I commenced reading The Master's Manual by Jack Rinella last night - what an insightful read. I was riveted and read ten chapters in 30 minutes. There are some quotes and thoughts I will post in due course as the man makes the mindset of SM (sadomasochism) easier to understand.
31/7/11
31/7/11
I am still reading The Master’s Manual but I wanted to highlight some areas that resonate with my thinking as well. I will work through each chapter that particularly caught my attention.
Chapter 2 – What is Leather
“Leather is a state of mind, an attitude, a mode of perception. We of the leather community share beliefs of power, lifestyle, experience, and world view”
“Leather is a headspace… seeking a powerful, sensuous, open and truthful life with likeminded.”
I have been trying to work out what leather is all about and it was interesting to read Jack’s perspective about what it means. I like their philosophy but I have so much to learn and understand in order to fully comprehend this lifestyle.
Chapter 4 - What we really need is an education
“Leather is a full exploration of one’s humanity: physical, mental, emotional, sexual, social and spiritual.”
The development of good technique and personal growth warrants time to learn the ropes. This is so true. So many people jump into the Scene, start immediate play only after observing an activity. I agree it is important to attend skillshares and lectures in the areas of interest before actual play commences: this increases confidence through knowledge and provides pleasure for both parties.
Chapter 11 - A Natural Sense of Balance
“In the end, the best scenes bring balance, a strange and quiet state of inner rest.”
I love this statement, it is how I feel with most of my more intense scenes with my sub. I always feel calmer and happier in life, and more connected to those important in my life – both vanilla and kink.
Chapter 18 – Power
In order to claim your right to dominate “… you must first claim yourself. If you cannot rule yourself, you cannot rule others. A master needs to be comfortable with what it means to control another. Masters are responsible, directive, decisive. They need to be able to accept service, attention, the “gift of self” that a slave desires to bestow on his or her power.”
Again I love this statement. It took me a while to fall into this mindset, and as I grow as an individual I am becoming more comfortable in my rule of others. I don’t feel like a fraud any more. I accept my submissive’s service easily.
Chapter 20 – How to be your Master’s best boy
Training your submissives/slaves to serve you in the manner that you expect.
1. Address you by your chosen name 2. Be keen to please your Mistress
3. Surrender yourself as a gift to your Mistress in order to make sure your relationship is successful.
4. Open yourself and permit yourself to become vulnerable to your Mistress.
5. Relax and accept your condition, your role as a submissive but if you ever feel danger to your health, you must tell your Mistress
6. Study and learn what your Mistress likes, dislikes, wants, needs. Know your Mistress so you can ensure her life is content.
7. Always respond to your Mistress so you learn what brings her pleasure. Your pleas, squirms, orgasms.
Will continue with my thoughts when I finish the book. By the way, I recommend this book to new Masters and Mistresses. Its written in lay-man's terms, well mostly, and its beneficial to try to get an understanding of the Leather lifestyle and SM.
Will continue with my thoughts when I finish the book. By the way, I recommend this book to new Masters and Mistresses. Its written in lay-man's terms, well mostly, and its beneficial to try to get an understanding of the Leather lifestyle and SM.
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