My submissive J

Well it is almost NYE.  Incredible really that 2015 is just around the corner.

I am sitting in bed relaxing after an interesting night.

Today, I have been browsing the usual Kink sites I am on and whilst doing this I received a text from my potential submissive.  This submissive is driven, motivated and committed.  Unfortunately for us both, he lives up north so connecting will be irregular.  He has been around me for one month now.  We met up north to ensure our compatibility.  We were.

He is just lovely.  Intelligent, charming, articulate, gentle, and strong.

The reason for writing this is because submissive J continues to strive well in his commitment to me by sending his daily texts even when he is travelling around the country.  Even when he works long hours, his relatives are unwell, through flooding and drought,and unwellness, he continues to stick to his commitment to me.  I have only come across three other males who were able to maintain this kind of contact in the past 5 years.

slave K, sub B, slave A and now, submissive J.

Its heartening to know there really are slaves and submissives out there who dedicated themselves to me, even though at times they teetered about whether to continue in their service to me.

Thank you to submissive J for remaining focussed on me amidst the other commitments in your life.  Another breath of fresh air... for a change.

Being submissive doesn't mean being someone's doormat.  It doesn't mean you are weak.  It means YOU are strong enough to know your desires, strong enough to let go of the control.  Being submissive isn't easy, and it isn't for the weak!

Expectations II

Good evening
Well its almost the end of 2014.

I just wanted to convey some thoughts about my expectations in a D/s dynamic.

It appears the majority of males are only interestED in serving Dominant Women if they can also fuck them.

If there is no fucking, then there is no interest in service or a 'relationship'.  And that is OK, people.  To each their own.

My expectations for those who do wish to connect with me through a D/s dynamic are:

• Show me a commitment in your service to me by undertaking service tasks, and daily communications
• Be unattached as I don't want the wife or girlfriend coming after me or interfering with the dynamic
• I have no problem with sex on my terms - for discussion in private.
• Attending public Kink events 
• Accepting pain for my pleasure.

All these expectations would be discussed in length as part of the negotiation and consent process. However, I had to list my expectations for 'relationships' prior to anything forming as many males get too caught up in how pretty, beautiful, sexy I am - they become too fixated on the pretty pics - and not my words.  Visual creatures you males are.

That said, I am visual, myself.

What I don't want in a submissive/switch partner -

• Overweight (beer gut or just a fat gut)
• Beards
• Small cocks (less than 6 inches)

• Single-minded sexually
• Fear of pain
• Arrogance

I will repost this in 2015 blog as well just so people know my expectations!

Merry Christmas

Good evening All

Its 24 December 2014 - Christmas Eve.

I am just stopping by briefly to wish each and everyone of my visitors to the blog a very Merry Christmas.  May the Festive Season be kind to you.  Stay safe, have fun, love those who are important to you, and keep on kinking...whenever you can!

2015 is just around the corner!  Are you ready?

FemDom is a paradox...

Femdom is a paradox: Because it should be about Women dominating men. Yet the reality is, that many FemDom men, 'top from the bottom'. Where, they demand and tell Women howto  act out their sexual fantasies.  

True Dominant Women do not like this and for this reason reject FemDom completely. This is why there are far more men within Femdom than Women. So I am advocating true FemDom where men do not make any demands on Women and their role is only to serve and do only what the Women want.

(written by William Bond)

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I was perusing some articles on google and came across blogs by William Bond.  Wonderful perspectives he has.  Thank you.

Its quite interesting because I have experienced many males, stating they are submissive, who have approached me demanding or telling me how I should act out their fantasies mainly porn-related.  This is because they do not really understand FemDom except for what they see on FemDom porn.  Damn the porn industry!!

My response to those males usually is to inform them I am not a porn FemDom, I am a lifestyle Female Dominant and this is what is my expectation of them during their service to me - short term or long term interactions.  Needless to say, many run like scared little bitches.  If sex isn't involved, or very little sexual play, they are not interested.  Their idea of service is giving me oral sex or pummelling (fucking me hard) after they are removed from bondage.  

I am looking for genuine submissive/switch males who understand FemDom or who are open to learning about how to serve a Dominant Woman - my way.  

As usual, I am amused that once the male 'sub' orgasms, he no longer adheres to the rules previously negotiated.  I attract many "Do Me" submissives but I recognise them very quickly these days and remove them from realm doubly quickly.

Just having  my say...

My Vision for 2015

2014 has been an incredibly chaotic year for me. 

First I was nominated to run the local Kink group.  I did it for 7 months.  I had good and bad experiences.

I had numerous BDSM experiences with my regular subs/slaves as well as casual play at the play parties with various kinksters.  It was an enjoyable time but tiring too.

I arranged FemDom Kink events, and trained new FemDoms.

Emotionally, this year was tough too.

It is the twelfth month of 2014, and let me say people I am over it.  I want 2015 to be a different year, a more laid back year – if that is possible.

I am not interested in seeking 24/7 D/s dynamics at this time.  I am looking to play casually with sub/slave/switch males mainly for variety and purely fun.

I have been very serious about my Kink life and have decided to lighten up a little and just immerse myself completely in getting my kink needs and wants met on my terms.

Pleasingly, I have males available to me to help me fulfil my BDSM fun in the coming year.

Just a reminder - I seek your pain for my pleasure!

Look out 2015, Ms Neta is here to play… and to play REAL HARD!

(101966)

19/12/14 - A nice evening with switch R

Last night, I met up with a potential submissive on a casual basis.  He travels around the world and we will catch up whenever he visits Tasmania.  A very respectful, quiet male switch who enjoys being controlled.

We met at some beautiful accommodation, and had a cocktail before play ensued to ensure we were compatible.

He is tall, blonde, blue-eyed, handsome and from the Netherlands.

After we chatted about various subjects, I decided he was most suitable to give me a foot massage.

We arrived in the room, and while I made a phone call I had him remove his clothing while I watched and talked to someone.  I had him kneel for me with his hands behind his head.  I walk towards and inspected his body.  Very nice.

I then moved away from him, sat down in a comfortable chair and requested he close his eyes while I talked about a few kinky topics.  He seemed mesmerised by my dulcet tones and very relaxed.  It was a comfortable space.

Prior to him being directed to move to the bed, I tied a lace around his cock and balls.  He was then directed to the bed and his wrists and ankles were cuffed, still blindfolded.  I proceeded sensation play with using my nails all over his skin.  All the while controlling him with my dulcet tones.  I used a hairbrush to tease his cock and balls, and his body responded well to the sensations.

The sensation play went for a little longer until it was time for my foot massage.  His wrist cuffs were untied
but remain on, his ankles remained bound as did his cock and balls.


The moisturising cream was applied to my left foot first.  He warmed it with hands before application.  Exquisite.  Aah the pleasure of an experienced foot masseur.  Next my right foot was given the attention it deserves.  I lay back and revelled in the deliciousness of massage.

The night ended very well, and I look forward to our next encounter in a couple of months.  Thank you, switch R for a wonderful evening and for my gifts too!

Foot Massage - 19/12/14

Having my feet massaged by a lovely switch male last night.  

He knew how to massage correctly as well.  All the tension in my feet and legs that had accumulated over the past few weeks were drained away with his experienced hands.

Today my feet and legs feel fabulously stress-free and supple.  And soft and smooth from the lovely moisturising and manipulating of my chocolate coloured skin.  

submissive/slave/switch males giving foot massages are so appreciated.  Ladies, let me say that  receiving massages are the ultimate in foot sensual pleasure.  Sensational!!

A Poem written by submissive J

A vision of strength, yet warmth
I weakened at the knees and felt my heart race
Her radiant smile, Her beautiful raven hair

A deep respect building from within
A need to serve Her
I am a man of strength, conviction and intellect
But I give my being willingly to You, Ms Neta

Your beauty, Your strength, Your passion
My heart and body is Yours
I am submissive by choice
And not by will
Through You I learn strength through serving

So take my hand my Ms Neta and lead me
Wherever you want to take me
For I am Yours
In You I trust

Initiative...finally!

Hello Ms N, hope your day is going well. I'm on a break and have been thinking over some of the things I read in your blog, and whilst you haven't set the task per se, I have taken it upon myself to write you a poem to show my devotion and eagerness to please you. I hope it is worthy. 

To serve, to please, to satisfy your desires,
That is my purpose.

To worship, to glorify, to hold you above all others,
That is my true desire.

To submit, completely, to be under your power, to be treated as you wish,
That is what I offer you.

Take me, teach me, punish me, make me cry and shake.
make me honour you and your dominance.

I give myself to you.

Completely.

I am yours, if you will have me. 

Dominance and submission (D/s) - A Power Exchange Relationship

If anyone were to ask what 'Dominance and submission' is, they'd receive almost as many answers as people who practice it.

Simply stated, most would agree that D/s consists of a consensual relationship that is based around a power exchange between two people. One person is the controlling one, known as the Dominant; the other person is the controlled one, and is known as the submissive (note that 'Dominant' is usually capitalised and that 'submissive' is not). The submissive gives a certain amount of 'power' to the Dominant over their lives. This can be as simple as the Dominant telling them what to wear each day, or can be as complex as them having to ask the Dominant for permission to even leave the room. The important thing to note here is that we are talking about consensual relationships. The rights of the submissive are not taken from them, they are given freely during a period of negotiation.