slave's Poem

She brings lightness to where there was darkness.
She brings laughter to where there was sadness.
Without Her, there would be no reason,
No purpose,
Just solitude.

(19/8/14)

So why are protocols used in D/s relationships?

There are as many answers to this question as there are people using them. However, the most common reasons appear to be that the protocol:

• creates a clear distinction between the Dominant and the slave
• provides a good foundation for the relationship
• through its rules clarifies for the slave how to serve and behave in different situations
• strengthens the bond between Domnant and slave by distinguishing them and their unique relationship from others

Most protocols are directed towards the slave. They often regulate the slave's behavior, communication, and interaction in one way or the other. 

Protocols can be very simple or very detailed. They can prescribe the specific way in which certain tasks have to be performed. The slave might have to use specific honorifics and figures of speech for addressing his Dominant. Each individual task or action might have its own rules. Clearly, the more specialised the rules are, the more difficult they become to learn as well as to enforce. When the number of rules increases (and often it does if one tries to provide rules for every possible situation) the protocol becomes cumbersome and almost impossible to keep track of. The slave will have difficulty learning and separating the numerous rules for all the different situations. And yes, it also becomes increasingly more difficult for the Dominant to reinforce and correct all mistakes.

How to get a Domme’s attention...

A Domme isn't that much unlike any other woman when it comes to courting them or trying to get their attention.

Rules to live by:

1. Be respectful.
2. Proofread anything you write for punctuation and spelling.
3. Do not solicit them. Introduce yourself (without bragging). Be polite. Explain that you would be interested in getting to know more about them.
4. Listen to what they have to say and engage them in further conversation.
5. If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything. Eventually, she will be making you do everything.
6. Forget about the fact that she's a Domme because that really doesn't mean a great deal. Just talk to her as you would talk to anyone else. Be polite, be respectful and show a genuine interest in her as a person. In regards to promoting yourself as a sub, I'd be more inclined to try and promote yourself as a person.
7. Be a whole person first, and treat her as a whole person first.  

Perfect image

I am a Dominant

I am a dominant. I may at first get flush and don't appear to be dominant at all. I stand back and I observe. I let others say what they need to say. I don't feel it necessary to share all that I know to all in earshot or trumpet the knowledge I’ve learned loudly to the world. I watch, I listen and I learn. I may quietly suggest, I may say nothing at all. I get to know who you are by your actions your words and your deeds. I only expect respect after it has been earned. I will ask the same of you. If my influence is felt it is felt quietly. Sometimes I can come across as almost meek. Do not confuse that with being weak. I am not out there blowing my own horn or excessively talking. I actually appear humble and understated in my ways. I have nothing to prove to anyone. Control is a private thing between individuals that need not be broadcast to the world. I've long felt that the more understated my outward appearance of dominance the stronger a dominant I am. True power and control whispers. It has no reason to yell.

Anonymous

10 ways to lose a Mistress

1. Trying to top from the bottom.
2. Being more interested in your fetishes then your Mistress's.
3. Not calling or responding ASAP.
4. Not making sure She knows She matters and is a priority to you.
5. Not devoting yourself to making Her life enhanced by having you as Her submissive/slave.
6. Not being honest.
7. Not showing respect at all times.
8. Not being appreciative that She chose you.
9. Mistaking politeness for weakness.
10. Assuming She will be like your last Mistress.

The Goddess...

Do you agree?

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The Goddess.  The Goddess is one of the sweetest of all Dominant roles a Woman may assume, for the Goddess is served, worshipped, and obeyed simply because she is a superior Female.  In this role, the Dominatrix may demand hours of oral servitude, foot massage, and other personal services, and reward them with perhaps a remote smile or a new type of penis punishment.

Her votary or slave often suffers punishment for various transgressions.  He may also be forced to undergo ritual torments, designed to prove his devotion, but he is also willing to rub, stroke, lick, massage, and otherwise demonstrate his adoration and respect for his Lady’s sacred flesh.  The Goddess is, of course, immeasurably distant from her votary, and he is touchingly grateful for any mark of her notice, even if would (under ordinary circumstance) be a humiliation rather than a reward.

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The Goddess is apparently one of the sweetest of the Dominant archetypes.  She is served, worshipped and obeyed simply because she is a superior Female.

A Dominant woman who rules absolutely but with a guiding nurturer’s firm hand with a sensual undercurrent.

A Friend described me as a Contessa – someone with pain tributes and a sadistic edge - rather than just a Goddess.

I don’t identify strictly as a Goddess, yet I know many people perceive me as one.  I do rule those in my realm with a firm but nurturing hand, and I conduct myself with elegance and politeness.  It is rare for me to lose my composure although I will express my displeasure if annoyed or disrespected.

Personally, in my opinion, a Goddess is a Woman who is regal, compassionate and charismatic.

Parachute ball stretcher and weight training :)

This is my submissive, bill, who has been in my service for almost four years.  He has been very committed in his service to me, and I have been blessed to learn much from him.  I have practised all sorts of BDSM activities on him, and he has been receptive although his pain tolerance isn't high - he has done very well.

In this photo (4/8/12), we decided to hang 3 filled water bottles to the parachute ball stretcher.  He did very well and remained in that position for 30 minutes.  It was amusing to watch him start to strain after a while but he managed to complete the duration.

If you like cock and ball torture / stretching, I encourage you to purchase a parachute ball stretcher, OR if you are snifty with rope, do something creative around the balls then attach weights, increase the size of those weights as the balls toughen up and are able to endure more weight.

14 Sept 2014

Good evening All

Its Sunday and I am relaxing in my space, half an eye on TV, surrounded by my furry animals and preparing to write about my year, which will be in instalments.

As I said in my previous post, it has been a while since I visited my Domain and one of the main reasons for this was because I was appointed the Co-ordinator / Leader of the Tas scene.  I gave up the position in July as my career was becoming more demanding and enjoyable, plus I wasn't spending as much quality time with my submissive and slave, and something had to give.

Being the Leader of the local scene became too burdensome.  A few wonderful people around me to support me but there were also a few antagonists that were fighting for the position so lots of criticism and snark became rampant.  I am pleased to say those people have been put in their place and are keeping a low profile currently.

This year involved a lot of kink play in the local scene and I will post photos and write blurbs about each of these delightful experiences.

Its lovely to be back in my Domain space to share with my followers... and also to have a journal to refer to about my past fun times, and of course reference materials including photos to refresh my knowledge and learnings.

Ms Neta

~ With Dark Romance in Mind ~

31/8/2014

Good evening All
It has been quite a while since I was on my blog.  Life has been extremely busy in both kink and vanillla worlds.

I will be continuing with my blog and have a lot to share with you.

Look out for some most interesting and wonderful posts.


Ms Neta