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As it should be...

Departure 6/4/15

Good morning People

Just a little note that I will be gone for a month.

I will return once the project I am working on has been completed.

Meanwhile, don't forget to view my other blogs for your viewing and reading pleasure, and if you have already done that, well, re-read them again.

I do hope you are all enjoying the Easter break, and getting your kink on.  Always important to balance out your life - 100% vanilla is just not exciting, in my opinion.

See you all in the near future  :)

Mistress Neta

Journal 19/3/15

Good evening Folks
Another long day but low key compared with my past couple of days.

It is my day off tomorrow so I am looking forward to study.  Yes, I am studying again - vanilla study - that is.  I hope to finish this Certificate by June just to add to my business repertoire.

My kink life is going along quietly.  Not too much happening but at the same time, there is always something happening.

My boys are worshipping me well, and their commitment to me is strong.  I am in the process of training a new person...I will see where it takes us as he is new to the Kink world but keen to be part of my realm, my Queendom.

My family are growing up quickly and I am pleased to say they keep me 'young'.  My animals are beautiful but growing older and I sometimes get a sense of panic knowing they won't be with me forever.  I will enjoy them as often as I can as they do bring much joy into my life.

I have ceased the volunteer duties I was undertaking on Sundays (approx 3 years of service) due to my disappointment in the new management, and their new processes in caring for their clientele.

My workplace is in a state of flux and there are employment opportunities ahead for me in the next month.

I have decided to visit the hairdressers next week to have my hair styled like I used to and bring the spring back into person.

This blog will not be as active as I have my other blogs I tend to frequent however this one  will be used to post any pertinent info I'd like to share with others, and just fill you in on the goings-on of Mistress Neta's world...when time permits.

Sending you all fluffy hugs, Everyone.

:))

Domination; mental versus physical.

This not my writing but I had to share with you on Lex's perspective about "mental versus physical domination"

Written by Lex

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Those that know me, know that on a regular basis (okay, on a weekly basis), I often ask people if they have any ideas for topics for me to write about. That these questions often coincide with the day that I am actually writing is in no way suggesting that I am actually struggling to find a topic at the time. It merely means that, as a blogger I like to write about things that I think my audience would like to hear, although I do also write in what I love to write about. Trust me, I am, I mean strong minded enough not to write about something that does not hold my interest at all.

So when the opportunity was given to write a blog about mental domination/control versus physical forms, I thought that was a brilliant opportunity to put my words and thoughts onto (virtual) paper. This was originally supposed to be last week blog post but decided the rant was almost fun to write and since it was a lot longer than I intended to be, I figured it would serve as a blog post.

A lot of people in Second Life and to an extend I suppose in real life as well, is make the mistake that one needs to control the body before the mind follows. Which means that physical play tend to be on the forefront. Cuffs, whippings, spankings, bondage. And don’t get me wrong these are all quite good fun in their own right.

However, there is another school of thought. One that I personally subscribe to. This is that the mind needs to be controlled first, and only then the body will follow. And by controlling the mind, you create a longer and stronger bond then when you just tie someone up. Of course this all hinges on the assumption that you want to create that kind of bond with a submissive.

As always the following will be just my opinion (and possible those whom happen to agree with me), and there is no true way, except those that works for the people you are involved with. Also this is not a write up about what way is better according to me. I wanted to present and highlight the different types or styles that are out there. So with my usual standard disclaimer out of the way, let’s see where this will take us and what is involved:

Okay, so first of all, let us kick this off with trying to at least in some way to define what we are talking about. Physical and mental domination are by and large just terms. And by just terms means that since a large part of the terminology within BDSM comes down to semantics and frame of reference someone has, there are often similar terms for the same activities. Other therms that are used to describe the same activity I am writing about are sexual versus non-sexual BDSM play.

Physical domination is perhaps the easiest to kick off with because this is something that most people have some experience with. This is the act of controlling someone through  physical means. This could be just pure strength (think for example the classic pinning of arms above your head or behind your back), or through other means, such as restraints such as rope, cuffs.

But there is more to physical domination than just restraining someone. Because there is a whole area of play that covers this, including of course impact play. In short, physical domination involves some form of physical contact to control the submissive.

In mental domination, physical contact is not there. The submissive does what the dominant asks by the sheer power of their (the dominants) mind and their (the submissives) will to please. Now that sounds very heavy handed but in reality as anything it comes in a many shades and levels.

Mental domination could be as simple as the dominant telling you to stay and not move as they leaves the room, expecting you to be in the same position and same posture when they return. However again, much like with physical domination, mental domination knows many applications. After all the sub-disciplines (really, pun not intended) of mental domination include such wonderful activities as mind fucks (or head games), humiliation, hypnosis to name a few.

So with the above in mind why do I think that mental domination has a stronger effect (or at least on me) then physical domination? Well I guess in part it is just that because it is the way I tick or am wired. I am not even going to touch on the whole nature versus nurture aspect. And the above does not even mean that I dislike physical domination. I am mean, this is me we are talking about, bondage anyone?

The truth of the matter for me is this: I think that mental domination can create longer lasting, deeper bonds that lead ultimately to more fulfilling relationships. Of course a good relationship has everything in balance and as such, so must be the mix between mental and physical domination and control.

But, in my case, if someone managed to snag my mind, and strings it along there is a lot more that I am willing to do for them and for them to do to me as opposed when someone just ties me up. Sure tying up is fun. Enormous, ridiculous amounts of fun actually. But just slapping restraints on me, and then walking away without anything of a deeper connection, without any interaction, without feeling one mind pushing against another, it just is not there.

And this is what I mean, once you have someones mind captivated, their body will be stimulated. The brain is really the biggest sex organ out there and capable of so much. And yes, the counter argument that it is possible to overstimulate the brain so that it, in a way, temporarily shuts down but while people may return to experience that feeling again, there is an easier chance to step away from that, whilst with mental domination the pull one can exert on the brain is much larger  and thus creating, in my opinion a deeper reaction, both mentally and physically from the submissive.

There is one more reason why I prefer mental domination above physical. As you all know, I do visit the world of Second Life, which was of course how this blog was given form in the first place. But in an online world, be that Second Life, World of Warcraft, IRC, Yahoo Chat to name a few possibilities, the physical element is just not entirely there. Someone can roleplay spanking you, and if you have been spanked in your life you can probably recall the feeling in your mind and the associated reaction that you may have to it.

In this case, mental domination really comes into its own strength. If you can control someones mind and make them go along, you know that you have a good connection with your submissive, and you have a start of a relationship where you now can build on and work on deepening the submission.

As you may have noticed, I have not really touched upon the techniques that these different school of thoughts deploy. I do that for a specific reason. For one, I think there are other sites that are much more suited to that than my blog. and secondly; some people are better schooled in these techniques and how to use them. Above all, I think that the methods used are highly dependent on the relationship you are in at any given time. What works for one submissive, may just not work for an other and just totally backfire for the third.

My week

Good evening All
I have had a busy day.  I have been given two employment options from an organisation I am currently working for.

So, I wrote my application over the weekend, and undertook some investigation at the organisation I may be working.

Many people recognised me and queried whether I was looking to join them.  I smiled and kept my responses neutral.

I like the feel of the place, and have decided to put forward an application which I was informed would be considered favourably.

We also have an audit next week so my focus is to ensure all documentation is all in order prior to inspection.  So, people, a lot of stress has fallen on my shoulders this week.  Next Wednesday roll on where I can rest, and focus on the Spanking Party I have arranged for the 28th of March.

My blogs

Hi All
These are my blogs for your wicked viewing.  Actually they are quite tame, nothing too insane going on in them  :)


http://msnetaerotica.blogspot.com.au/ 

http://msneta.blogspot.com.au/

http://mznetadomain.blogspot.com.au/

http://mistressnetadomain.blogspot.com.au/

http://clubfemtasmania.blogspot.com.au/

No censoring

Hi Everyone
It appears Blogger, due to thousands of users protesting against the censoring policy for bloggers, is no longer going to take any action.

THANK FUCKEN GODDESS FOR THAT!!

So, people I will continue to blog my usual stuff when time permits!


Mistress Neta

ANNOUNCEMENT: Going private... shortly

Good evening

It appears that effective 23 March 2015, any sexual content in my blog will be censored by BLOGGER.

The alternative is to remove the sexually explicit content or change my blogs to private setting. 

I have decided to turn my blogs to PRIVATE SETTING in a week’s time.

If you wish to continue to follow my blogs, comment on this post leaving your email addy and I will add you into the private settings, otherwise, I bid you all farewell.  And, thanks for following.

Ms / Mz / Mistress Neta

~ With Dark Romance in Mind… always ~

Upcoming kink party

Looking forward to attending the local scene play party next weekend.

I always enjoy being around kinksters.

My friend, sub bill, will be attending with me so that will be fun.  

When I attend these play parties, I tend to get requests from the male kinksters to be spanked or flogged.  I don't mind topping at the play parties, and I just do not like it in relationships.  Its irksome, and the dynamic feels false.

Look forward to sharing more about the evening, after the event.

Weekend

Good evening

I drove up to Launceston this weekend to spend some time with my Kink Sister, Cat.

I left Saturday morning and arrived at 1pm and had lunch and caught up on all the gossip regarding my Sister's life.

It was just lovely enjoy the companionship of my Kink Sister.  She is such a lovely woman.

We had turkish for dinner, ordinary, compared to Melbourne turkish cuisine.  Aah well.  We then retired on the couch to chat further, watch the Bird Cage movie and laugh out loud whilst watching it.  Its great to laugh. 

Today, we went to Festivale, an annual event in Launceston where excellent quality foods and drinks are presented at the event along with music entertainment.  The grounds where the event was held was delightful.  

We ate mussels, enjoyed a lovely desert of fresh raspberries and cream, and meringue and berries.  Bloody delicious.

We left at 12.00pm and went back to my Sister's residence and drank a cuppa, chatted some more and then I packed up to leave for Hobart.  I left at 1.00pm and arrived in Hobart at 4.00pm.

What a beautiful weekend.  It was restful and stress-free.

Festivale

Off to Launceston this weekend to catch up with my Kink Sister, and attend Festivale.

Very much looking forward to getting away from Hobart.  Hanging out with my Sister, and going to Festivale for the first time.  I viewed the guide and there are a lot of things happening.  A variety of food, drink, entertainment, music and people.

Looking forward to the nice drive by myself tomorrow listening to my music whilst deep in thought.

Have a nice weekend All.

Journal - 10/2/15

Good evening All
Tuesday night and I am resting in my favourite chair watching some television with Jack.

I am relatively relaxed.  Its a nice state to be in.

I have a few things coming up over the next few days.

I am off to Launceston this weekend.  Attending Festivale with my Sister, my Kink Sister, which will be a fun time.

This Friday, I am attending 50 Shades of Grey with the local kink group.  Again this should be interesting although not too thrilled by it but I fell I should see it just so I am enlightened, or is that aware, of what the story line is all about.  Of course its based around a male dominant / female submissive relationship which IS NOT my thing but for 'educational' or 'amusement' purposes, I will view it with likeminded.

Work life has been busy and enjoyable.  I look forward to seeing what this year holds for me.

I have joined a couple of other kink sites.  Haven't come across too many idiots thus far so that's a relief.  Nothing worse when I have to deal with those fools.  The majority of the males have been respectful, but sadly, interstate or overseas.  Not many local boys available, or around, or interested in accepting pain or performing domestic service.  Its all about the sex it seems... Oh well, I am in no rush to meet someone who isn't quality and genuine.  I am a patient woman, and will wait for someone special to connect with me.  Desperate, I am not.

My loyal dog is dying so that has given me a heavy heart of late... she is 17 years of age = 85 human years,  She is one tough, gentle soul.  Love that beautiful girl!

Feel free to view my other blogs.  One focuses on my primal nature, and the other is my nurturing side.  Just mixing it up and they will be dependent upon my mood when new posts are raised.

Next month, I have a spanking party planned and have a few interested people for it.  Nice to know there are people out there who still like to be spanked rather than wanting to be fucked.

My ex submissive but still a very good friend (no expectations just a strong caring friendship) has taken away my throne and will be staining it a darker colour for me and changing the cushioning for me... something regal, tastefully burgundy, to suit me, Ms/Mz/Mistress Neta.  He is such a generous soul.  He will also make me a spanking bench.  I described what kind I would like and he will create something beautiful for my Special Dungeon.

I will post pics of my Special Dungeon next month.


~With Dark Romance in mind... alway~
Alpha Fem

Yes!

Raise awareness about 50 Shades...

FDCT CBT photos - 18/8/14

I love you, but

I love you, it is a simple truth....
But I can no longer allow myself to need you, too often this has led to hurt

I love you, your name has been carved into my heart....
But I can no longer allow myself to desire you, too often this leads to disappointment

I love you, my heart sings at the thought of you.....
But I have to learn to quiet the music, because dancing alone just isn't the same

I love you, I will always love you....
But I have to change what is, because what was is gone

Love never dies, no matter what some will tell you...
It simply changes, need and desire lessen, passions quiet, and acceptance for what is becomes more than what was......or might have been....

Acceptance is often the hardest step on this journey....

Written by angelwithattitude – 2015 

Goddess

24/1/15 - Out for Dinner

It was our local scene’s play party on Saturday night however I was not in the mood to attend.  I have lost interest in public play these days.  The thrill has gone.  I prefer to ‘play’ in private.

My ex sub, who is still closely connected to me with a strong friendship, asked if I would like to go out for dinner.  We went out to a fabulous restaurant in Bellerive.  Impressive views, excitable people, stunning food. 

I drove to his place, and he had set up the dining table next to the bay window and prepared an entrée for us.  The entrée was one of my favourite dishes… OYSTERS.  They were salty tasting – just the way I like them, and delicious tasting which my mouth savoured.

I haven’t seen Bill for 6 weeks and it was great to catch up with him.  He always thrives when he is in my presence.

We chatted about goings-on in the Fet world… and let me say, not much has really been happening.  Its been drama-free as it should be.

Half an hour later we headed off to the restaurant.  As I stated above, it was a fantastic venue, and the service received was spot on.

We stayed there for three hours and had a great time. 

I went back to his place, he set up my chair, he sat on the couch and we chatted for another hour, one glass of wine, listening to Life album by Simply Red and talked about what 2015 will hold for us.

At 10pm, I drove home and contemplated the D/s relationship of 4 years I had with Bill, and will always cherish the relationship dynamic we had but I am very happy now.  I can now focus on my life, and the direction I want that life to head.  Eventually I will seek a new submissive/slave to serve me but only when I’m ready.

~Ms Neta~

16/1/15 - First Munch for the Year 2015

Friday, 16 January 2015, I attended our local munch.  The first one for the year.  It was a most enjoyable evening.  There were a few newbies in attendance and it was absolutely enjoyable to meet the new people as well as some people who I had been friends with, online, for a few years, to finally meet them in real time.

Upon my arrival, I was greeted by quite a few members who were excited to see me. I felt like a celebrity for a moment being greeting, hugged, kissed and welcomed by many.

There were two tables with 12 seating arrangement.  It was an impressive turn out for the beginning of the year.  We all chatted about various topics, laughed a lot and generally just had a fabulous time.

The food was even delicious.

I stayed for about 2.5 hours which is a lengthy time for me as I tend to become bored easily.  I look forward to attending future events when time permits.

~Ms Neta~

For me, this is true...

Journal: 26/1/15

Good afternoon

**Happy Australia Day**

As some of you may have noticed I have changed my blog.  Its 2015, time for a change.  A positive move to ensuring my life is even better than it has been previously.

I changed the name of this blog as an acknowledgement to someone who inadvertently helped me open myself to other opportunities and explorations in this life.

A lot of changes have occurred for me over the past couple of months.  A lot of reflection, minute changes, a clearer focus, and I am heading towards a calmer state.

This year is about teaching others, sharing my knowledge, becoming less selfish and more selfless.

I have been on a variety of sites, exploring my inner needs and have come to the realisation that it was all very dissatisfying for my spirit.  Sure, a couple of liaisons enlightened me however I now know I do not want to experience them again.

My focus this year will be to remove any debris from my life that is unwanted, immediately.  I am at a good place intellectually, mentally and emotionally.  I still have to work on some other areas but I believe that the change will happen, in time.

A Real Woman...

The Heart of a Slave

Author: Master Steve of Butchmann's abt 1993.

A slave is an individual born with a slave spirit. No one can make an individual have this spirit; nothing can be done to create this state in an individual's being. No one trying hard or wishing for this sense of spirit can develop it within themselves and no Master can cause it to occur.

A slave is an extraordinary human being who is born with this slave spirit - as much as they are born to breathe, or have gifted talents like design or music. A slave is extraordinary, rare and most often confused until they discover their slave spirit heart. Most slave’s wander through life feeling unfulfilled - as if they have a "dark hole" in their spirit - a hole that can be temporarily filled with an abundance of sex, work, addictive behavior or other whole-life-consuming factors.

Slaves often have a sense of the spiritual (some become clergy), but feel this sense of spiritual awareness to be disconnected from their desire for a Mastery/slavery relationship. A slave has a right to feel joy and pride in their slavery and in service to a Master. Slave is often confused seeing Dominance as Mastery; SM as completion; or fetish focus as the fulfillment of this "dark hole" in their spirit. Many can find enough fulfilments in these areas to develop a sense of wholeness (often a quiet longing exists - although for what, the slave doesn't know).

The heart of a slave can be actualized only when the spiritual journey occurs that connects this "dark hole" in the spirit to the whole spirit and then to the universe. It is a process of a painful and trusting leap of faith that causes this connectedness to occur - a truly spiritual journey. The heart of a slave can only be complete in service to a Master and it is within this service that the spiritual journey occurs. Slavery is not about a "hard dick or clit experience", although hard dicks and clits happen and are enjoyed. Slavery is the completion of a spirit in search of "connectedness" in the universe.

Ball stretching

Stretching his balls was fun.  Yes those water bottles are full and hanging from his cute little balls... they are some tough testicles.

I have enjoyed many wonderful activities with this beautiful submissive male.  He has been loyal to me for years.  I will be posting a series of photos displaying his commitment to me even when it was difficult for him at times, he endured, in his servitude to me.

Training your slave with these hand signals...

Craving that deep D/s connection

Written by my friend, Ms Boo, a few years back.  I just loved her writing... beautifully written.  Thank you Ms Boo for articulating your perspective of deep D/s.

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Cravings, do you ever get a deep down craving for something and no matter what you try, nothing else will fill it but that one thing that you are craving for?

It’s a hot day and your working in the yard. You’re tired, sweaty and sticky and just want to say enough is enough, I’ll finish this tomorrow. Then you buckle down, give it your last bit of effort, knowing that you have an ice cold beer or glass of ice tea waiting to reward you for a job well done. You push yourself beyond your limits with the thoughts of that one cold drink. You can feel it in your hand. You can taste it. In your mind, your drink it down and feel it quenching that burning thirst. You get that dopamine rush of “Eureka, this is it” This is what I’ve been working for. This is what I have been craving!

Your home alone and watching a movie. It’s getting very intense and you’re on the edge of your seat. You have all of these emotions and energy just bubbling up inside you. You’ve got to move but can’t take your eyes off of your movie. Then it hits you … chips … no wait … popcorn … yes, something salty. NO! Ice Cream! … I have peach ice cream in the freezer. Your mouth starts salivating, your taste buds are screaming, “Peach Ice Cream!” Your heart, body and soul tells you that nothing else will do, you must have the peach ice cream.

Now imagine that you get the refrigerator and there is no cold beer or ice tea to quench your thirst or you only find Lime sorbet when you wanted Peach Ice Cream. Sure you could have water or sorbet, but it’s just not the same.

So it is with my cravings for a deep D/s connection. Sure, I can share a fuck with a kinkster but it’s not the same as that sacred sexual bonding between the D/s lovers. Yes, it swells the ego to hear someone call you Master, Mistress or Daddy while playing out your fantasies but it feeds your soul/ your overall well-being, when you have worked hard for that reward of being called Master/Mistress/Daddy. When it’s real and not just a fantasy, when the connection is so deep that I feel her/his pain and her release, when I get that dopamine rush ... that’s when I get my cravings satisfied.

Do you get D/s cravings? Crave the bite of your Masters whip? Crave the love that comes with true submission? Do you have a deep need to serve that one you love or a need to take care of the one that serves you?

Attractive

I like attractive men - I'm not talking about model material attractiveness - just someone who has an attractive quality. He should have a physical something that stands out for me (no, not his cock). I really like eyes - doesn't matter what colour but I am drawn to depth in eyes, intellect, clarity. Next, I'm kind of partial to good strong hands, and don't mind a hairy chest at all. Hair/No Hair doesn't matter. A generous mouth/lips are a bonus too. I don't think I'm asking too much when I seek an attractive submissive/slave. Not big on beards although trimmed goatee beards are kind of hot.

B.D.S.M.

My Opinion - 10/1/15

Dear followers

Its incredible how many males are out there who are ONLY looking for kinky sex. Nothing wrong with kinky sex mind you but they honestly have no interest in receiving pain or giving servitude.  What the fuck is that mentality about.  FemDom porn has a goddamn lot to answer for.  Its incredible and astounding at the stupid, simple attitudes of many of the 'kinky' males.  Too many males think or lead with their cocks, come on boys, man up and show you truly want to serve a Dominant Woman through anticipatory and attentive servitude and I am not referring to being fucked anally or giving oral service.  Get the mindset right first, then the rest follows.  Only a few have cottoned on to this, the rest are fools.

Some of you may consider me harsh but you know what, I am not interested in connecting with narrow minded fools who can't take the time to learn about Female Dominance - not PORN FemDom - and that it is not all about boot licking, arse licking, cunt licking, and whatever other lickings there are - its about showing her how important she is through your submission to her Dominance - mind, body and soul.  Transfer of Authority.  Power Exchange.  Your genuine submission.  Not flowery, superficial words just so you can get a fuck after being dominated for five minutes.  Cripes.

*hehe* just my little bit of a rant this evening although I am amused at the same time.

Other than communicating with a handful of idiots, this year has started off well, goddess, let's hope it continues on a good note.

27/12/14 - A few hours with Stephanie

 End of last year I had a casual scene with a switch, named Stephanie.  Lovely person, knowledgeable, well-read, intelligent and kinky as fuck.

We met at a venue, I enjoyed a lovely 'cocktail' - yes, an alcoholic beverage, and chatted about her travels around the world.  It was a most interesting conversation and the destinations she had travelled were impressive.

Anyway, it was time to play.  As you can see from the pics we had a lovely kinky time.  She assumed the positions I sent her to learn.  She displayed them well although forgot one slightly.  She then received 12 paddles to her sweet arse cheeks... or was it, 15  ;)  Hey, 27th of Dec has loimprovng gone now and my memory isnt as sharp at the moment due to other focusses.

After the positions were demonstrated, and the punishment was given, she was collared and leashed.  She experienced some cock flogging, clothes peg applications, cock bondage whilst cuffed.  Unfortunately the bed did not have anchors, so I had to use her ankles to cuff her wrists to.  Sometimes you just have to improvise.  The cock flogging was fun, she didn't think so but I did.  You can see the wicked little cock flogger on her stomach.  Little but lethal... well, to cock and balls, a very nice sting.  Oh, and pegs were applied to her nipples.  She got the full gamut... a taste of everything.

Afterwards she massaged my feet, leg, back and shoulders with a lovely oil.  She certainly was talented.  We had a most enjoyable time together.  Afterwards, she showed me her selection of pretty panties.  There was a variety.  I selected the black panties for her, and she looked just lovely in them.  If I had had more time, I would have introduced her to one of my Strap on cocks.

Happy New Year, Stephanie.  Have a fabulous 2015 on your travels!

R.I.P. Ruby - 9/1/15

My submissive J's fur baby Rotweiller, Ruby, passed away yesterday.  She was 10 years old.

Rest in Peace beautiful girl, and my deepest condolescences to submissive J for the loss of his beautiful baby.

1 January 2015

Happy New Year All you gorgeous Kinksters.
Here's hoping you all have a fabulous 2015.

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