How do You wish to be addressed?
Ms Neta
What celebrity are You often told You resemble?
Oprah Winfrey… on occasion.
What do You consider to be Your greatest feature?
My smile.
What would We be surprised to learn that You have never done?
I have not travelled to the U.S.A
What is the best advice You have ever received?
Read, Read, Read relevant BDSM books to understand what you seek in this journey.
What are you “totally addicted” to?
Nurturing small animals
What do You not ever leave home without?
My handbag.
What do You wish you could be more of?
I would like to be more of teacher to newcomers in the scene yet I still have so much more to learn myself.
How long have You been in the lifestyle?
Three years
Would You consider Yourself to have had a regular childhood?
No, it was a disconnected although I do have a handful of good childhood memories.
What is your favorite beverage? (can be hot/cold, alcoholic/non-alcoholic,etc).
Sauvignon Blanc, Alcoholic Apple Cider and Chamomile Tea
Do you celebrate Christmas or a similar holiday at this time of year, and if so, what do you enjoy most about it?
I celebrate Christmas and thoroughly enjoy being around Jack and my children.
What's the sexiest thing a submissive has ever or could ever say to you?
You are stunning even when you wear that pink dressing gown with blue kittens all over it.
Tell Us about Your first Femdom experience, including a detailed description of how You felt ?
My first experience was with kristian. He was from Holland and identified as a slave. My first real experience with him was incredible. He was seeking to be totally enslaved and I was seeking to enslave someone. When we first walked into his home, and he immediately knelt in front of me and kissed my feet, I was full of pride that this male had given me his submission. It was an extremely powerful moment for me.
Uniquely Rika by Ms Rika
Relic by Douglas Preston and Lincoln Child
What is Your favorite movie?
Aliens – Sigourney Weaver - strong Female lead role
A long Kiss Goodnight – Geena Davis – strong Female lead role
Do You consider Yourself a Pro Domme, Lifestyle Domme, or a combination of both?
Lifestyle Dominant.
If You were to choose one word to describe the feeling You experience when Dominating a submissive, which word would You choose?
Powerful, and Content.
What is Your general view of men?
Generally, I like men and of course I love a handful of males in my life.
Does Dominating another bring You sexual pleasure? Tell Us about how so and why do You feel this way
I have only felt sexual pleasure with three submissives. They were compatible with me and their service, all aspects of their service, was excellent and this was a turn-on for me.
Which lifestyle books and magazines would You recommend to others?
Uniquely Rika – Ms Rika
The Master’s Manual – Jack Rinella
SM 101 – Jay Wiseman
What is Your line of work?
Executive Management
How does Your work affect Your Femdom lifestyle?
Confident in my workplace role.
How do Your Female Supremacy views affect Your attitude within Your work environment?
I am not a Female Supremacist as I don't believe all Women are superior to all men.
I do have Feminist views but I do believe everyone is an individual and should be judged on an individual basis.
Does Your family know of Your lifestyle?
One sister knows.
Do You have friends in the lifestyle?
I have friends who I met in the lifestyle, yes. And yes, I do socialise with them in vanilla settings as well.
Do You have vanilla friends who know of Your lifestyle?
Indeed, I do.
If Your favorite vanilla Girlfriend were to ask You why She should try dominating Her man, what reasons would You give Her?
Well, I would ask her:
How her partner would respond to being dominated?
Were they kinky in the bedroom?
Would she be able to be in charge of a D/s dynamic 24/7.
If she said yes, to all three, I would most certainly introduce her to the Lifestyle…baby steps of course.
Have You ever been to a lifestyle party?
Numerous times.
Have You ever played in public?
Numerous times.
What is the single most important mistake a submissive man makes when first approaching a Dominant Woman?
Assuming we are here to service and satisfy him.
What do You look for when reading an e-mail message from a submissive?
Give them advice if they have approached me politely. If they are casual, blasé, I inform them to look in their local areas for likeminded. I am very rarely rude to these people as some of them genuinely do not know how to approach Dominant Women, and do require some guidance.
Do You currently have a slave or submissive?
I have a submissive, and I am training a new submissive for future service to a Dominant. I also have two other submissives who I call upon for domestic and hospitality service for Events.
Are You seeking other slaves or submissives?
No.
Do You consider Yourself straight or bi-sexual?
Straight
Bi-sexual suits me. I like to watch male on male action occasionally.
Which rules do You require a slave or submissive to live by? For instance, rules regarding use of furniture, walking behind You, calling in, chastity, and so forth
I have many protocols for how my submissive must conduct himself in my presence. A couple of examples are:-
For public - shaking of hands and a kiss on the cheek as I stare directly into my sub's eyes. He must walk behind me to my left at all times.
For private - when I enter my sub's home, he is kneeling, naked, collared, smiling. I extend my right hand out, he kisses it and says "Welcome, my Mistress". I step back, smile and greet him then walk into the next room to sit on my throne.
He follows, provides me with either a glass of water or wine with a cheese and fruit platter. Then sits at my feet whilst we converse about our day's events... me first, of course.
My submissive always sits at my feet when we eat dinner in a Private setting.
What is Your favorite lifestyle activity?
I enjoy receiving all aspects of service i.e. personal, anticipatory, domestic, sexual
Do You feminise Your servants?
I used to when I first started out in the Lifestyle but that was because I was new and feminising in my eyes took the masculinity away from males. I made the males less intimidating. Eventually I realised I enjoyed dominating masculine males… a lot more fun and challenging.
Does Your domination apply to all levels of Your relationship? For instance, do You or would You control Y/your finances?
I prefer not to control another’s finances mainly because I am not in a 24/7 relationship with my submissive. However, if I were, most definitely, I would takeover.
Do You cuckold Your slaves or submissives with other lovers?
No. It holds no interest to me.
Do You live a 24/7 FemDom lifestyle?
I live a 24/7 Female-led relationship which is based on the Female being in charge and the male knowingly being secondary to her.
If You are in a 24/7 FemDom relationship, would You describe Your relationship as stronger than a vanilla relationship?
N/A.
When a disagreement occurs between You and your slave or submissive, how is it resolved? Is Your word the final word?
I will listen to his side, and then make a decision on the issue after some consideration.
Do You set benchmarks for a male to prove his devotion to You?
Not formal benchmarks but if I believe he has not reached a particular goal within a set timeframe as per my expectations, I will re-train him in that particular area to reach his full potential.
Do You judge a slave or submissive’s willingness to embarrass himself as proof of his desire to serve You?
I believe it takes courage for a submissive to humiliate himself for his Dominant, and if he does, I am impressed.
What advice would You offer a Woman whose male partner has just asked to dominate him and She knows nothing of the lifestyle?
I would recommend some books to read initially. The first one of course would be Uniquely Rika by Ms Rika.
The central theme is, "It's not about what the Dominant does to the sub but about what the sub does for the Dominant." It's about the sub making his Dominant’s life better or easier.
How do You discipline Your servant(s)?
With a strap or cane however punishment/discipline is a rare occurrence as my submissive is well behaved. The punishment should always fit the crime and that is the premise I tend to use when implementing punishment.
Do You use chastity on Your servant(s)?
No.
How do You control the orgasms of Your servant(s)?
He must seek permission if he wishes to orgasm. My submissive is very obedient, and has a low sex drive which helps.
Do You use strap-ons on Your servant(s)?
Yes I most certainly do. The vac-u-loc is my favourite strap on dildo. I use strap-ons perhaps once every two months as I know he craves it but will wait until I am ready to satiate his craving. The penetration humbles him very much. He is more docile for a quite a few days. Lovely to observe.
What do the next five years hold for You?
In the Life, well I wish to enslave more males and just enjoy my Kink life to fullest.
Share with Us Your fears when You first became involved in the lifestyle
One fear I had was could I really dominate a male and maintain the domination. It appears I have the gift and many males genuinely wish to submit to me. I always inform submissives from the get-go, I don’t provide sexual service except to give Strap On when I’m in the mood to do so.
Do You have any words of encouragement for new Dommes?
Persevere. You will come across many fools and predators in this Life but you will soon recognise the red flags. Persevere, enjoy and remember this Life is about you getting your Kink wants and needs met to your satisfaction.
And if you need support, seek a mentor, preferably a Female mentor, in your local area to guide you until you are confident to pursue your journey on your own.
Ms Neta, thank you for sharing this. I found it very interesting.
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