Ideas for degrading fun

From one of my online boys from many years ago... just sharing, and please feel free to try the ideas...

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I'm always looking for creative ways for my Mistress to degrade me when she doesn't feel like having sex but is amused by my need to orgasm. 

Following are seven ideas for our play. Would love to hear what you think and have you add your own suggestions.

1. Red Light, Green Light. Have him start and stop masturbating on command until he cums.

2. Mistress Says. He must follow every command that begins with “Mistress Says…” For example, order him to strip, play with himself, twist his own nipples, bend over and show you his ass, spank himself, get down on all fours and show his thrusting technique and of course, “Mistress says cum!” Your choice if he has to lap it up or not.

3. 10 Seconds: He has 10 seconds to make himself cum on your command, or he goes to bed hard. He’s not allowed to touch his cock till you give the 10-second command, but you can decide how much other non-cock stimulation/teasing he receives before you tell him “Go!”

For example you could have him stand naked before you with his hands on his head and his legs spread and you can tease and torture him as your mood dictates. If you don’t feel like touching him, you can order him to perform various acts on himself similar to those in Mistress Says before his 10-second countdown.

4. Lap it up: Order him to masturbate onto a plate and then get down on all fours and lap it up till it’s all gone. Explain that if he doesn’t do it, he won’t have sex or be allowed to masturbate for a week and at the end of the week, he’ll just have to jerk off and eat it, or face another week of denial.

5. Look Mistress No Hands: Ram a dildo in and out of his ass and make him cum without touching himself. For added spice, tie his hands and/or make him lap it.

6. Give him a buzz. Order him to lay perfectly still (or tie him spread eagle if you prefer) and apply a high speed, powerful vibrator to his cock and balls. When you find the spot you like, just hold it there and let the tension build till he explodes. If you’re feeling wicked afterward, continue to use the vibrator on his manhood till he screams and begs you for mercy.

7. In Your Face. Have him lie on his back with his ass in the air and his legs jackknifed to his shoulders so that his cock is pointing down at his face. Stand over him for the best view and have him jerk off into his waiting mouth.

The humble Humbler!

My submissive bill needs to feel the firm restraint of a humbler.  What do you think?

Keeping him on his knees where he belongs with a premium Humbler made with a clear gloss finish. Exclusive hinged design makes application a dream. The custom made snap lock provides a secure restraint, even when his hands are free.

Task for trainee: 20/12/11

A new task I set for my trainee was requested on 20/12/11.  I decided to go a little personal in order to see what sort of enthusiasm this would elicit from him. 

I wanted him to feel my presence throughout the day and so a simple task of tying his cock up all day was requested.  However the catch was, and as a test, I wanted him to do something different in each pic so I knew he was wearing it all day.  He did.  Below are the pics sent to me.  The first one was at 8.00am sharp, 12.00pm sharp and 5.00pm.  He impressed me with his punctuality.

He did well, and he found it extremely exciting.  I said the tasks I set will not always be exciting some of them will be downright boring but he is OK with that... as he should be.

Mind Fucks 5

o      A mind fuck is a way to confuse the senses and bring out subspace. For example, blind fold you, tie you up, boil a pot of water, put it under your chin so you can feel the steam, tell you I am going to pour it on you, but instead pout a cup of cold water instead. It can be sensation play, commands, positional, it can be anything really as long as it gives you a surge of fear, and then calm, or calm then fear. Its fun, you should find someone experienced in mental sadism to try it with.

o      This may be a bit more mild, but it was still really fun considering I try to "hide" my emotion by avoiding eye contact. It's still there, but I don't have to see him react to it. So once he forced me to hold eye contact while he tweaked my nips--which make me painfully horny without getting me off--and he would count for how long I had to hold it. but then he would pause! and contemplate his fingers or a dot on my skin. he would vary it by slowing down or counting 5 "and a half" or go back two counts. If I broke eye contact, he would most definitely start over. All this varying with steady counting for the alternation between calm and fear as SidDMic said. He really enjoys seeing the panic in my eyes and then hope when the counting evens out again and all the activity in my head that catches itself trying to get away.

o      Another one is to tie up a blindfolded sub/slave in a chair, tell them that the next sound that they hear is you spreading thin glass (like lightbulb thin) on the floor. Similate the sound of such glass falling in a circle around them while spreading classic potato chips. Then untie them and force them to walk over the "glass". Hee hee

What is Power Exchange?

A discussion on power exchange that I found extremely interesting to read and to obtain knowledge.  All contributions have been credited.


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In the world of commerce an exchange is generally considered to be where a buyer and a seller “exchange” value for value, i.e. a product is exchanged for money. The exchange is negotiated in such a way that the amount of money paid is equal to the value of the product in usefulness. In the Leather Lifestyle, people often talk of a power exchange, or an energy exchange. In this exchange there is still the basis of value for value. In a Dominant/submissive relationship this exchange is very important; it is the foundation of the relationship.

In a successful D/s relationship the principles of value for value in the exchange should be the same as in commerce. Many will speak of the D/s relationship as not being equal in that the Dominant is the one in control, the one in the power position. However, equal does not always mean the same, it can mean equal value. The Dominant gives to the submissive those things that nurture and support the relationship, provides stability and direction. The submissive gives to the Dominant those things that nurture and supports the relationship, provides stability and partnership. The particular “gifts” from each one may be different in outward appearance, but the value of each should balance.

What each gives to the relationship is a part of themselves and the degree to which they give is the measure of the value. The relationship, to be successful and on going, must have balance much like the balance in a ledger book. The perceived value the partner gets are the assets and the difference in what is received verses what is expected are the debits. Each action, each inaction of the partners is recorded in the ledger book as either an asset or a debit. Any single action or inaction, whether asset or debit, may have little consequence, but the sum of all actions impacts the value given or received.  r

It is important for each partner to work toward a positive balance in the relationships ledger book. Each choice, each action or lack of action is recorded in the relationship. Each partner must be aware of their contribution and what side of the ledger the contribution is recorded.  NCMaster

This point is one of the reasons I strongly dislike the trend amongst 'some' s types toward the whole "my submission is a gift" tosh. Their whole assumption and attitude is that they are the only ones bringing anything of value to the table. They totally disregard the value of Dominance, the responsibility being taken up by the Dominant partner, the stability, structure and building that needs work to build and maintain consistently.

Ying and yang are not the same but they are complimentary and equal in value, it takes BOTH to create a stable lasting balance.  RavenMuse

What each gives to the relationship is a part of themselves and the degree to which they give is the measure of the value. The relationship, to be successful and on going, must have balance much like the balance in a ledger book. The perceived value the partner gets are the assets and the difference in what is received verses what is expected are the debits. Each action, each inaction of the partners is recorded in the ledger book as either an asset or a debit. Any single action or inaction, whether asset or debit, may have little consequence, but the sum of all actions impacts the value given or received.

It is important for each partner to work toward a positive balance in the relationships ledger book. Each choice, each action or lack of action is recorded in the relationship. Each partner must be aware of their contribution and what side of the ledger the contribution is recorded.

This in my opinion is wonderfully said. Is it romantic? Perhaps not, but realistic- absolutely. We each have needs that must be met or the relationship will wither and fade. Good relationships take real work but the reward when both parties commit to fostering and caring for it is a great one. I believe it is important to take responsibility for yourself and your actions. Instead of thinking, 'Gee, what has my Owner/Master/Dominant /sub/slave/pet done for me lately?' your focus instead should be, 'Have I been doing all that I agreed to do? Lately has my focus been on fulfilling my end of the bargain?' Also equally important, is to recognize and praise all the things that are being done RIGHT. 'Thank you Master/Mistress/Sir/Ma'am/slave/sub/pet for doing 'X' and being 'Y', please know that I appreciate your actions.'

For better or worse, we are the sum total of our parts. Working to improve ourselves a little at a time ultimately improves our interactions and relationship as a whole.  Miss Rebecca

How To?

How would or could a woman go about kidnapping a man without having to resort to having male helpers?

Comments from others:

Intimidation I think can play a big part of a female kidnapping a male. She could use a weapon in the most obvious setting to get him somewhere and keep him quiet. Once he's somewhere secure she could then tie him and he would be all hers.

Less obvious ways you could have a scenario where the couple pretend to be on a date. They could get in the car at the end of the 'date', with the woman driving and she offers to let him smell her new perfume. She soaks some of the new perfume on to a handkerchief and when he realises it's actually chloroform she could produce a weapon and force him to keep smelling. Then it's a continuation of what happened above she can use the weapon to get him out of the car and in to a more secure location.

I know it's difficult given that as fantasists  - we strive for a degree of reality. But even when I am the kidnapper I know I would struggle to carry a dead weight and get it in to my car safely. The element of co-operation from the victim is going to be present in our games I think. I got mock kidnapped by an ex/gf outside Waterloo Station in London one time. Of course I knew what the game was, so when she pulled in to a car park and gagged me I was compliant. We ended up in lock up garage which was her 'lair' where she tied me and played with me.

I hope that helps!

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I think my problem with both of those is that the weapon is a bit too risky as a man might still be inclined to struggle and since this is a real endeavour the woman is not going to want to stab him.

Again Chloroform is a very dangerous drug and not one I would feel comfortable employing, on the other hand there are safer sedatives which might work. (I realise of course none are without risk)
I a real threat (I.e pain, or damage to something sentimental, or blackmail, or monetary...)

Combined with some initial handicapping that the man could be tricked into (ie blind fold or handcuffs) sounds most feasible to me.

Certainly, if a woman I was playing with was holding a cattle prod for instance I would be more scared of that, as she could use that but I would never believe she would actually stab me.

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Sorry, I realise chloroform for real is v.dangerous and I wouldn't advocate a real weapon as you say. There's got to be an element of pretend and playing along, so I have used a toy pistol or a handkerchief with some perfume or after shave on.

It's just a symbol at the end of the day that you have to comply with the kidnapper. I'm sure we would all love a danger free version of chloroform but that's not going to happen so we have to all come up with alternatives.

I like your trickery/blackmail idea, could be some fun to be had with that as a method.

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When it comes to real life scenarios. It has usually been when a man kidnaps a woman, it will be a single male committing the act. There are even situations where a single male could capture more than one woman at once.

But when it is a woman capturing or kidnapping a male and then raping him, it is usually a group of women working together.

So in the fantasy play, it would probably play out in that way too.

Another situation that could work is when a woman is flirting with a man, the man will usually be off-guard not expecting aggressive or criminal behavior from a woman. So a woman could easily pull out a pair of handcuffs and slap them on his wrists. Most men wouldn't expect anything. Once he is immobilized he belongs to the woman and she can do whatever she wants. This would be especially true if there is a huge size difference. If a 6'8" football player is handcuffed by a little 4 foot tall cute young woman, he isn't going to have his guard up. Especially if she seems to be flirting.

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I have a similar scenario that I play in my brain. A rather small young woman (or a tall young girl) is cornered in a room or even in a forest where she realizes she cannot run away from this big brute and the obvious bulge in his pants.

She decides to take the initiative and turn the tables by flirting and saying that she has to get into the mood slowly. She starts by slowing manoeuvering him against a tree or a wall then start to undo his trousers. At this point of course he figures he is as good as in. She drops his pants around his ankles. Now he cannot run after her should anything go wrong.

The head of his huge cock extends out the top of the elastic band on his BVDs and she says let me see how big it is. At the same time she puts her hand in his underwear and pushes down exposing his now totally erect soon to be useless weapon and pushes the elastic under his scrotum so that his balls are now pushed upward and outward making a purrrfect target.

At the same time she has put her hands under his armpits and on his shoulders pulling herself off he ground by up to 12 inches and hanging there. At the same time she now quickly lifts her tiny knee and plants it directly in his scrotum. A look of astonishment and fear quickly grips his pathetic brain as he realizes his predicament. She throws her weight forward to keep him from falling on top of her. In rapid succession she pulls herself up each time she raises her knee into the target, his huge balls. One, two, three she continues to lift and kick each time doubling the impact by pulling upward with her arms. His balls are hers!

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In a fantasy with a degree or realism (somewhat like requiring a set of natural rules, in SciFi), barring superior weaponry or surprise, the usual situation would be that the woman is aided by other women or men. Is that not how gangs function? Now, for example, if a group of aggressive women picked off one man at a time, then they could divvy up the prizes later, after all of the captives are secured. 

But also, I disagree that in any given pairing, the woman is naturally weaker, slower, smaller, or less skilled than the man, so that she could not overpower him. Statistically, yes, because men are ON AVERAGE bigger, stronger and/or faster, but many random individual pairings fall far from the norm of the combined distributions. 

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As already suggested above, she could handcuff him when the guys guard is down. A more interesting scenario (done to George on Seinfeld) would be that the woman would get the guy into her bedroom and then get him to agree to be handcuffed because it turns her on so much, THEN turn the tables on him after he's cuffed.

The other ways I'm thinking a woman could immobilize a man would be her dressed/acting as some kind of cop/agent and 'arrest' him, or use a stun gun/threaten to use a stun gun especially on his groin.

Because a woman by herself is usually not going to be as strong as the guy, there is the need for her to deceive/outsmart the guy to get him restrained. As a male sub that would make the game more exciting to me.

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Whenever I'm writing up a femdom story, I like emphasizing the size differential. To me, there's something strangely erotic about a smaller woman taking down a larger man. I usually write non-consensual stories though, which means not only subduing the larger man, but keeping control of him. Getting the guy drunk and/or drugging his drink is how my female characters usually get control. Although I've also introduced a kick to the balls, a taser, or chloroform into some stories to overcome the male.

If trying to replicate in a roleplay with a consenting partner, how about this? You meet the woman at a bar and you're both drinking alot, but she's secretly substituting something else for alcohol so that she remains sober. Then when it comes time to leave, she tells you that you are in no condition to drive and offers to drive you home. On the way home she stops in a remote location she's chosen in advance, climbs over on top of you as if she's suddenly gotten the urge for sex, and starts pulling your shirt off. When your arms go back as you try to get them out of the sleeves, she leans into you (maybe with her breasts in your face for distraction), reaches around behind you (supposedly to help you get the shirt off) and quickly snaps cuffs on your elbows or wrists. And while you're still trying to make sense of what just happened, she slaps a piece of duct tape over your lips and pulls a hood (it doesn't have to be a leather or rubber bondage hood, but just a bag) over your head to restrict your senses.

At this point there are several ways this could go. She could just tighten down your seatbelt to keep you in the passenger seat (assuming you're not worried about running into the police on the way to your destination) or pull you out of the car and march you around to the trunk and shove you in. Your legs might still be free, but blinded by the hood and in a remote location, where are you going to run? And are you going to try anything when you don't know where your female tormenter is or what she is about to do. Is she behind you about to kick you behind the knees to bring you down? Or in front of you about to kick you in the balls? Does she have a knife? If so, what direction is she going to come at you from? Of course, since it's consensual roleplay, we're talking about an implied threat rather than actual violence. Knowing you're helpless to defend yourself, you climb into the trunk rather than resisting.

Then again, that remote location (i.e. a deserted warehouse) could be the destination and she could be leading you elsewhere instead of the trunk of the car. bwahahahahaha

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Just thinking about it makes me drool. Being helpless and forced in the trunk then taken somewhere and raped by a woman.

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Instructions on how to talk dirty

1. Tell them what you're going to do. ("I'm going to put my thumb in your ass.")

2. Tell them what you're doing. ("My thumb is in your ass right now.")

3. Tell them what you did. ("Remember when I had my thumb in your ass?")

Another important one to keep in mind... Tell them what you want them to do. Also, use lots of naughty words.

I love it when they tell me how it feels. 'I feel like such a depraved whore', 'Your mighty strap on is stretching my ass Miss, like never before', 'I'm so ashamed, I am supposed to be a man, and yet I am bent over, holding my cheeks apart, allowing you to make me your bitch' or 'My cock is so hard, it aches, it throbs for you Miss, I think I'm going to come as soon as I take your 8 inches, in deep' etc.

Dirty Talk question

I saw this discussion and thought it would be an interesting read to place in my blog.

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What is it about "dirty" talk that excites you? does written, verbal, or all "dirty" talk turn you on? Has there ever been a time when "dirty" talk, in and of itself, made you cum? Please tell us?

Comments from others:

Unexpected and sincere.

hmmm- when I'm told to say it.. that helps ;) & no it hasn't made me cum but it kinda helps ;)

 

I agree! I hope all the dudes will talk away from this conversation that we LOVE being called "good girl!!" I also love being told what I'm going to need to do to "earn" my orgasm right before I'm about to have it.

 

Pushes my head down and says suck my cock, bitch.

For me, the sounds and sentiments (as well as the warmth of her breath on my skin, especially in my ear) connects to something primal inside me, and inflames my lust until I become a beast, capable of licking, biting, sucking and fucking my partner until neither of us can move. Your mileage may vary. ;)

 

You’re a hot bitch.

 

It always increases My desire and helps Me get hard and of course helps Me cum while I am fucking or being sucked off. And it is a big help for My pet to make her cum quicker and more often!!

All of it.

 

It adds to the heat, especially in humiliation play. Even in vanilla play, I love hearing a lover say "Fuck my sopping wet cunt."

 

All of it, but when a man talks me through an orgasm like a good girl...ugghhhh!

 

When he pulls my hair, and growls “sexy slut”.

Mind Fucks 3 discussion

How do you define a “Mind fuck”? And, what in your experience has been a good one you have received/given?

Mistress Meg

The best mind fuck I did to someone else and I didn't even realise I was doing it at the time.

I had instructed my then sub to wait for me at his house in the very early morning (4am) with two candles burning in his bedroom and the front door slightly ajar. The rest of the house was to be dark and the dog tied up outside.

He was to be naked and kneeling blindfolded beside the bed.

When I walked in it just took my breath away. I could actually see goosebumps on his skin and watching him breathe heavily before I even touched him....well divine. It made my very being ache to touch him.

I spoke softly as I moved about getting myself and a couple of things ready. When I touched him he jumped a mile and I giggled softly.

modesty inserted So things progressed very nicely from there.

The mind fuck? I hear you ask.

Well, afterwards he told me that he was CONVINCED that with the way I spoke and moved about while he was blindfolded, that I had brought one or even two people inside with me !!!!

Glorious :P

Lady Midnite

One of my favorite mind fucks I ever did was while I was at a plat party one night. I was doing some knife play on a boy and "accidentally slit his throat". Hehehehe. (Thanks for the help on that one silas! I still laugh every time I think about it.)

Switch

Hmmm it seems i remember that one. he he. I remember playing a new girl one night and once her hands were tied over her head i brought out a set of clothes pins about 8 in long and 2 in wide. They are scarry as hell to look at and i turned to her and said i have been waiting for some wonderful nipples to put these on. I thought she would wet herself. lol She started wiggling trying to get loose it was so nice to watch. The thing is they are so un scarry i put one on my tongue and it did not have enough strength to stay on it fell off. But like it says it is all in the mind.
silas

River Butch

I'm willing to share, but please don't try to tell me how stupid it was or dangerous. I was well aware of the danger and what could have happened, but I had full trust in the people that performed this scene.

I attended a very private party. Someone I knew quite well was also invited to this party. She knows that I'm not into bondage, but that soon came into her plan. She had planned out this scene with another Dominant, of course I had no clue. As I was sitting there she approached me with rope in hand, asked me to remove my shirt so she could try out a new tie. I thought nothing of it, and did as she asked. My hands and arms were bound, rather tightly, then she asked me to stand. She removed my pants, and told me she was going to bind my hands to my feet. Again I went along, seeing no harm in her actions.

Next thing I know is a hood was placed over my head, I remember wondering what I had then gotten myself into. I felt two people life me from where I sat, and move me to a spot where my hands were them bound over my head. Yes at this point I'm thinking.. "Oh Shit"

I am left there for what seemed like forever, then I begin to feel her breath on my neck, then I feel something very cold leaning up against my flesh. She removes the hood and before my eyes, she flashes a gun. Yes, I said a Gun. I watched her as she walked around the room, I looked into the eyes of the other people watching.

I knew from the type of work she does that she would Never approach anybody in such a manner with a weapon that could actually be fired. She had no intentions of causing death, but at that point my mind was so out there, all I could do was trust her.

She returned to me and an integration scene began. When I refused to speak, she grabbed my hair, pulling my head back, thus opening my mouth. She placed the barrel of that gun in my mouth and told me she was going to blow me away.... I remember looking briefly into her eyes, just before I heard that gun go "Click"

I think for a moment I passed out, I know I peed all over the floor. She had taken me way beyond any edge that I had ever imagined. But once was enough, I'd never do that again.

Just so you know the woman I spoke about is an FBI agent, and a member of SWAT. So I trusted myself to her, knowing her knowledge and skill. Other wise, this scene would have Never taken place.

Outlaw Tiny

The best mind fuck I've ever given someone would be, I had a transvestite tied in their kitchen doorway hands above there head ankles tied at the bottom secured to each side of the doorjam not exactly spreadeagle but close . There was a nice butcherblock in the kitchen complete with a clevor I slid the block over in front of her and tied a 1/4 rope around the bottom of the block pulling her cock down and holding it against the block . I then blindfolded her and started with a bit of knife play . I then teased her about chopping of her cock for a bit. Then I grabbed the clevor and with one hard blow chopped the rope holding her cock setting it free bobbing in the air and she came . Afterwards we talked and she told me she thought I really chopped it off till I pulled off the blindfold . Ive done other mindfucks aswell like giving someone a tattoo with a tattoogun but with no ink .

Tom the Dom

ok, so here come some of my tamed mind-fucks.

get a cat-food can, and open it with those can openers that remove the lid so you can close it again. empty the cat food. (give it to stray cats if you have none). clean the cat food can
cook home made goulash. fill it into the can

serve it to your guests from the can, heated up in a water bath :D

eat your own portion with delight

if you want to ante it up, invite them for a HELLO KITTY THEMED DINNER

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along the same lines and not cooked up by me, but by a famed Czech theater (and cinema) actor, during the communist reign no less... on a flight to Prague from a fellow east block country.... he smuggled meat salad into the plane

mid flight with turbulences he ate the sald (filled his mouth) and than faked to get sick. he grabbed the puking bags, and "puked" (spit it out) in such a manner everyone had to notice. once that was completed he took a fork and ate it back up from the bag

the whole plane fell for his mind fuck and puled... but they didnt eat it back up

giggles

Ms Neta

A mini 'mind fuck' was - my submissive prepares me a picnic lunch once a fortnight. White crockery, glassware, cloth serviettes - its very 'refined'. He serves me an entree: salmon and cream cheese, or brie on cracker bisuits. Main: will be a meat sandwich with salad. Dessert: A homemade fruit salad or a cream dessert. OK I just had to give you a picture of how well my boy pampers me.

I advised him to be at my workplace, 1.00pm sharp, with my lunch. No problems. At 11.30am, I sent him to text to be at my workplace 12.30pm sharp. He freaked as he was still in the supermarket buying the goodies... oops, wrong story.

A few weeks back I sent bill a text to say "where are you, I'm waiting for you outside for our lunch get together." He freaked (he does this often ha ha ha). "but, but, but Mistress I didn't realise we were meeting today". We weren't, but I was in a playful mood. It took him a while to calm down from that mini mind fuck angelic smile -he hates to disappoint me in any way.

Wicked Mz Toni

I started playing with a new guy I met at the munch. He wanted to be my devoted personal servant and talked about all the experience he had. I told him that I was extremely sadistic and that I might be too much for him, that he should ask around.

We had our first dungeon date. I like to do a 'mapping' where I take all sort of toys to the date and see what they do. It was pretty obvious that all his 'experience' had been was being lightly spanked (probably by a prodomme).

I had him tied securely to a massage table and was doing a bit of cbt. He wasn't going anywhere.

I pulled out my scuba knife and told him to hold VERY still, my knive was extremely sharp and that if he were to move just a little bit into the blade, he might be very badly cut and that I didn't want that to happen to him.

I made sure he knew he was completely immobilized and then started running the knife over his body. I started acting all crazy, telling him how much I loved the the look and feel of blood and sometimes I found it hard to control myself around it. I made sure to show him that crazy, vacant look in my eyes. You know, the lunatic gaze...

I took the point of the knife and had it over his trachea and was holding it in such a manner that I could easily plunge it into his throat.

While still holding the knife over his throat, I whispered in his ear, "If you want to live for me, you had better be prepared to die for me." and made a move like I was going to push it into his throat.

He started shaking uncontrollably with fear. I imagine this sort of fear is what serial killers got off on. It was delicious!

That knife was dull as hell and probably couldn't have opened a letter ....later on he told me, "I've rafted down class 5 rapids, I've jumped out of an airplane and had my parachute fail, but I've never been more afraid in my life!!!

kohinoorD

I define it as an altered state of mind, where your mind tells you x is happening, but in fact something else is happening. Example - you see the top get his knife out, and maybe even demonstrate how sharp it is.. are then blindfolded, cant see anymore, but you feel the knife on your skin.. you might be bound and gagged too, there might be a body-bag waiting on the floor near you, who knows. You may even feel the insertion of the knife into various crevices. Eeks! Or so your mind is telling you. ;)

Ultimately, it turns out that at no point in time did the blade ever touch your body. It was the spine of the blade, or even just the edge of a credit card. LOL

That was a pretty good one I received, a couple years ago. I remember feeling fear, for real. And fear is not an emotion I feel often.

I believe I am currently going through what may come to be the best mind-fuck ever, in my experience, but I don't think I can tell of it just yet ;P

Tom the Dom

actually even tame "phrases" used in the spankng thene are mind fucks...

• wait till we get home

• you will be crying your eyes out long before this is over

• thats enough bratting, young lady ...

to name a few

kohinmoor

@Tom - Yes, the mind has a way of interpreting these phrases and lending associations to them, that are sometimes quite out of touch with reality ;P

Tom the Dom

@kohinoorD

yes, it has. a mind fuck could maybe defined as a play on fears

kohinoorD

@Tom - It doesn't have to be fears, specifically. It can be anxieties, or on the other end - fantasies. Every deviant mind and his or her warped patterns, yanno? A mind-fuck that hasn't to do with fears can be dropping hints at say.. a collaring/wedding. LOL

Tom the Dom

kohinoorD,

it can be and yet it plays with fears... because anxieties, and anticipations, dwell in fear as well
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but i am tired and maybe just wrong.

you are right about the fantasies.

setting a mind in fire with smoke, like Amergin once wrote

kohinoorD

Tom, interesting food for thought. No pun intended :)

Tom the Dom

ok reporting a beautiful mind fuck...

i had mentioned elsewhere on FL, that my fetlist would make for a nice punishment ... count the fetishes...... write it down by hand ...(learn by heart as the worst of all) giggles.

a friend of mine read the post and when we YIMmed told me, to forget that punishment on her because she wouldnt do it ever - its way over the top.

we kept chatting and she said something or the other and i told her that she now is in trouble - (she had mildly crosse dme). anyway so she kept teasing and watcha gonna do and stuff, so i said well i will double your trouble. she kept going and i asked in a seripous tone if she realyl wants me to triple the trouble she is in?

she snapped back into her true self, and apologized and asked. so what is the trouble i am in about (as in what punishment equals trouble)

i told her, calmly, that single trouble would have been writing down my fetlist, but as she wanted double the trouble, she is to write is down on paper twice

she paled. well, she stopped communicating, and then started to REALLY APOLOGIZE

i told her dont worry, i just mind fucked you

thanks for being such a good punishee.

see?

beautiful mind fuck.

Humiliatrixx

Ahhhhhhhhh the mind and the many ways you can fuck it inside and out! hahahaha

One of my favorites and one I will never ever forget.

I had my boy bound, doing some flogging, cbt, etc..

He had always had a dislike/limit for knives. He knew I loved knife play, but I never pushed it with him. This particular day, I made sure he could see the knives in my bag, before I blindfolded him, I continued with the cbt, flogging n such. Then I went to the restroom, had an empty syringe that I had filed the tip on, made it feel like a knife. Filled the syringe with warm lube. I walked up to him, teasing his body, whispered in his ear and asked if he trusted me. He said he did.

I began slowly dragging the tip of the syringe along his chest, very lightly at first, adding pressure here and there, and allowing a bit of the lube to just ooze out. Before long he was soaring, I loved seeing his chest rise, begging for more. After I was done, I released him from the bindings, took the blindfold off, I had to snicker because he didn't look to see what (if) anything was done to his chest. Instead he snuggled at my feet, coming down from subspace. Finally he looked up and asked if he could go look in a mirror, I said he could.

He was very disappointed that he didn't have any actual markings, came back to my feet and begged for me to mark him. He still has no clue, it's been over 10 yrs, and when we talk, he still talks about that night, like it was yesterday ;) In his mind, I used knives... but in actuality I didn't lol. After that night we enjoyed many knife play scenes and he loved them!!!

Tom the Dom

@AngelDeR. i love your testimony showing how healing even a mind fuck can be :)

Slave2hersadism

@AngelDaRainha The intensity of that scene is both scary and intriguing to me Mistress. i know how Your boy must have felt because i have felt You get inside my head in the same way many times. Not as a mind fuck, but inside my head as You taunt and tease me as if You know my every desire

Humilatrixx

Another one of my favorites was with the same guy. He was bound to the bed, spread eagle and blindfolded. I toyed with him for quite awhile, before a knock came at the door (I had pre-arranged for a hotel worker to come deliver a newspaper at that time), I stepped outside, just enough all he could hear was mumbles. When I came back in, I slipped into the restroom which was right by the door... put on a new perfume (one I never used before), different outfit. I began toying with him again, but in a different mannerism, changed my responses to no words, just sounds in a different tone so he had NO clue it was me the whole time, he truly thought it was someone else, infact he still thinks that 10+ yrs down the road.

The Zen of Submission

I came across this along time ago and I am unable to credit the person who created it.  My apologies, and thank you to the writer.  Its an interesting read...and task.

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Quiet reflection on who and what you are and who and what you desire can bring peace, arousal, and hopefully a better understanding of what you want from BDSM.

Items Required – Collar or ribbon Any phallic object (a real sex toy or some other phallic object) 2 clothespins or nipple clamps Ruler Candle and matches (test the candle wax first on the back of your hand prior to beginning) Small blanket or towel Kitchen Timer.

Task – At the same time every day for 5 days you will perform this ritual. You can do this in the morning, afternoon or evening it is up to you but make time for it in your busy day, make it a priority. It should also be a time when you have peace and quiet. If you need to get up early please do so.

Each day’s session will be the same but you will vary your submissive activity during each session. You will begin in a dimly lit and quiet room, you will strip naked and put your small blanket on the floor (fold it so that it is just big enough to sit on). You will sit or kneel on the blanket in a way that is comfortable for you. Set your timer for 15 minutes and perform the following –

Day 1 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise you collar/ribbon to your mouth and kiss it. A collar is a symbol of control and your submission. Contemplate that while buckling/tying your collar around your throat. Once your collar is on you will sit straight and proud and with your hands fingers interlaced behind your neck so that you are touching your collar.

Day 2 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your phallic symbol to your mouth and kiss it. This symbolic cock is a sign of control you give to a Master or Mistress. It is the losing of yourself completely to their sexual and emotional control if only for brief moments that you offer your submission. Contemplate that while slipping the phallic object into your mouth and holding it there. You will sit straight and proud and with your fingers wrapped around your own cock or slipped between your pussy lips aware of the sexuality you offer.

Day 3 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your clothespins or clamps to your mouth and kiss them. These are symbols that your body is not always your own while participating in this scene. It is the offering up of your body that you offer up your submission. Contemplate that while placing one on each nipple. You will sit straight and proud and with your hand lifting up your breasts (female) or resting just under your nipples (male) as if offering them to a Mistress or Master.

Day 4 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your ruler your mouth and kiss it. This is a symbol of the pain you offer to accept from your Mistress or Master. It is the offering up of this acceptance of pain that you will often find your submission. Contemplate that while giving yourself one smack on each inner thigh and one to your cock or pussy. You will then sit straight and proud and with the ruler between your teeth and you will give to yourself again any necessary smacks should the sting subside.

Day 5 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your candle to your mouth and kiss it. This is a symbol of the extraordinary sexual deviations you will offer to your Mistress or Master. It is the offering up of this wax on your body that you offer up your submission. Light your candle and contemplate that while dripping a line of wax down your chest so that it drips towards your sex. You will then sit straight and proud and with the candle in your hands.


While doing each of these you will sit quietly for your 15 minutes. Each day you should consider a new mantra of sorts. I am or I offer to my Master/Mistress __. (Fill in the blank daily.).  Repeat this in your head, close your eyes and picture yourself as you are here offering your submission. When your time is up get up slowly, clean up as necessary and go about your day.


Reporting – At the end of this Task you will submit a report detailing this experience. Briefly describe each day. What time did you perform? Any thoughts or feelings while you performed? Any other ideas, thoughts or feelings you would like to share.

Mind Fucks - 2

A post raised in my group six months ago.  Because it is about mind fucks, I just had to post it here.

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I have never really been into major mind fucks, occasionally I will use a lessor one on a sub, usually just enough to make him cringe a little.

Has anyone come across someone who has been psychologically damaged by a mind fuck? What were the long term results, and was the mind fuck the cause or did it bring something buried deep to the surface?

Miss S

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Ms N

One mind fuck which caused a bad memory to surface happened to me a couple of years back.

A submissive I had been conversing with for quite a while was very focussed on take-down/kidnapping type of play. New to me. Anyhoo, we conversed for months and I asked questions to get an idea about the type of play he wished to experience.

The time came around for the play.

It did not go down well at all!! The effect it had on him sent him slightly over the edge, and caused me concern. His marriage broke down, and he split up. He returned to me to experience the play again. I was disturbed by the psychological effect it had on him, and the emotional need he was seeking from me and of course refused to engage. I won't go into too much detail but the end result was he sought professional advice when he realised he did have a problem with something that happened in his childhood... and that particular scenario brought up the bad memories.

Mind fucks... on a small level happy to go there, but after the above experience, I definitely learned to obtain all the facts before exploring this type of scenario again. However, obtaining facts can be difficult if the submissive is unwilling to share or leaves out crucial information. I wouldn't recommend serious take-downs/kidnapping scenarios until you have a little experience under your belt.

Miss S

I agree with Ms N, one of the reasons I won't go into a serious type of mind fuck. I would be unequipped to handle the problem, and there's always the possibility that the sub does not know that they are going to have this reaction if the problem is buried deep enough.

sub SG

Even in the movies there are mind fucks that can affect us as individuals for the rest of our lives. Some scenes from Lord of the Flies (1963 version) still haunt me liek when they killed Piggie.

Can't say that I have had any in the BDSM scene but I am thankful that I have not.

Ms C

What exactly is a 'mind fuck'? It conguers conflicting thoughts and feelings for me.

My mind fuck experience happened two decades ago during my attempt at submission. Dominant requested I 'trust him' and after a few monthly sessions I began to. During our last scene while I was blindfolded he pretended that someone else had come to watch our play. This wasn't negoiated, my hard limits included no spectators. Result, I called my safe word, permanantly. To this day Im not fond of surprises.

slave IG

We talk about my Mistress mind fucking me all the time, but i dont think we are referring to the same thing as you Miss S, its more like me not being able to predict when my Mistress might do something like give me sexual release. I have absolute trust in her so it would be hard for her to seriously cause psychological harm I think, but its a great question because we are playing with deep spiritual or psychological issues in B.D.S.M. If there is some fragility it could easily be exposed I would imagine

Psychology of Humiliation

Humiliation in general touches strong emotional buttons, the more so when it becomes sexualised. Because of this, consent and paradoxically a high degree of awareness and communication is needed, to ensure that the result is desirable rather than abusive. For example, a submissive male may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways.

Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualised by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) ones sexual degradation.

For some people, activities such as name-calling are a way of achieving ego reduction or getting over sexual inhibitions. For example, in female domination, terms usually associated with homophobia may be used to submissives, such as "faggot".

As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people remain a fantasy - they would have strong reservations about it being public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. Others do explore humiliation with partners, and many people use online humiliation (where the humiliator and others are involved via the internet using chat, email, websites, etc.) as a compromise between exhibitionism and reality on the one hand, and safety and anonymity on the other

Mind Fuck - What is it?

The mind fuck... What is it? How does it work?

What are some of the best mind fucks you have created?

What advice can you give regarding successfully orchestrating and pulling off the perfect mind fuck? And any cautionary advice?

What is The Art of Mind Fucking?

I'd love the idea to be in a CFNM environment while being blindfolded and in one way or another being unable to hear. A photo is made to prove the fact, but no one can be recognised. Who knows our secret? Vanilla friends of my wife? Did they take pictures of me with them ? ... slrn

"Creating the thought that something real and terrible is about to happen" So anyway that was my thought. I have given much thought to doing them but have not had the opportunity very often. Mistress and i did play a newbie once with rather large breast and big nipples. I have a set of really large clothes pins that make you think what ever they are put on is going to be pinched terribly. Someone else started out playing her in one room at a party and we took over and eventually had her tied to an over head beam in another room. We had been taking it slow and all was ok until i reached into the bag and pulled out those clothes pins. I said to her i have been looking for some large nipples to put these on and i thought she would die. I teased her with them for a bit while she squirmed and eventually showed her they are so light on squeeze i put one on my tongue and it fell off. But it sure was fun looking at her face as i got near her.  silas

I will just add one of my favourite mind fucks is..."pretending to be angry" for a short while - I know, its cruel, but damn its divine when all of a sudden a beaming smile appears on my gorgeous face and I watch him visibly relax after the mental trauma of putting him through stress, and him wondering what did he do to cause the wraith of his Mistress.  Ms Neta 

This wasn't an intentional mind fuck, but I was giving a foot massage to someone whilst they were talking to others. Just as I pressed on a certain muscle, they happened to spill their wine. Knowing that they had had foot surgery and because of the timing, I was instantly mortified that it was my fault, especially because they said it was my fault... but they were doing the usual "everything is the subbie's fault" routine, though it took me a while to realise that :s They weren't intentionally confusing me, but because of the timing... hijk

I feel that first off the Dominant should know something about the person they are doing this form of play with, what some of their fantasies are, what some of their fears are. What presses their buttons.

When you know some of these things about the person it makes it much easier to get into their heads to intentionally destabilise, confuse and manipulate them psychologically.

Some Dominants have the natural ability of seeping into your very psyche, connecting with you on an emotional level. They are able to take something you are extremely afraid of or something that thrilling, something you may have fantasised about and using it to control and excite you. Teasing you, taunting you, taking you to an edge.

It’s an interesting dynamic that transpires in those moments when one begins to squirm, and the Dominant knows this is how it’s suppose to be, and you don't.

As far as cautionary advice I can give is to be safe, use common sense, and be ready for the unexpected. If you mess around with someone psychologically there can always be unintended results. Mind fucks are a form of psychological edge play and it isn't for everyone. The Dominants isn't supposed to actually harm their submissive/slave or bottom. I suggest the usage of safe words in more extreme forms of this type of play.

The possibilities for a good mind fuck is only limited by one's imagination.  RiverButch