First Assignment: 15/11/2011

I am in the process of training a newbie to the scene.  This is his first assignment, and I do believe he has done quite well.

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Based on my research, which has primarily been wholly reliant on resources found on the web, a summary of my understanding of the difference between a submissive, a bottom and a slave is as follows:

Submissive

A submissive is an individual who has a need to submit and willingly surrenders or gives their self to a Dominant.  A submissive willingly gives control and surrenders power to the Dominant and becomes the responsibility of the Dominant to determine or make choices, decisions, directions or acts for the submissive.  The submissive willingly submit to the Dominant whilst maintaining some choice through prior discussions with the Dominant and will usually have a safe word to end the submission if so required.  The submission to the Dominant is usually for agreed periods of time with discussed rules, restrictions, structures, limitations and/or requirements that may range from many to very few or none.  A submissive usually only submits to a Dominant they are in a Dommes relationship with, unless otherwise agreed, and are polite and respectful to others outside of this relationship.  Hence a submissive is an individual that has a willingness and a need to submit and surrender control to a Dominant for agreed periods of time with discussed limitations.

Bottom

A bottom is an individual who enjoys the lower role or bottom position in a play session.  A bottom is not necessarily a submissive and may be a Dominant or a switch.  A bottom derives pleasure from being in the bottom role without relinquishing complete control to the Top.  A bottom may direct or have significant input into a play session either before or during the session so that they derive their pleasure or achieve what they desire from the session.  Hence a bottom is an individual who enjoys the bottom position without submitting to the Top and maintains input and some control over the session.

  

Slave

A slave is an individual who has given ones self fully and completely to a Dominant and relinquishes all control and limits to their Dominant.  A slave gives all freedom of choice to their Dominant and is completely owned by the Dominant at all times.  The Dominant makes all decisions for the submissive to which they completely comply without refusal.  A slave gives their Dominant their complete trust and feels complete when they have surrendered to their Dominant.

The primary difference as I understand are that a bottom enjoys the bottom position in a play session and does not relinquish control to the Top, a submissive has a need and willingness to give ones self to a Dominant for their control but still maintains some control or limitations, a slave completely gives one self to their Dominant relinquishing all control, limits, choices and freedoms willingly and fully.