3.      Do NOT go on and on and on about how you can please her sexually. Believe me when I say a Hitachi vibrator is much better than any male can ever hope to be. It is always there when you want it, does things the way you want it done and never runs out of energy.

4.      If you do not understand what she is telling you to do ASK for clarification. That shows you have the ability to think. Doing something the way you think she wants it done when you are not sure what was meant is simply stupid.

5.      Do not send the same introduction to a list of 20 Dommes in your area at the same time. Believe me Dommes network much better than you can ever dream of. If you hit on all of them at the same time it will take the maximum of about 3 days (if that long) for you to be identified as a "wanker" for that very reason.

6.      Be polite and understand that "no" is an answer you are going to get often. If you write back a nasty reply to someone who is not interested in you it will get around quickly. (see rule number 5).

7.      Offer things that will make her life easier in person. Learn to cook, clean, do car maintance, landscaping and anything else you can think of tha will free her time up so she can relax.Another thing is learn to talk to her about things that do not center around sex and how often you want/need it or your burning desire to be in chastity. Learn about music, books, current events (sports are not the only current event out there). Show her you are a well rounded companion as well as a sub/slave.

8.      Do NOT come at this with the mental attitude of "if I do this or that she will play with me". That shows up very quickly in how things are done and we are NOT unpaid pro-Dommes. By that I mean unless SHE suggests you clean her garage and then she will beat you, offer service without expectaion of being "served" in return. You will get a positive reaction very quickly if your attitude is one of service not of barter.

9.      Ask HER what SHE wants and then do it quietly, effeciently and cheerfully. You will definately get positive attention by showing that mind set.

10.  Follow the above suggestions and you will be beating Dommes off with a stick. I am sure the Ladies here can add to this list but at least you now have an idea of what is truly seductive to a Domme.

~Author Unknown~  and a big thank you to the Author!!