Domination and submission - 23/11/12 (22527)

I requested my Kinky Ass-istant to conduct another task for to be handed in by today, 23rd November 2012.  Being the impressive gurl, she is, the assignment was handed in promptly.  I requested she write me half a page about meaning of a D/s dynamic.  This is what she wrote:

Domination and submission

Domination and submission means many more things than can be written in half a page but I will try and explain what it means to me.

The D/s dynamic, to me, is the mental side of BDSM. Physical contact, though desired is not necessary. It is based on the ability of the Dominant person to get inside the mind of the submissive. The people involved do not necessarily need to know each other; though for the relationship to work they must learn from each other about what works for each. They do not need to know real names or even meet as the relationship can be carried out by phone, email or even old fashioned snail mail.

What is absolutely required is that the participants get erotic enjoyment or some form of pleasure from either dominating or being dominated. The domination does not have to be sexual. The submissive can gain great pleasure from just serving and pleasing the Dominant as the Dominant can take pleasure from being served and pleased.

I think most people think of dungeons, whips and chains when D/s is mentioned and in many cases that may be exactly what they desire. It is not that for me. To me it is about control and consent. I look for the opportunity to do something for you that will please you in some way. I hope that you will get pleasure from setting me something to do that will benefit you, amuse you, entertain you or in some way make you smile that smile. It doesn't have to be sexual or sadistic, although that is always welcome; it is just about doing something simply because you ask for it to be done. It will always be my pleasure to attempt whatever you want because you want it. I hope that I am not only compliant to your will but actively seeking to do my best for you. I want, more than any pleasure of mine, to please you.

D/s is also about trust and respect. I need to be able to trust that you will not do anything, or ask anything of me that would harm me or my life just as you need to trust that I will not seek to interfere in any way with your life. I have the utmost respect for you as a Person, a Dominant Lady and of course your absolute right to privacy. I believe that you respect my privacy as well.

I do not believe that all Dominants are by nature cruel any more than I believe that all submissive's are ‘doormats’ though of course some are. Many submissive's are Dominant in their normal life and enjoy the giving up of power in a D/s relationship. Some submissive's dominate other submissive's.

What D/s means to me is submitting to you in whatever way you desire, if it is possible for me to do so, but not for what I get out of it, but the hope that it gives you pleasure in some form. My pleasure is always secondary to that but when I please you I gain great enjoyment from it.