Sexual Fantasies

Every woman on earth has fantasised about some explicit sexual fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to talk about. Whether it's your girlfriend or your wife, this top ten list is sure to touch on a forbidden fantasy of her own.

Although most women prefer to leave their fantasies at that, others have a list that they are slowly but surely accomplishing. So the next time your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, who knows, she may be cruising around in the mystical world of sexual fantasy.

So do you think you can guess what some of them are? This list took a lot of time to comprise (and a few bottles of red wine as well), and the women's names have been changed to protect their privacy.

So the next time you're engaging in pillow talk with your lady of the night, her fantasy may be more common than you might think.

drum roll please.

Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may even be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo, or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy. But as you'll figure out today, the modern woman marvels at sex and sexuality. No frames.

10. Strangers in the night

Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose with are strangers simply because they won't be judged. And who cares anyway? They'll probably never see the beautiful stranger again.

Francine divulged her perspective, "The idea of sharing a passionate night with a stranger and behaving like a sexual predator doesn't just sound inviting; it sounds delicious. And leaving after we're done without even knowing each other's names is the best part."

9. The more the merrier

Group sex was a popular one among the ladies. "The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic."

Now don't mistakenly assume that all women want to engage in group intercourse, and gather up all your buddies for your next date (unless, of course, she asks you to).

8. Who's your daddy?

If there's one thing that women are dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before. The creative ideas that flowed from this topic were quite interesting, to say the least. They included:

• spanking him
• ordering him to perform certain sexual acts
• making him beg for what he wants
• having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object

7. Lay me out on display

In today's world of confident women, I was not surprised to learn that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner. I guess the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their "performance" provides them with a feeling of empowerment.

"Imagining that people are watching me while I'm taking my partner's manhood into my mouth gives me a feeling of satisfaction because it makes me feel sexier." Perhaps these women feel as though they're participating in an erotic movie... speaking abstractly, of course.

6. Sexually ravaged

Although most women agreed that they fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master's demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and disobey his commands.

Vicky said, "Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say Yes, Master." On the other hand, Denise interrupted saying, "It depends. In some fantasies I obey, yet in others I fight him and refuse to do anything he says until he finally ties me to the bed and calms me with his rhythmic penetration."

Whew, is it hot in here, or is it just me???

5. I taw, I taw a putty tat

Come on, guys, I'm sure you smelled this one coming from miles away (no pun intended... seriously). Yes, virtually every woman wants or will share her body with another woman. Are you jealous because you get left out? Don't be, most of these women want their man to watch them while they work... or play, as the case may be.

"The idea of touching another soft, hairless body and softly sucking her tongue, amongst other things, seems very erotic," said Sara. Actually that does sound pretty inviting, but won't it be difficult for you guys to sit in the corner and just watch? After all, these women don't want you to participate -- okay, one of them did.

4. Leave a good tip

Keeping in mind that the women interviewed are professionals with commendable careers, some of them fantasized about being strippers, while others took things a step further and imagined being prostitutes. Obviously, the fantasy is romanticized beyond belief because the life of either is not so glamorous that women would opt to have it as a career choice. No frames 

"While I'm performing a lap dance for my customer, he hands me a $100 bill and requests that I perform the lap dance... minus his pants," Tina boldly stated. When I asked Amber about her prostitution fantasy, she said, "The gentleman would pick me up in his expensive car and I would ride him in the driver's seat in some dingy back alley. He would pay me my fee and I'd be on my way."

3. Two can chew

Most men enjoy being spoiled by two women who fawn over them simultaneously. In the same instance, women also fantasize about having two men all over their bodies. Some wanted a more gentle erotic scene, while the rare few wanted porno-like sex.

One of the most interesting statements regarding two men was having one penetrate her while the other licked her clitoris. It sounds virtually impossible (especially if the guys are not bisexual), but nevertheless intriguing.

Other good ones include having two guys perform cunnilingus simultaneously, or having one guy perform oral sex while the other sucks on her breasts. Oh, and this goes on for hours by the way.

Another woman made no secret of the fact that she wants to be nasty and do all the taboo things that most women would find degrading. She wants to be penetrated from the anus and the vagina, she wants the guys to release their load all over her, and craziest of all, she wants to be blindfolded through it all.

2. Strap me on, I'm going in

By far, one of the most popular fantasies women have is being the man for one night... literally. They would like to act and dress up like a man, and I mean straight down to the penis. That's right, I'm referring to a strap-on penis.

One woman actually had the opportunity to fulfill her fantasy and took full advantage of her boyfriend's willingness. "It was absolutely incredible to be able to penetrate a man and feel the empowerment usually associated with being the aggressor."

"There's something about having a man in a vulnerable position that is an incredible turn-on." Carol admitted. The idea of knowing that we're in the position that is usually assumed by men is probably the most aphrodisiacal element of it all.

   1.  Ooh, my virgin ears

Although saying "rape fantasy" sounds somewhat unthinkable, that's exactly what most women call it. They want to play the innocent, naïve, unknowing little girl who gets taken advantage of by the devious, predator-like man.

Forcibly pushing her against the wall and "pinning my arms above my head with one hand while the other hand has made its way under my skirt and is fondling my vagina," received nods of approval by all the women in the room. Andrea went even further expecting the man to "rip off my clothes, force open my legs, penetrate me, and concurrently smear my lipstick all over my face with his forceful kiss." Hmmm, interesting.

Guys, please keep in mind that these are fantasies; don't read this article and take it as a reason to get medieval on your women. The reason fantasies are so cherished is because the majority of them will never be realized.

So have you ever heard any of these before? Or better yet, have you ever participated in any of them? Women of the new millennium have established their position in this sexually charged environment... and I mean that exactly how it sounds.

So gentlemen, protect yourselves at all time, and start doing that by getting yourself some condoms. Until next time, enjoy the femme fatale of your fantasies!

11/12/12: Worship

These are texts received from a sub who I have scened with in the past.  He is lovely chap and I just wanted to share his thoughts about me...

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• I will always and forever be your bitch!!! And I will always fear, love and respect your power and dominance over me.  You are my one true superior.
• I will never move on Mistress. I consider myself very lucky to have met my true dominant.  You will always be in my mind.
• I am and always have been in total awe of you.
• I am reading part two of your first ever writing on FL.  Just reading your first story evokes powerful emotions in me.
• Mistress in my mind you just get ore and more powerful.  You are a true ruler!!
• Besides you being a goddess… well, I like how it feels to be in your company and I really enjoy being in such close proximity to a person like you and I think you are a very nice person to talk to.

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As I said he is a good person and because of this I have sent him to another mistress who would enjoy his type of play immensely.  I hope they both connect and all works out well for them.  They both deserve happiness.  I have my primary submissive and training a new secondary submissive and these two boys consume, and very much deserve my attention because they are locals.

~Ms Neta~

Never involve sex when training??

I saw this post a couple of months ago and have finally got around to posting it for anyone who may be interested in reading other kinksters' views.

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I read the following recently and would like to get both Masters/Doms and slaves/submissives thoughts on involving sex early or from the beginning of a D/s M/s relationship.

Again these were the thoughts of just one slave person and come from just their point of view from having been trained both ways.

Does anyone else feel some or all of the same? Or none?

What thoughts do you have on this?

NEVER NEVER involve sex during training

While some/many Masters/Doms may feel that having sex with their sub/property is their right, is it easier for men/Masters/Doms to not associate affection/love with sex, especially during training?

There are women out there that don't associate affection/love with sex, and maybe there are a lot of women that do, especially face to face pussy sex. Some Masters/Doms never have pussy sex with their subs/slaves. They own the holes, but don't use the pussy. Anal sex while enjoyable to many can place a different mindset on the sub/property.

Sex can muddy the water and when it is included in the very beginning, and when it is part of the "training" the trainee may do just about anything to keep it coming. If one is trained without any sex, sexual gratification, sensuality, it may show how much they are really a slave because non-slaves and players won't continue without sex

Stop having sex with them and actually cause them to suffer for you, no sensual stuff, no playing with the nipples, no warm up, just flat out whip and cane the shit out of them. no orgasm, see how long they put up with it, no blow jobs, no hand jobs, leave them sit in a corner in chains for hours, no touching you, nothing, those are the things that will make or break someone.

Are you a Master looking for a slave, or are you a weekend warrior that is kinky and likes kinky sex?

From one slave's thinking, sex should be a part of a M/s relationship, after the training is done. Sex is not a slave's right, it is a want and not a need. a Master owns the slave completely, her feelings, her thoughts, her rights, everything.  Master determines what will occur and when.

Do you want to own someone completely, to be accountable for them, be responsible for them. Maybe you just want to love someone and have them love you and being kinky is a plus. Only you can decide that.

Completely owning someone also requires major responsibility. To completely own someone does require a lot of work and micromanagement to a degree. Remember that, owning someone requires constant vigilance and being "on" all the time.

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Talking Dirty/Erotic

Do you like talking dirty/erotic talk?  Why?  What does it do for you sexually? 

*The brain is the largest and by far most powerful sex organ. Words stimulate the brain in multiple areas and can stimulate physical reactions. The right words can make anyone orgasm all by themselves*

I was reading a thread this morning where kinksters were discussing what they like to hear from their partners. 

Some people love to hear erotic talk either shouted or whispered.  Personally I prefer a throaty speak *chuckles* bugger this shouting or whispering speak.  Say it to me so I can hear it… I love the deep growls, the low moans.

There was also discussion how some people are not comfortable using this form of communication during their sexual play.

Some people find it easier to write than orate due to shyness or the inability to express the 'right' words for sexual expression.

I have listed some comments about kinksters thoughts:

Ø              The hard part may be that you are in the sub role and, in my personal experiences, the one doing the dirty talking is usually taking on the dom role. I had a difficult time with talking dirty in a sub role. I kept thinking the dirty, nasty, raunchy, little thoughts in my head were not going to work because voicing them would expose more of me than I was willing to show at that time. Basically, I was embarrassed to admit most of those thoughts.

Ø                I finally got over it by not stopping myself. I tossed the inhibition out the window. I quit trying to over think it and simply thought dirty thoughts, whatever came to mind, and let the thoughts be vocalised. I realised that I got just as turned on by talking dirty as I did when some one else was talking dirty to me. Of course, that led me to taking on more of a dom role. So I'm not so sure if that will help you.  So I guess my advice is: think naughty thoughts and let them flow.

Ø               It is not the words that matter. What I mean is it is not about using cunt cock pussy slut whore etc... . Sure those are very powerful sexual words and may have a trigger point for some. But talking dirty is about the intent behind what you are saying. Do not think of it as a chore and you must think of some prepared speech. When a woman talks dirty to me and "truly" turns me on. It is when you can see it in her eyes feel it in her voice. It is the expression of her honest desires and horniness in the moment that counts, not the content of her words. Anyway, that is just my point of view. I just think we too often. Worry about what we are going to say and do not just let it happen honestly

Ø            It's not necessarily the words that count so much as the tones and inflections or the breathiness to the words; sometimes even where the words are spoken

Ø            I was very shy as well. My dominant asked me if I liked certain things and asked me questions during sex. Such as if I 'liked it when he …..' and I would answer 'Yes'. He would ask me if I was his dirty little slut, for example. I would have to reply with just a smile 'Yes'. He would then get more forceful with me and make me say it to confirm it or repeat what he just asked me. A lot of the time I would be timid, or quiet, and he would make me say it louder, or tell me he didn't believe me, so I could say or repeat it with more conviction. This started to turn me on, and I started saying my own things, slowly but surely, I noticed it turned him on, so in turn, I got more excited and enjoyed saying more things, louder and dirtier... It got easier with time and after I became more comfortable with him.

Ø                  I have NEVER been able to be a quiet fuck. I MUST TALK DIRTY, and even if I am not talking. I will be Growling, Grunting, Moaning, and Screaming throughout. I have found most women enjoy the sound effects, but I have had a few that think I am just too loud and it bothers them.

Ø                 I think doing even a significant portion of the things I've talked dirty about, let alone fantasised about, would put me away somewhere potentially unpleasant for a very, very long time.

Ø                 One of the best things of talking dirty is the reaction it causes in your partner - not only are you tweaking their sense of taboo, but are engaging in the liberating practice of unguarded expression to a loved one. Their willingness to continue playing once you've "uncapped the nasty" is as much of a rush and reassertion of security as the naughtiness itself.

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Now lets talk about words and phrases used for talking dirty:

·        “Fuck that cock harder slut!”

·        "Who's a needy 'lil slut?"

·        "Are you a hungry cockslut?"

·        "Don't you dare cum yet, Mistress is not done with his filthy whore."

·        "that's it babyslut, take that cock"

·        "look how wet, messy, sloppy that cunt arse is"

·        "that's my good little fucktoy"

·        “you’re dirty, nasty, naughty, wanton, eager, needy, fuckdoll, cunt, slut, whore, bitch...

·        “I'm going fuck, use, spank, tease, torment, pass you around like a joint, choke, blindfold, tie you up, put you on display, take you”

·        "You cocksucking little slut. Do you feel like a dirty whore when I talk to you?"

·    man-cunt, man-whore, man-slut, slutsac, slag, tramp, dog, slutpuppy, sticky dicky, cunt hunter, tool, dickbag, slag, bitch, fucktoy, wanker, floozy, slutpig, arse wiggling wench.....

·     HUMILIATION - douche bag, filthy slut, dirty girl, tramp, fuck whore, cocksucking cum slut, bitch, fucktoy, expendable, all you’re good for is..., scum bag, bitch, dirty knees, anal slut, spread your arse cheeks, you worthless piece of shit, useless excrement.

Now the other side of the coin…suggestive talk…

Others’ thoughts:

Ever have someone write you something extremely sexy and romantic without humiliation or reeking of depravity? Something that made you feel like oozing a drizzle of precum until you shudder (or throb deeply inside until you cry 'please fuck me')?

A bit of sensual prose that is expressive can be worth a thousand "come here, bitch” don't you think? Or am I the only one who is turned on by intelligent intercourse? Could be one line, could be a volume!

To me, talking dirty is an art. It's an inspired sort of thing. Some of the sexiest dirty talk I know of are poems or prose.    

Does the following constitute dirty talk?

"Your skin dancing back - rise to the sensual caress of my foot and leg."

"Let my breast fill your hand as I move - I use you to stroke my softness."

"I see that look in your eye and hear you sigh - barely - as I do it."

OR

The rudimentary, vulgar, name-calling, nasty, humiliating and direct approach: 

"Come here. On your stomach. Put your ugly face to good use and lick my ankles and toes until I tell you to stop. Long, wet strokes with your tongue, you cum-licking whore. I know your tongue is softer and longer than that!

You want to hump my leg don't you, you bitch? Do it and stroke until you jerk your little cock on my leg, you mangy bitch. Then let's see how well and how far you can use that nasty tongue of yours. Don't leave a drop.


Come on, you can do better than that! Show me what a cum-sucking, man-cunt of a slut you are. NO, no ! ...slowwww. Take your time. Enjoy that treat. Good boy, stupid pet. Get off. Go lay down. "

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I raised this post because I find talking dirty quite intriguing but I don’t do it too much in my scenes, fucking or lovemaking… but my intention will be to learn from what has been outlined above and to use it more often.  I hope this will help others with improving on their dirty talk too.  Visualise then verbalise!

~Ms Neta~

G Spots - Part IV

Article by Desmond Morris

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The A-Spot, AFE-zone or Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone. Also referred to as the Epicentre, this is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder, described technically as the 'female degenerated prostate'. (In other words, it is the female equivalent of the male prostate, just as the clitoris is the female equivalent of the male penis.) Direct stimulation of this spot can produce violent orgasmic contractions. Unlike the clitoris, it is not supposed to suffer from post-orgasmic over-sensitivity. 

Its existence was reported by a Malaysian physician in Kuala Lumpur as recently as the 1990s. There has been some mis-reporting about it, and its precise position has been incorrectly described by several writers. Its true location is just above the cervix, at the innermost point of the vagina. The cervix of the uterus is the narrow part that protrudes slightly into the vagina, leaving a circular recess around itself. The front part of this recess is called the anterior fornix. Pressure on it produces rapid lubrication of the vagina, even in women who are not normally sexually responsive. It is now possible to buy a special AFE vibrator – long thin and upward curved at its end, to probe this zone. 

Students of female sexual physiology claim (perhaps over-enthusiastically) that if these four erotic centres are stimulated in rotation, one after the other, it is possible for a woman to enjoy many orgasms in a single night. It is pointed out, however, that it takes an extremely experienced and sensitive lover to achieve this. 

It has been claimed that two out of every three women fail to reach regular orgasms from simple penetrative sex. As mentioned above, most of them find that only digital or oral stimulation of the clitoris can be guaranteed to bring them to climax. This must mean that, for them, the two 'hot spots' inside the vagina are not living up to their name. The reason for this, it seems, is monotony in sexual positioning. A group of 27 couples were asked to vary their sexual positions experimentally, employing postures that would allow greater stimulation of the two vaginal 'hot spots', and it was found that three-quarters of the females involved were then able to achieve regular vaginal orgasms.

Desmond Morris, The Naked Woman: A Study of the Female Body, Jonathan Cape, London (2004). This is the best bit.

G Spot - Part III

G Spots:  Desmond Morris

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The G-Spot, or Grafenberg Spot. This is a small, highly sensitive area located 5-8 cm (2-3 inches) inside the vagina, on the front or upper wall. Named after its discoverer, a German gynaecologist called Ernst Grafenberg, it is sometimes romantically referred to as the Goddess Spot. Research into the nature of the female orgasm, carried out in the 1940s, led to the discovery that the female's urethral tube, that lies on top of the vagina, is surrounded by erectile tissue similar to that found in the male penis. When the female becomes sexually aroused, this tissue starts to swell. In the G-spot zone this expansion rebults in a small patch of the vaginal wall protruding into the vaginal canal. It is this raised patch that is, according to Grafenberg, 'a primary erotic zone, perhaps more important than the clitoris'. He explains that its significance was lost when the 'missionary position' became a dominant feature of human sexual behaviour. Other sexual positions are far more efficient at stimulating this erogenous zone and therefore at achieving vaginal orgasms. 

It should be pointed out that the term 'G-spot' was not used by Grafenberg himself. As mentioned above, he called it 'an erotic zone', which is a much better description of it. Unfortunately, the modern use of 'G-spot' as a popular term has led to some misunderstanding. Some women have been led to believe, optimistically. that there is a 'sex button' that can be pressed like a starter button, at any time, to cause an erotic explosion. Disappointed, they then come to the conclusion that the whole concept of a 'G-spot' is false and that it does not exist. The truth, as already explained, is that the G-spot is a sexually sensitive patch of vaginal wall that protrudes slightly only when the glands surrounding the urethral tube have become swollen. Several leading gynaecologists denied its existence when it was first discussed at their conferences, and a major controversy arose, but later, when it was specially demonstrated for their benefit, they changed their minds. Sexual politics also entered the debate, when certain anti-male campaigners rejected out of hand the idea that vaginal orgasm could be possible. For them clitoral orgasm was politically correct and no other would do. How they have reacted to the recent marketing of 'G-spotter' attachments for vibrators is not recorded. 

Astonishingly, there have been recent reports that some women have been undergoing 'G-spot enhancement'. This involves injecting collagen into the G-spot zone to enlarge it. According to one source, 'One of the latest procedures to catch on is G-spot injection. Similar substances to those injected into the lips to plump them up can now be injected into your G-spot. The idea is that this will increase its sensitivity and so give you better orgasms.' This sounds more like an urban myth than a surgical reality, but where female sexual improvements are concerned, almost anything is possible. 

G Spots - Part II

Desmond Morris' article:  G Spots

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The U-Spot. This is a small patch of sensitive erectile tissue located just above and on either side of the urethral opening. It is absent just below the urethra, in the small area between the urethra and the vagina. Less well known than the clitoris, its erotic potential was only recently investigated by American clinical research workers. They found that if this region was gently caressed, with the finger, the tongue, or the tip of the penis, there was an unexpectedly powerful erotic response. 

While on the subject of the female urethra, it is important to mention 'female ejaculation'. In the male, the urethral tube delivers both urine and seminal fluid containing sperm. In the female it is usually believed that it delivers only urine, but this is not the case. When there is an unusually powerful orgasm, some females may emit a liquid from their urethral openings that is not urine. There are specialized glands surrounding the urethral tube, called Skene's glands, or para-urethral glands, similar to the male's prostate, and under extreme stimulation they produce an alkaline liquid that is chemically similar to male seminal fluid. Women who experience ejaculation (which ranges in quantity from a few drops to a few tablespoonfuls), sometimes imagine that the extreme muscular exertions of their climactic moments have forced them into involuntary urination, but this is simply because they do not understand their own physiology. Nor, incidentally, did some medical authorities, who insisted that ejaculating women were suffering from 'urinary stress incontinence' and suggested operations to cure it. (One man recently sued for divorce because he believed that his wife was urinating on him, such is the ignorance of female genital activity.) 

It is not clear what the value of this female ejaculation can be, as its occurrence is clearly a little late to act as an aid to lubrication. Vaginal lubrication is, in fact, carried out by the walls of the vagina themselves, which rapidly become covered in a liquid film when female sexual arousal first begins. 

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I posted this for education purposes

G Spots - Part I

The Clitoris, A-Spot, G-Spot and U-Spot

Desmond Morris

 

In addition to the vaginal passage and its surrounding labia, the female genitals also boast four sexual 'Hot Spots'. These are small zones of heightened erotic sensitivity, the stimulation of which during the mating act helps to bring the female nearer to an orgasmic condition. They are: the Clitoris, the U-spot, the G-spot, and the A-spot. The first two are outside the vagina, the second two inside it: 

The Clitoris. This is the best known of the female genital hot spots, located at the top of the vulva, where the inner labia join at their upper ends. The visible part is the small, nipple-sized, female equivalent of the tip of the male penis, and is partially covered by a protective hood. Essentially it is a bundle of 8000 nerve fibres, making it the most sensitive spot on the entire female body. It is purely sexual in function and becomes enlarged (longer, more swollen, more erect) and even more sensitive during copulation. During foreplay it is often stimulated directly by touch, and many women who do not easily reach orgasm purely from vaginal stimulation find it easier to climax from oral, digital, or mechanical stimulation of the clitoris. 

An Australian surgeon recently reported that the clitoris is larger than previously thought, much of it being hidden beneath the surface. The part that is visible is simply its tip, the rest of its length – its shaft – lying beneath the surface and extending down to surround the vaginal opening. This means that, during pelvic thrusting, its concealed part will be massaged vigorously by the movements of the inserted penis. There will therefore always be some degree of clitoral stimulation, even when the tip is not touched directly. The clitoral shaft is, however, less sensitive than the exposed tip, so that direct contact with the tip will always have a greater impact on female arousal. Some women claim that, by employing a rhythmic, downward roll of the pelvis, they can create a direct friction on the clitoris tip while the male is making pelvic thrusts, and can in this way magnify their arousal, but this requires a more dominant role for the female, which is not always accepted by the male.

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I have posted this article for educational purposes. 

Male Submission...

Male submission was once seen as an obsessive sign of weakness. Now it is recognised as taking a special kind of strength. It has been argued by leading psychologists that it is no more obsessively dysfunctional than any other form of sexuality.

In today’s society, men are finding the courage to throw off stereotypical chains and explore their physical and emotional boundaries.

Thirty years ago, if a man wanted to dress up in his wife’s underclothes, he was judged to be at least unmanly and at best, mentally ill. Today, a more enlightened society recognises his right to escape the confines of a conventional role and voluntarily explore all that he is capable of being, as long as he is sufficiently balanced to ensure he does no lasting harm to himself or others.

After all, macho man is allowed to break his own limbs, risk death and injure playmates in the pursuit of such pastimes as boxing, climbing, rugby football and recognised “extreme sports”, whilst those in search of bodily or spiritual perfection exercise and deprive themselves, subjecting themselves to all kinds of emotional, mental and physical regimes, not least in media and competitive environments or in the armed forces.

Male submission was once seen as an obsessive sign of weakness. Now it is recognised as taking a special kind of strength. It has been argued by leading psychologists that it is no more obsessively dysfunctional than any other form of sexuality, including the accepted ideal of falling in love in a normal, heterosexual relationship leading to marriage and honeymoon period, where a man is expected to be consumed by thoughts of sexual satisfaction to the point that society recognises his need to remain undisturbed with the object of his fixation

It is this kind of intensity of intimacy, stimulus, satisfaction and release that a man seeks in submission.

He may be looking for relief from the stresses of a demanding or dangerous job or a stressful social situation. He may be looking for acceptance as a rounded human being with unrepressed emotions and love of sensual stimulus.

He may crave a situation in which he can prove himself, his devotion, his self-discipline and his courage. Or he may be seeking more sophisticated sexual stimulus than that of a “Vanilla” or conventional relationship which has lost its intensity.

He may long to be encouraged, even forced, to do things which fascinate, but repel him, because he has been conditioned to believe they are unacceptable. These acts may range from enforced chastity, to nakedness and humiliation or from wearing beautiful fabrics to indulging in “weaknesses” such as emotional or theatrical expression or simple abdication of all responsibility.

In particular, many men are so confused and insecure about their ability to meet the needs of their female partners that they prefer to be instructed how best to satisfy them, without the responsibility of taking initiatives or performing approaches which may be unwelcome.

But perhaps the greatest need a submissive male has from a Dominant woman is acceptance, of all that he is or could be, of his needs, his fears, his weaknesses and his failures and of his desire to please. This acceptance leads to a mutual trust and reciprocal delight in which, once mutual trust has been established and boundaries negotiated, both partners can confidently expect to be able to ask for and receive the satisfactions they crave. Once the bedroom door is closed, there are no longer any rules beyond the ones they make for themselves.

http://socyberty.com/sexuality/explaining-male-submission-what-men-want-from-a-dominant-woman/

What is Squirting?

Squirting:  Its not your vagina that is squirting...it is urethral tissue based clear transparent fluid expelled not from the vulva, but out of the urethra in gushes. The fluid has no urinary character...squirts are secretions of the intraurethral glands correlated with the erotogenic zone along the urethra in the anterior vaginal wall.

Second, multiple gushes are common in about 75% of women who have experienced squirting (60% of all women have experienced squirting).

Prostate Milking

Front view of prostate

Prostate milking is very different from anal orgasm, as I have discovered not long ago. 

First for the milking, I found its best done from both sides, your finger/fingers on his prostate, and your thumb on the outer side, on his perineum, you will feel when you are hitting the spot, from both sides produces a strong vocal indication. Usually I have 4 fingers in the inside and the thumb on the outside.  

Now, if I am only aiming at milking, (creating pre cum fluid) I am teasing, very gentle massage on the outer edges, very lightly in the middle always observing reaction.  If he is on the brink I'd stop and start again.   

Side view of prostate

If I am aiming at orgasm, then firm and purposeful massage, will tip him over the edge.  It is very similar to the g-spot massage, with the difference that we as women have this default condition not to cum and only something special sends us over the edge; men have default reaction of cumming unless instructed otherwise, or physically stopped.