This is how I perceive you...

Wow, that's a pretty loaded question.... I also know how you feel about protocol. So as you can see my honesty maybe somewhat squeezed, shaded. I will tread carefully. Still, that said I have a healthy respect for you so more than happy to muse.

I once said you were a Nubian Goddess. I meant it. You are an awe inspiring women and all things aside and in a physically centred daydreamy male minded world there is not much I would not be prepared to do with you if you so wished. You truly are magnificent. Mentally though I think we both play to a different tune and although you were one of the first I approached it soon became apparent we wanted to play by quite different rules.

You are a beautiful woman who can inspire men and woman around you alike. You are active in the scene, helping making kink a reality for others. Your guiding, supportive hand something I myself have to be thankful for. For this and you I have nothing but respect. Also your joy of kink is a beautiful thing to see. Enthusiasm is a specialty, an inquiring mind a real joy. It is true I don't agree with all your ideas, kink related and otherwise, but this is in small part to the whole, and hey if we all agreed it would be a boring world. Oh and lets not forget one important point, a friend.

This is how I perceive you.

Hunger

Hunger? I am not sure I have the energy to do your question justice. In part it is a deep, dark, guttural animal thing dwelling within me. A requirement to breath in a way I have never allowed myself to breath before. In part it is a deep carnal desire, to taste flesh, to drink deep. In part abject loneliness and a need for intimacy that leaves me in an abyss, a dark, empty void.

THIS... is amazing!! The animalistic yearning is beautiful.

The difference...

Tell me, slave, what is the difference between a submissive and slave? And please give it some thought once you research the definitions.

Ms Neta,

I am once again apologetic for the time it has taken me to give you a reply. I have looked up and done quite some research on these definitions, and through reading the traditional dictionary meaning and reading other peoples opinion on this I have summed up my own definition and meanings of the differences between the two.

I believe before one can become a slave that they first must be a sub, and know the true values that this takes on. Once you realise your submissiveness you must then find a dominant to relinquish it too and release all control to the dominant and become there "slave". It is my belief that a bond between a submissive and a dominant and the power exchanged between the two. Is one of the most special and enlightening things a human being can do. In summing up A submissive is someone who is firstly only born a submissive and knows this from a young age and vice versa with a dominant. As a submissive it is always your longing to release your control to a dominant and become a slave. But not by traditional meaning as in a slave by force. But mutual exchange of control and power shift.

Sincerely

Slave

Submission is not a gift...

Submission is not a gift.
it is not wrapped up in a pretty ribbon and perfect folds
it is intense and sometimes ugly in its raw form
It is bound in the will of the sacrifice
Tried by tears of pain, effort and truth
Once you let go and open yourself up
once you are stripped and naked
You are chained to a need, bound by it
and its stronger than any collar around a neck
more seductive than any poetic words or charm
To submit to it is to give one person
the power to completely destroy you.
To surrender to it, to accept it and to ultimately love it.
And in turn to find the strength to not fear
but to trust that person not to destroy you
For them to love you for your beauty and strength in the act
to respect and appreciate your sacrifice
and to bind it to his own will.

~Author Unknown~

As it should be...

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”(unknown).

ClubFEM Tasmania

I am having a relaxing weekend with my family.  The weather is dreadful but the warmth is great inside my Abode.

I am in the process of planning my first event for ClubFEM Tasmania and thus far I have 11 confirmed attendances.

I  have to laugh though.  Most of my males members are too scared to attend the CFNM event because "ooh, they have to be naked in front of Female Dominants".  Talk about pretend submissives/slaves.  Bloody pathetic in my opinion.  These boys oh so what to serve a Dominant but only in private not in at a private party because "oh some one might know them, or their will be cock comparisons and they will feel inadequate, or its so humiliating".  STREWTH... what is wrong with these pathetic creatures.

The main thing is I have 4 male submissives who are happy to be serving us Dominant Women as best they can in their naked glory.  Its going to be a most extraordinary event.

The night will also involve service and protocol discussions.  The boys serve, the Mistresses/Dominants receive their service.

The first of many events I hope.

Have a great night, people.

Head Mistress Neta

Real Service

Thank you to Ms Lyn for creating this... you are an amazing woman!!!

***

Read and Learn, viewers.  You may shrug it off as bullshit but SERVICE is very important to me, and many other Dominants and submissives/slaves.

***

I ran across this article several months ago posted it for discussion elsewhere because it was like manna from heaven for me. Seems that it could bear repeating, since some seem to be a little confused as to what the term "service" actually means...

What do you mean when you offer to serve? What do you mean when you offer to BE of service? What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude?

Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of you being bound helplessly while being exquisitely tortured, teased to the verge of orgasm?

Do you envision some Amazon Goddess sporting a huge strap-on taking you anally?
Do you envision yourself prancing around in some French Maid Costume and being asked to provide oral service to a Mistress?

Do you envision some woman sqatting over your helplessly bound body "forcing" you to serve her orally?
Or do you envision being put over her knee and spanked like a naughty little boy?

Yes, nice visions aren't they? However, not one of those visions is the definition of "serve", "service" or "servitude".

Oh, I'm sure many subs consider them to be just that, but if you check your dictionaries you won't find any mention of French Maid Costumes, bondage, strap-ons, oral sex, or any other fetish you may enjoy.

In fact you won't find any mention of fetishes at all in the definitions

Serve is defined as:

1. to work for, be a servant
2. to act in a specific capacity
3. to place food before, wait on
4. to be of assistance to

Service is defined as:

1. the occupation or duties of a servant
2. the act or means of serving
3. duties performed as an occupation

Servitude is defined as:

Submission to a master; slavery
When you offer to serve a FemDom, what you are offering (or should be offering) is the surrender of your control. You should know her well enough to trust her with your life. When you offer your servitude to her, you are telling her that you trust her judgment, you trust her to keep you safe from harm, you trust her to know what is best for both of you, you trust her decisions and desire to follow her orders and obey her in all things.

Your offer of service is your ability to let go of your ego and your free will (control) and allow her to control you.

Serving is, first and foremost, the act of making her life easier. It is compliance with all her desires, wishes, orders. Yes, BD/SM and fetish play, more than likely, will be included as part of the relationship. But overall, the D/s aspect of the relationship will be where you have turned your control over to her and you do as she says. It is about pampering her and catering to her.
Everyday life will be a part of this, for most people do have to work, bills do have to be paid, people need to see doctors occasionally, and dentists. Then there are family get togethers, family emergencies, social gatherings with vanilla friends and also with D/s friends. For the most part, life will seem pretty vanilla, but there will be one difference. IF you have truly submitted, then your actions will be measured by how your Mistress would feel about it. Your decisions will be based upon what you are allowed, or not allowed to decide without her permission. You will treat others with respect, but especially other women. You will consider that your actions would reflect back upon your Mistress, and therefore act in a manner that would make her proud of you. There may be other constant reminders, she may insist you wear panties under your clothes at work. But you will always remember that you have submitted to her and will honor that commitment.

How can you serve your Mistress - what are the ways?

Here are some suggestions:
-Make sure her home is clean and neat.
-Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.
-Prepare her favorite foods for her.
-Prepare her bath.
-Rub her feet after she comes in from working all day.
-Offer her a massage if her day was very stressful.
-Offer to do her manicure and pedicure.
-Have her favorite music playing or find her favorite show or movie on TV.
-Surprise her with flowers.
-Serve her coffee as soon as she gets up in the morning.
-Ask what clothing she wants laid out for her.
These are just a few of the ways you can serve her once you have been trained in what she wants and likes. Don't be afraid to use your imagination to surprise her (provided of course that she has no problem with you doing this occasionally).
A happy, contented, pleased, relaxed woman is a woman who will then have no problem torturing you, using you, or even indulging you with a fetish or two that are your favorites…………just to show you how much she really appreciates your service and submission to her.
So, what are you offering?
Personal service only (oral, massage, bathing)?
Play sessions only (spankings, facesitting, strap-on, whippings, cbt)?
Domestic service only (household chores, errands)?
OR are offering the whole package?
These are the things you need to be clear about in your own mind first and foremost before approaching a Mistress and offering to "serve" her. Along with how committed you wish to be to the D/s relationship, if at all.
MsLyn

New belt

Hello and good afternoon, I'm in the mood to tease - I have just received my new six strapped suspender belt although I can't quite see all six straps - damn.  Here are some pics to share anyway... just a hint, just a tease, just a glimpse...

 

OK I found a couple more pics that show the six strap suspender belt being appreciation by a young admirer who has finally got to explore his hidden kinkiness.

 

Scene: 21/4/12

Last night, I visited my submissive as I normally do most times.  I arrived and was met by my naked submissive with a big smile.  He greeted me as per his usual ritual.  I went off to get dressed in something more comfortable then was handed my glass of white wine.

Our dinner was to be KFC as I had the urge for something greasy and delicious.  I was served my food, whilst my submissive sat on the floor at my feet and we both ate together and chatted our the usual Kink events.

Next, it was time for setting up our planned plan.

Tonight was Flogging and then Strap On play.  My submissive was feeling extremely excited about tonight's planned activities.

The music used was FatBoy Slim playing at the Brighton Beach concert.  Fabulous soundtrack.  Very motivating.

I placed the wrist restraints on my submissives, tied him up to the ceiling rope.  Next I placed on the spreader bar so his feet were in a good position.  It was 8.05pm.  The music commenced.  Nipple clamps were placed on his his very sensitive nipples.  He considers these a foe.

We commenced the flogging..  It was so intense and exhilarating.  For ONE HOUR I flogged my submissive with two 1 minute breaks for a glass of water for us both.  It was energetic fun believe you me!!

At 8.20pm I removed the nipple clamps.

At 9.10pm, I removed his wrist restraints and my submissive fell immediately to my feet and kissed my hand in appreciation.

He then got up to bring me my glass of wine and water.  Liquid was served.  Next we chatted about how he was feeling.  His words were he was feeling EXHILARATED by the whole flogging scene.  The music coupled with my impact talent took him to a pleasurable high.

At 9.30pm it was time for some Strap On play.  My submissive set up the room, tightened my Strap On harness which held my 9inch strap on cock  encased in a condom.  He is so prepared.

My boy fell into position - doggy style - and I inserted lubricant in preparation for a nice arse fucking.

Slowly, I pushed the cock into his bitch arse and he squealed slightly.  I had him then push back onto the cock until he was comfortable to take it fully.  It took him 5 minutes to get used to being stretched.  He fucked my Strap On cock and he was feeling all sorts of orgasmic anal pleasure.  Eventually I decided to go hard on him and proceeded to pummel his bitch arse with my nice long pink strap on cock.  Its very veiny and delicious feeling for him.

I fucked my submissive for 25 minutes because that is all he could handle... it was too much pleasure for him. We both had fun.  I always enjoy when he collapses to the bed and can't take any more.  I decided to have him come back onto my cock so I could pummel him a couple more times.  I counted to ten and loved his squirming and whimpering at the pleasure and pain he was experiencing.

Afterwards it was my turn to be pampered.  My feet and legs were spoiled with peppermint cream all the while I listened to Blues music.  Aah so nice to have such an attentive boy.  He spoils his Mistress as his Mistress spoils him.

Hope you like the pics of my Strap On cock and and its insertion into my submissive's bitch arse.  He is a lovely being to anally fuck!!

Good Evening: 22/4/12

Good evening everyone, its been a most relaxing day after an intensive evening last night.  Just stopping by to say hello to all my viewers...before I write up about my play with my submissive last night.  Meanwhile, enjoy the boots!

Ms Neta

Signs submissive males may exhibit...

Perhaps a generalised list but it may give you clues to look out for on traits for possible submissive males  :)

1. Offers to give You a foot or hand massage;
2. Surreptitious glances at your body, and quickly turns away when caught looking;
3. Shows a deeper interest in your hair, make up, shoes and clothes;
4. Acts mildly submissive in small ways, such as letting You lead when walking hand in hand, or is willing to sit at your feet while watching TV, chatting or reading;
5. Calls You nicknames that show authority, such as Goddess, Queen, Princess, Boss, Ms;
6. Responds eagerly to your requests, sometimes guessing in advance what it is that You might need (anticipatory service);
7. Shows a great deal of interest in a strong, powerful Woman seen on TV, magazines (media);

Note: 14/4/12 (8206)

I have been advised my nemesis has returned.  I knew they could not keep away as the life is too addictive, I'm too addictive.


Onwards and Upwards, I say.

Approached

I have been approached by two local submissive males in one week - one in his early 20s, and the other in his 40s.

What's interesting is they're both "do me's"  -  they have approached me both respectfully but its clearly about obtaining some form of sex from me; one for Strap On fucking, and the other for pure wild and selfless fucking.

Not many are truly interested in submission... well, that's not true, their form of submission is real to them and so be it, however, it is not the form of submission I seek from a submissive male.  Submit to me because you want to for no other reason than to serve because it makes you happy therefore fulfilling both of us.  I dominate, you submit... and not just in the bedroom.  All the time.

They have both described me as sexy, big breasted and hot with the Strap On.  Do I seem bored by these superficialities... yes, they bore me because I want to be involved in conversation where there is some depth.  

Yes, I post pics of me looking sexy and dominant, however, this does not mean I am looking to find boys just to Strap On fuck or fuck in the 'vanilla' sense.  I look for boys who can stimulate me intellectually before anything else Kink-related.  Alas, it seems difficult to find these types.

 I just wanted to write my thoughts down about the phenomenon of males approaching me for their own selfish reasons and not really understanding what submission is... the giving of themselves fully to a Dominant Woman in a selfless way.

Gorgeous new item...

6 Strap Suspender Belt

Awaiting its arrival.

Please Hear What I'm Not Saying

Please Hear What I'm Not Saying
Don't be fooled by me.
Don't be fooled by the face I wear
for I wear a mask, a thousand masks,
masks that I'm afraid to take off,
and none of them is me.

Pretending is an art that's second nature with me,
but don't be fooled,
for God's sake don't be fooled.
I give you the impression that I'm secure,
that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well
as without,
that confidence is my name and coolness my game,
that the water's calm and I'm in command
and that I need no one,
but don't believe me.
My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask,
ever-varying and ever-concealing.
Beneath lies no complacence.
Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness.
But I hide this. I don't want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed.
That's why I frantically create a mask to hide behind,
a nonchalant sophisticated facade,
to help me pretend,
to shield me from the glance that knows.

But such a glance is precisely my salvation, my only hope,
and I know it.
That is, if it's followed by acceptance,
if it's followed by love.
It's the only thing that can liberate me from myself,
from my own self-built prison walls,
from the barriers I so painstakingly erect.
It's the only thing that will assure me
of what I can't assure myself,
that I'm really worth something.
But I don't tell you this. I don't dare to, I'm afraid to.
I'm afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance,
will not be followed by love.
I'm afraid you'll think less of me,
that you'll laugh, and your laugh would kill me.
I'm afraid that deep-down I'm nothing
and that you will see this and reject me.

So I play my game, my desperate pretending game,
with a facade of assurance without
and a trembling child within.
So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks,
and my life becomes a front.
I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk.
I tell you everything that's really nothing,
and nothing of what's everything,
of what's crying within me.
So when I'm going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I'm saying.
Please listen carefully and try to hear what I'm not saying,
what I'd like to be able to say,
what for survival I need to say,
but what I can't say.

I don't like hiding.
I don't like playing superficial phony games.
I want to stop playing them.
I want to be genuine and spontaneous and me
but you've got to help me.
You've got to hold out your hand
even when that's the last thing I seem to want.
Only you can wipe away from my eyes
the blank stare of the breathing dead.
Only you can call me into aliveness.
Each time you're kind, and gentle, and encouraging,
each time you try to understand because you really care,
my heart begins to grow wings--
very small wings,
very feeble wings,
but wings!

With your power to touch me into feeling
you can breathe life into me.
I want you to know that.
I want you to know how important you are to me,
how you can be a creator--an honest-to-God creator--
of the person that is me
if you choose to.
You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble,
you alone can remove my mask,
you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic,
from my lonely prison,
if you choose to.
Please choose to.

Do not pass me by.
It will not be easy for you.
A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.
The nearer you approach to me
the blinder I may strike back.
It's irrational, but despite what the books say about man
often I am irrational.
I fight against the very thing I cry out for.
But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls
and in this lies my hope.
Please try to beat down those walls
with firm hands but with gentle hands
for a child is very sensitive.
Who am I, you may wonder?
I am someone you know very well.
For I am every man you meet
and I am every woman you meet.

Charles C. Finn
September 1966

You will return...

Hey boy, you know you are still craving me and you will return sooner than later.  You have had a taste of what this Kink life is about and no way are you going to ever enjoy 'vanilla' life the way you did before you crossed my path.

I'll be seeing you, or most definitely hearing from you soon, boy.  And, I do speak the truth. 

~Ms Neta~

Watching (8087)

Soooooooo, I know you are watching me my devoted stalker.  And, I know its because you truly do love me even though you deny it and use the word 'hate' to describe your singleminded passion for me but deep down you know its love, sick love.  I feel sorry for your S.O. 

You silly man child... you, I'm forever ingrained in your mind... your pain must be so great not to be able to interact with me any more.  I know you will return because you can't help yourself.  See you soon, silly little man child

Saturday, 07/4/12

 I visited my submissive to conduct some rope bondage play.

We undertook our usual rituals, then got on with the rope bondage.

My bill provided me with some various lengths of rope to choose from so I could try some bondage I had seen in a photograph on FL.

I started with a loop, and proceeded to tie my submissive slowly around and around.  He was certainly secure by the time I had finished.  It was my first time trying this particular bondage and so it was not perfect but it was secure and enjoyable for us both.

Three types of ropes were used because this particular bondage required numerous lengths of rope.  By the time I had finished, I was a little tired but quite satisfied with the result.

Bill lay on the floor for a while to revel in his security.  We chatted about many things, even, favourite 80s action heroes.  

After hour an hour, I released him from his bondage… well actually, he did a Houdini and got himself out of the bondage with just a little assistance from me.  It was fun to watch and he was having a ball struggling to release the bonds.

Have some refreshments it was time for some foot, leg, shoulder massage.  One my feet, the product used was peppermint cream and it does wonders for my hard working feet.  Later other areas of Ms Neta's body were pampered with massage creams and I was very much relaxed by the end of the devotional attention of my submissive bill.  We listened to blues music, drank sparkling wine, ate fruit and chatted about various subjects.  It was, as always, a most enjoyable evening with my submissive. 

Welcome

I trust you are enjoying my blog.

background provided by l_t_bitch

A Strong Woman

A Strong Woman

is one who feels deeply

and loves fiercely

her tears flow just as abundantly

as her laughter….

A Strong Woman

is both soft and powerful

she is both practical and spiritual…

A Strong Woman

in her essence

is a gift to the World

Journal: 4/4/12

I have today off, and I am extremely pleased because the past few months have been too busy with my course, and workplace responsibilities.

Today in Hobart is a beautiful day.

I have been doing some domestic duties, namely, washing.  Ugh.  I have arranged the laundry to be more manageable as Jack was the sole keeper of undertaking the washing but it has recently become overwhelming for him so I have taken it back.  Time to get this place back in order.

I am watching the Final Destination movies at the moment - just watching the major accident scenes - such a good series. In between folding washing and enjoying the sunny day.  Plenty of Vitamin D for me.

I have been feeling absent for a long while... absent in presence and mind however I am hoping this will subside soon enough so I can enjoy everyone and everything in my Kinky realm.

If you do not see me around much, you will see me soon enough.  Don't fret... Ms Neta is here.

FDCT Drinkies: 3/4/12 (7728)

Well it was our Drinkies for the FemDom Club.  We met at T42 and it was most enjoyable.  The venue was terrific, the music warm and sensually throbbing, the company varied and lovely.  Yes it was a good night.

I have to say this is one of the better FDCT gatherings we have had in a long time.

Miss V, Miss S, SK, GB, ouimistress, WB, tokugawa, drrkmind, lt bitch, Miss Z and myself were all present and dressed to impressed. 

We chatted about various things from cooking to Strap On play.  Very entertaining indeed.

I was not 100% well but endeavoured to converse with people when I felt it was necessary. 

Overall, we all had a fantastic night although I did leave a little earlier than usual but that's OK, everyone else kicked on and had more of a good time.

~Ms Neta~

Meet up with Interstate Visitor: 2/4/12

On 2/4/12 at 6.30pm I met out with ouimistress.

Tall, salt and pepper hair colour, kind, open face and charming personality, well-read, intelligent and articulate. 

We had a drink at the Grape bar which was very trendy with a warm atmosphere.

ouimistress and I chatted for about an hour and realised we were both hungry.  We both decided to find a place to eat.  We went to an OK cafe in Salamanca Square and had a nice enough meal.  The music and company was terrific.

We chatted and enjoyed each other's company for another hour or so.

About 8.30pm, I decided it was time for us to leave.  Ms Neta really needed an early night.  I dropped ouimistress off to his hotel in the city and continued on home.

It is so wonderful to meet a submissive who totally embraces his submissiveness.  No airs about him at all.  He knows what he is, who he is and is a believer of FemDom... no pretenses at all.  Finally, someone genuine who seeks company with likeminded but is comfortable in his vanilla life as well. 

Thank you ouimistress for your delightful company.  Such a shame you did not get to meet my submissive.  We'll see you in Canberra next month.

Flogging Scene: 30/3/12

 On Friday, 30^th April, I visited my submissive for the evening.

Our plan for the evening involved chat, dinner, flogging scene and aftercare.

I arrived at 5.00pm and was greeted by my submissive, naked, kneeling, smiling.

I was provided with a glass of wine, then my submissive sat down at my feet whilst we chatted about events for an hour.

Dinner was served at 6.00pm.  A lovely potato bake with roast chicken throughout.  Most enjoyable meal as my submissive sat down at my feet eating his food.

We relaxed for a while.  I then watched my submissive set up the room, set out my floggers and prepare the area for our scene.  He also assisted me in tightening me up in my new outfit.  At 8.15pm, once my submissive was placed in arm suspension, we commenced our flogging session.

I proceeded with the purple friend, moved on to the rubber foe, then to the red friend and then to the purple net foe which looks like a friend but is truly a foe now.  I alternated between floggers and hearing my submissive whimper, and hearing his tears made me wet.

The only criticism I have about this planned scene was the music.  I felt it did not quite connect us in this scene and so it was a little ‘off’ for us both.  I did not quite feel complete but it was still enjoyable enough.

I will enjoy I have the right music for impact play in two weeks’ time.

I flogged my submissive for one hour.  It was intense and then it was INTENSE at times.

We finished our flogging scene at 9.15pm.  Our aftercare commenced.  This involved discussing how my submissive was feeling.  He was trying to understand why he feels such sadness after an intense scene together.  He cannot comprehend why his Mistress cares for him yet inflicts great pain on him.  He does not understand that his giving of pain, giving himself to me, brings me pleasure and that is what I sought from him.  It is still about my submissive it appears… it is not about me completely.  His thoughts cross into vanilla thinking rather that remaining in the D/s thinking.  This will take time but I will need to enslave him more… in time.

We have agreed, yes, he has consented, that we will increase our impact play in order to densenitise my submissive against what it is we do.  The in-between scenes, he will be rewarded with bondage and strap on play…activities he particularly enjoys ;)  generous aren’t I?  *smiles and winks*

Next, I received my aftercare.  A foot and leg rub.  Next, some pampering worship.  It was, as always, very enjoyable.

My submissive gave me a lovely bunch of flowers as I departed for the evening.  He is a beautiful soul who still struggles at time with his submission… but he does do fabulously majority of the time!!