Attractive

I like attractive men - I'm not talking about model material attractiveness - just someone who has an attractive quality. He should have a physical something that stands out for me (no, not his cock). I really like eyes - doesn't matter what colour but I am drawn to depth in eyes, intellect, clarity. Next, I'm kind of partial to good strong hands, and don't mind a hairy chest at all. Hair/No Hair doesn't matter. A generous mouth/lips are a bonus too. I don't think I'm asking too much when I seek an attractive submissive/slave. Not big on beards although trimmed goatee beards are kind of hot.

FemDom is a paradox...

Femdom is a paradox: Because it should be about Women dominating men. Yet the reality is, that many FemDom men, 'top from the bottom'. Where, they demand and tell Women howto  act out their sexual fantasies.  

True Dominant Women do not like this and for this reason reject FemDom completely. This is why there are far more men within Femdom than Women. So I am advocating true FemDom where men do not make any demands on Women and their role is only to serve and do only what the Women want.

(written by William Bond)

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I was perusing some articles on google and came across blogs by William Bond.  Wonderful perspectives he has.  Thank you.

Its quite interesting because I have experienced many males, stating they are submissive, who have approached me demanding or telling me how I should act out their fantasies mainly porn-related.  This is because they do not really understand FemDom except for what they see on FemDom porn.  Damn the porn industry!!

My response to those males usually is to inform them I am not a porn FemDom, I am a lifestyle Female Dominant and this is what is my expectation of them during their service to me - short term or long term interactions.  Needless to say, many run like scared little bitches.  If sex isn't involved, or very little sexual play, they are not interested.  Their idea of service is giving me oral sex or pummelling (fucking me hard) after they are removed from bondage.  

I am looking for genuine submissive/switch males who understand FemDom or who are open to learning about how to serve a Dominant Woman - my way.  

As usual, I am amused that once the male 'sub' orgasms, he no longer adheres to the rules previously negotiated.  I attract many "Do Me" submissives but I recognise them very quickly these days and remove them from realm doubly quickly.

Just having  my say...

I hope you know, no matter what...

(I came across this writing and it reminded me of someone, and I would like to share it with you all. Author unknown.  Thank you to the insightful Author)

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...WHEN you meet your Soul Mate, they will have an instantaneous effect on you.

A Soul Mate is someone who makes your knees go weak and you'll have to catch your breath.

With but a single glance they'll lessen your burden and with a smile, they'll warm your heart.

You feel a sense of connection with this person. They will touch you so deeply on so many levels, and with them you will want to share your inner most secrets.

For the first time in your life someone will make you feel almost like a god(dess).

Once you have met your soul mate your life will never be the same. One of the things which makes this experience unique is the sense of a meaningful spiritual experience. You both feel like this is meant to be and that you've been together before in a past life.

Normally for some, it is several months, weeks or days before physical intimacy occurs. But when you meet your soul mate something happens, the pull or drive to become physically intimate overwhelms many, and one finds it happening in the initial meeting. There's a sense of safety with this person. You knowingly let go of your defenses and an invisible bond is instantaneously formed. Unlike other relationships in the past there will be no game playing or hidden agendas which plagued you in the past.

There is something about the passion you share with a soul mate. It goes beyond just " body parts". For a moment in time you two are the only ones who exist in the universe. Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls have intertwined themselves becoming one. Your personal energies melt and you feel the flame of creation move through you like a wave of the ocean on a hot summers day. Soon you begin to lose track of where you begin and your partner ends. From within the depths of your raw passionate union, your soul mate will know how and where to touch you.

It will be different, intense and more gratifying than lovers of your past. They will look into your eyes and you will feel your soul open wide. For some people, there is the "Rush" All the love, all the lust, all the need will surge forth from your soul like captives from a prison. At this moment you will know what it means to get lost within someone's eyes. You will experience a touch you have never felt before your love and passion will rise to new levels.

But in the end as you lay there, as the warm afterglow begins to fade, you will realise what just happened was not sex.

"Sex, simply doesn't feel this good."

To put it simply, your soul mate will be able to make love to you in ways no one else will be able to match.

Author unknown
(94068)

An experience

I may have, in passing, mentioned I recently experienced giving submission.

It was an incredible experience and I have to say for those Dominants who have not experienced giving submission to someone, you should at least try it for the headspace experience.

I have been dwelling on why I submitted to this person for a period of time and I think the reasons were - I considered him an equal, he was respectful, we were connected in background and interests, and I trusted him implictly with my dark thoughts, wants and needs.

Never has anyone ever brought these feelings to the fore and even I was amazed these feelings had enveloped me.

As many women, not all, were raised and taught men were the superior gender, and so I lived my vanilla life in 'submissive' mode - occasionally raring up but most times keeping the fiery personality enslaved.  I did what I was told/asked most times but when I hit 23 years of age, I had just about enough of being dictated to males.

Of course I am open to taking advice from males but dictate, bully or try to dominate me - oh, not a good idea.

So, I arose from my cocoon and a butterfly emerged, freed.

My 20s, 30s, 40s and I am now venturing into my 50s have been 'take charge' kind of years.  I had a few long-term relationships because males loved having me in their life.  I am special.  Some of you may think that is arrogant, and perhaps it is, but let me tell you I really am special and once you 'taste' me, I'm hard to forget.  I am an amazing partner... yet, I was bored in most of my relationships after a while.  I always sought out strong males but unfortunately they were never strong enough - intellectually, mentally.

After taking charge for so many years, it was quite an eye opener and totally unexpected to meet someone who I connected with on many levels - physically, mentally, creatively, sexually, intellectually, and who I wanted to experience a new life with because I considered him an equal.  However this did not eventuate due to family circumstances.  I am OK with that now because shit happens and we deal with it, and get on with life.  No regrets I say.  Enjoy the time you have with someone, and if it doesnt work out, cherish the memories, and time you had with them.

As a Female Dominant and Mistress, I have a queue of males who wish to serve me but I am very very selective who I allow into my realm. Out of the queue of males, there are 1 or 2 potentials.  I will find them, or they will find me but there is no rush as I am not going anywhere...and meanwhile, I have a submissive and a slave-in-traing, so they have my attention at the moment.

I am not as interested in topping these days. It was fun 'servicing' all these males to obtain experience, and giving them pleasure but I am finding these days it is totally dissatisfying.  I am seeking relationships with depth, with layers upon layers - mental connection.  I am seeking M/s or D/s.  My goal for the future is to one day live a 24/7 FLR M/s relationship with someone compatible.  No pretences, just a pure FemDom loving relationship.

Well this is all I have to say about my recent experience of submitting.  I liked it but I truly know my true nature is about GIVING Dominance.  :)

Mz Neta
~ With Dark Romance in Mind always ~

Harsh language and hateful comments ahead... be prepared, and amused

I don't usually post conversations between myself and other kinksters for privacy reasons and respectful reasons.  However, this conversation, I really do have to share with the world.

I am on another Kink site.  And I continually receive numerous random emails without the courtesy of an accompanying email.  Its tedious. Majority are rejected.    Today, I received a request so I decided to send an email to the chap to inform him I had rejected his friends request:  This was our conversation.  He was insulting towards me and that’s OK because being insulting makes him feel ‘domly’ *hehe*.  Aah the effect I have on some men who cannot handle an honest, straight-up woman.  We are just too threatening and unfeminine.  Here goes:

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia

written 19 minutes ago:

I'm rejecting your friends request since you did not take the courtesy to send an email. A submissive indeed. Right.

Mz Neta

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

written 14 minutes ago:

Well that remains to be seen, but you know what is crystal clear? You are an atrocious cunt, or better yet, a waste of one.

What a pathetic human being you are, seek help bitch.

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia

written 11 minutes ago:

Haha a sub indeed. you have shown how egotistical and pathetic you are.

Mz Neta

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

written 9 minutes ago:

No, Mz Neta, the only one that has showed her pathetic side is you bitch. With your pathetic passive aggressiveness.

A no thank you would have been fine, but I guess it's just been a little too long with you and your cats hasn't it you pathetic old bitch.

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia

written 5 minutes ago:

Actually I'm a dog person, sub. Couldn't find a dog rep.
Anyway back to you, sub. So your really a dom but want to experience strap on because that's considered subby. Cripes how pathetic.

You wouldn't understand real submission if it bit you on the arse.

Mz Neta

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
new message

written 3 minutes ago:

Aww, where did the tough old battle ax Domme go? What? Too busy eating your feelings?

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
new message

written less than a minute ago:

Fucking pathetic old twat, yeah fat ass, some of us men still have our balls, be more polite next time or I'll slap bitch out of your mouth.

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
new message

written less than a minute ago:

What part of fuck off aren't you getting out of my messages to you, you rusty old cunt.

Seriously, fuck off.

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia
new message

written less than a minute ago:

Oh fuck off you little bitch.

I'm here. And laughing at your crazy arse silliness.

You think you've scared me not likely boy. you are like one of the many pretender subs on here who are only looking to be fucked anally because that is what you believe submission is all about.

You're a fool, and everyone who chats to you will know soon enough.

hehe ooh am I upsetting you...

Mz Neta

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

written 1 minute ago:

And I wouldn't let you touch me if you paid me, seriously, look at your body, you're fucking disgusting.

Fuck off.

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia
new message

written less than a minute ago:

oh pretend sub
the thing is you are drawn to me its pretty obvious with your anger at me hehe.

Mz Neta

Sub4MistressPA 39M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
new message

written 1 minute ago:

You're not upsetting lard ass, you don't have that kind of power over me, I'm just holding a mirror up to you, and if you can see beyond your fat, you'll realize what an atrocious person you are.

You could have ignored my friend request, you could have said no thanks, either of those and that would have been the end of it, but you didn't do that, did you chubs? Nope, you had to get all passive-aggressive and question what I like and don't like. I'm done with you, I'll let you have the last word, because just like a piece of cheesecake, I'm sure you are not going to pass up the last word.

Enjoy loneliness lard ass.

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia
new message

written less than a minute ago:

oh pretend sub
you are making me laugh heartily.

your conceit, and arrogance is not ever going to get you a 'real' partner.

you should take a look in the mirror, pretend sub, you are beyond hysterical. Many women are going to know what you are like soon enough... I will be your voice, pretend sub.

you enjoy your sad life, and I will enjoy my beautiful life with my beautiful friends, and give my attention to the genuine submissive males who recognise and appreciate a genuine Dominant like myself.

take care little one, go find a mummy who will make all your hurt go away after being scolded by Mz Neta ;) hehe

you, pretend sub, have made my morning.

Regards Mz Neta

MzNeta 50FEM
Tasmania, Australia
new message

written less than a minute ago:

Its time for me to let you go now, pretend sub.

Goodbye

Regards
Mz Neta

Then I blocked him.

I checked on his profile about 2.00pm this afternoon, and oh golly gee, what a surprise, he has deactivated his profile.  He ran like the real wuss he really is.  So much for being a dominant but wanting to explore his submissive side by being fucked anally – because you know, that’s what submission is all about – oh pleassssssssssssssssse spare me the bullshit.  My oh my, the power I had over him, especially sending him into a frenzy of anger and attacking me about me being fat and over-eating.  Yep, I am a large woman with a huge appetite.  OK, that is what his eyes see when he looks at me – selective blindness.

This is what is tiresome for many of us Female Dominants having to deal with lack of courtesy – random friends requests without a courtesy email to say hi, or can we be friends.  And when we have had enough of the hordes of pretend subs and make a stand, they turn like puerile little creatures, and show their true colours.

Perhaps that will be my mission from now on to see how many “pretend” sub males turn into Mr Hyde when I tell them I have rejected their random friends request.  UGH.

And also let me add, the beautiful submissive and switch males who are not ashamed to say they switch, continually get a bad rep because of these pretend subs who turn on Female Dominants because they want to control the relationship and have the Female Dominants on puppet strings.  Well fuck that, I will not tolerate this type of behaviour any more.  Anyone who sends me random friends requests on that site, will now receive an email from me telling them why they are being rejected.  The reactions from them will be most interesting to view.

(92348)

Thoughts 12/11/14

My thoughts.

Why people are attracted to me?  I was having a discussion with a chap today and he was saying how he was attracted to black women.  Of course my hackles rose but then he followed it through by saying Black Women are his preference NOT his fetish.

Bless him.

He told me a childhood story of why he finds Black and Mixed race women so attractive to him.  It was a heartwarming story, which made me smile.

As a Mixed race Woman, I have had to endure all sorts of racism and prejudice throughout my life but that never held me down.  Of course, I believe it did help that I am an attractive Woman so that coupled with being Mixed race has probably made my life pretty smooth with only a few ups and downs along the way.

Now as a Black Female Dominant... I have attracted and continue to attract many people - females and males - into my realm who want to to revel in m presence by being dominated, and even wanting to dominate me.  Some I am flattered by, and some I am not.  The ones I am not flattered by are those who see me as a fetish.  A Black Dominant Woman who can serve their needs.  Those types of people do not hold my attention for long.  Those who are drawn to me because I am Dominant Woman who wish to serve me, well they tend to hold my attention for longer until they say or do something idiotic.

Anyway these are a few thoughts I just had to write down... I will continue with my thoughts as I continue to write on this blog - some thoughts will be lengthy and others will be succinct depending upon my mood at the time.

Tonight, I am reflective about a few things that have occurred but I am not really in the mood to elaborate at this time.

Goodnight.

(91754)

A Moment

If you love someone, set them free.

If they come back they’re yours; 

if they don’t, they never were.

(90396)

Frangipani

A gift from a special person who came into my life with beautiful submission.  He has left my life at the moment but he will always be remembered for the experiences we both shared and learned from each other.

The gift is a Frangipani scented candle and a photo of Frangipani as it was difficult for him to find a 'live' one to give me.  A photo of the flower - now how is that for creativity.

I light the candle every few days for the lovely aroma, and for the memories.

Thank you slave.  xox

The Goddess...

Do you agree?

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The Goddess.  The Goddess is one of the sweetest of all Dominant roles a Woman may assume, for the Goddess is served, worshipped, and obeyed simply because she is a superior Female.  In this role, the Dominatrix may demand hours of oral servitude, foot massage, and other personal services, and reward them with perhaps a remote smile or a new type of penis punishment.

Her votary or slave often suffers punishment for various transgressions.  He may also be forced to undergo ritual torments, designed to prove his devotion, but he is also willing to rub, stroke, lick, massage, and otherwise demonstrate his adoration and respect for his Lady’s sacred flesh.  The Goddess is, of course, immeasurably distant from her votary, and he is touchingly grateful for any mark of her notice, even if would (under ordinary circumstance) be a humiliation rather than a reward.

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The Goddess is apparently one of the sweetest of the Dominant archetypes.  She is served, worshipped and obeyed simply because she is a superior Female.

A Dominant woman who rules absolutely but with a guiding nurturer’s firm hand with a sensual undercurrent.

A Friend described me as a Contessa – someone with pain tributes and a sadistic edge - rather than just a Goddess.

I don’t identify strictly as a Goddess, yet I know many people perceive me as one.  I do rule those in my realm with a firm but nurturing hand, and I conduct myself with elegance and politeness.  It is rare for me to lose my composure although I will express my displeasure if annoyed or disrespected.

Personally, in my opinion, a Goddess is a Woman who is regal, compassionate and charismatic.

Breast Cancer awareness

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Special Thank you

I would like to give a special thanks and appreciation to my kinky ass-istant who will be increasing 'her' assistance to me, for me, over time.

2/8/12

My text bottom has reappeared sending me terrific little texts... I'm liking the flavour of the texts because they are not all about him... finally.

Thoughts

Today, a thought came to me, and that is... I am currently surrounded by males - vanilla males - who feel extremely protective of me.

I have never come across as a helpless Female but for whatever reason, many males just want to protect me and ensure my life is safe and happy.  Interesting.  Is this chilvarous behaviour? or are they all attracted to me in some form or other.  Fascinating.  I could take advantage of them but that holds no interest to me... I am a very competent Woman who can support herself very easily.

Aah well, if these males want to make my life easier - in their eyes - so be it.

My day - 10/7/12

Yesterday, one of my work colleagues commented on how much weight I had lost.  I was surprised because I did not realise I had lost weight except for my nuisance skirt that kept on falling down to my hips.  Irritating.  Today, I used a belt to hold the skirt in place and it felt so much better.

Well I thought I would share something mundane about myself.

Now on to exciting things.  I am looking to hold a Strap On play skillshare in the near future and I have got some interest... mainly from the males but that's OK, I know how many of the males out there enjoy a good anal fucking from a Strap On dildo.

Tomorrow evening I am off to visit my submissive, who is currently dildo training in the shower at this very moment in preparation for my visit tomorrow.  Its Strap On play and he will be feeling my 8 inch Strap On dildo.  I might pull out the 9 inch chocolate cock as well.  He is giggling like a real slutty bitch and very much looking forward to my visit.  He can be such a slut at times.

Strap On Service

I have had a thought of late about offering a service for Strap On play.  I wonder how others would feel about being on the receiving end of my delicious 6 inch, 8 inch, 9 inch and 10 inch Strap On cocks.  Can you imagine?  :) 

Caramel - R.I.P. cont'd

If you think Ms Neta is a cold-hearted bitch... you have not been reading my blog properly.

I wrote a post last week about the impending death of our Caramel.  However I did not expect it to occur 2 days after I visited the Vet.  Too damn quick!!!

Whilst I was in Canberra, he died on the Saturday at 2.35pm, 26th May 2012 on our child's lap.  As he passed from this world, he was surrounded by love, and definitely did not die alone.  He was buried in our backyard with some final words from our children.  This was hard for them losing a member of the family, a beloved pet.

I was extremely upset as was my family.  I felt helpless because I was not there to support my children and Jack during the loss of such a beautiful little boy who has brought us all joy.  Caramel was approx. 20 months old when he died of kidney failure.  Too young.  I'm sorry I did not understand the signs... excessive drinking of water, and weight loss.  Since his death last Saturday, I have researched kidney failure and even if I did recognise the signs earlier, there was nothing we could have done for the little darling.  All I have said to our children is that he had a wonderful life with us and we will always treasure his memory.  We have one of his offspring so his memory continues to live on.  Fare well dearest Caramel M.  You are missed by us all.  xox

Loss of a Family member

Caramel: July 2010 - 26/5/2012 - R.I.P.

Ms Neta

This blog is about Ms Neta's journey.  

It includes a plethora of photos in various poses and scenes, I write a journal, I post educational information for Dominants and submissives/slaves from various sources.  They are credited if I have their names.


I am a lifestyle Dominant, a Mistress, a Disciplinarian, a Punisher, and now... a line setter.  I run a few groups on Fetlife.  I am adored by many and loathed by a few.  I love Dominant and submissive/slave dynamics. 


I own a submissive, I am training a new submissive, and I have a pretty sissy who I enjoy.


I am a serious woman, I am a sexy woman, I am complex woman, I am a smart woman...I have many layers.  If you think you know me, you don't.

I am a Lady and I am a Bitch although fair when necessary.

I am Ms Neta.

Enjoy my Blog.

Joining of a new group

I have been focussing on a written punishment lines group I've recently joined and I have provided a few punishments to willing, naughty students.  I am thoroughly enjoying my line setting duties, however, I am looking for upcoming school holidays to enjoy a little break from the delightful little tyrants.

I am setting lines non-stop and its a little tiring but I will pace myself in the next week or so.

However if my gorgeous little tyrants are reading my blog - it may be a little tiring for me but at the same time exhilarating!!

Now back to enjoying my other Kinky activities for a little while.  

The Passing of a young soul

Sad news was received today.


One of our local kinksters died yesterday.  No one knows the circumstances except he passed away at a young age.  33.  Too young.  


The local community is mourning the loss of such a good soul who contributed intelligence to our scene and his nice and gentle nature.


Why are all the good ones always taken so early.


Goodbye C.T.