Saturday, 1 October 2011

Instructions on how to talk dirty

1. Tell them what you're going to do. ("I'm going to put my thumb in your ass.")
2. Tell them what you're doing. ("My thumb is in your ass right now.")
3. Tell them what you did. ("Remember when I had my thumb in your ass?")

Another important one to keep in mind... Tell them what you want them to do. Also, use lots of naughty words.

I love it when they tell me how it feels. 'I feel like such a depraved whore', 'Your mighty strap on is stretching my ass Miss, like never before', 'I'm so ashamed, I am supposed to be a man, and yet I am bent over, holding my cheeks apart, allowing you to make me your bitch' or 'My cock is so hard, it aches, it throbs for you Miss, I think I'm going to come as soon as I take your 8 inches, in deep' etc.

Dirty Talk question

I saw this discussion and thought it would be an interesting read to place in my blog.

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What is it about "dirty" talk that excites you? does written, verbal, or all "dirty" talk turn you on? Has there ever been a time when "dirty" talk, in and of itself, made you cum? Please tell us?


Comments from others:

Unexpected and sincere.

hmmm- when I'm told to say it.. that helps ;) & no it hasn't made me cum but it kinda helps ;)
 

I agree! I hope all the dudes will talk away from this conversation that we LOVE being called "good girl!!" I also love being told what I'm going to need to do to "earn" my orgasm right before I'm about to have it.
 

Pushes my head down and says suck my cock, bitch.

For me, the sounds and sentiments (as well as the warmth of her breath on my skin, especially in my ear) connects to something primal inside me, and inflames my lust until I become a beast, capable of licking, biting, sucking and fucking my partner until neither of us can move. Your mileage may vary. ;)
 

You’re a hot bitch.
 

It always increases My desire and helps Me get hard and of course helps Me cum while I am fucking or being sucked off. And it is a big help for My pet to make her cum quicker and more often!!

All of it.
 

It adds to the heat, especially in humiliation play. Even in vanilla play, I love hearing a lover say "Fuck my sopping wet cunt."
 

All of it, but when a man talks me through an orgasm like a good girl...ugghhhh!
 

When he pulls my hair, and growls “sexy slut”.

Training scene: 27/9/11 (2285)

On Tuesday, 27th September, I met with my two submissives to train them about my protocol expectations and basic high protocol service.

I wore these bondage style pantyhose that bill brought me because he liked the look of them, a fishnet top, push up bra, and a black stretchy corset with my 1920s ankle laced boots.  I was a beautiful vision unfortunately I forgot to bring my camera to have a photo taken of me.

I sat in my throne and chatted with sub bill for a period of time until sub scott arrived.

I requested sub scott to remove his clothing and kneel naked in front of me.

We commenced the training.  We worked through my protocols for them to follow.  Afterwards, basic service in a high protocol settting was practised.  Setting of the table was shown, and then they practised.  Both did very well in their learnings, and both looked lovely naked.

I like having naked males in my presence.

Questions were asked by my boys and answered by their Mistress.  They are both uncertain about the evening due to the limited information provided to them thus far in relation to the expectations of serving at a high protocol dinner.  I understand and will pursue this information next week so it can be imparted to all servers before October 2011.

sub scott gave me my gift - four sets of fishnet stockings/pantyhose.  I am special.

We drank water, wine and had a fruit and cheese platter and chatted about inconsequential things but enjoyed each other's company.

Once training and discussions had been completed,sub scott was dismissed. He dressed. We planned to catch up on I.M. later in the week.

sub bill and I chatted some more enjoying each other's company before I left.  I felt it was a very productive and enjoyable evening.

Thanks boys.

~Ms Neta~

Legs, and more Legs



Drinkies next week

I am looking forward to our Female Dominant drinkies next week.  We have had a couple of new women join our online group and one who is actually joining us for some socialisation.  This demonstrates her seriousness about the scene.  Fantastic.

I will write up about the night in my blog next week.  I do hope I have some exciting stuff to report.

Tuesday, 27 September 2011

Journal for late Sept 2011

Wednesday, 21 Sept - it was Jack and my engagement anniversary - 13 years.  We enjoyed a bottle of Lindauer whilst watching the Sons of Anarchy.

Thursday, 22 Sept - it was Jack's birthday.  WOW.  He was in a bit of bad mood because he felt he was getting old.  The family gave him some lovely gifts.

Friday, 23 Sept - our daughter's birthday.  Almost a teenager.  I bought some cake, cut it up, sprinkled 100s and 1000s so her classmates could enjoy her birthday.  She had a low key birthday.  Her birthday party is this coming weekend.  Lots of friends will be attending that.

Saturday, 24th Sept - went out to my friend's birthday afternoon tea, Miss V.  It was a Goddess Afternoon Tea with a few friends.  It was enjoyable.  We had lots of laughter and chatter.  The spread was amazing.  I felt so full afterwards - jeeze, time to get serious about my walking.

Sunday, 25th Sept - painted the hallway with Jack.  bill was working so was unavailable to help.  We finished the walls we wanted and are very happy with what we achieved.  I cooked a Roast pork with vegies and homemade apple sauce.  The kids ate every morsel... no leftovers in our household.

Monday, 25th Sept - had a productive day at my workplace and prepared protocol notes for my two submissives for their training on Wednesday.

Tuesday, 26th Sept - again another low key day and just caught up on protocol notes, chatted to Mistress Meg throughout the day, wrote up minutes, dealt with some problems and then my work day was over.  Had a lovely pizza from Dominoes and here I am now writing up my journal whilst watching Persons of Interest produced by J J Abrams.

~Ms Neta~

Mind Fucks 3 discussion

How do you define a “Mind fuck”? And, what in your experience has been a good one you have received/given?

Mistress Meg
The best mind fuck I did to someone else and I didn't even realise I was doing it at the time.
I had instructed my then sub to wait for me at his house in the very early morning (4am) with two candles burning in his bedroom and the front door slightly ajar. The rest of the house was to be dark and the dog tied up outside.
He was to be naked and kneeling blindfolded beside the bed.
When I walked in it just took my breath away. I could actually see goosebumps on his skin and watching him breathe heavily before I even touched him....well divine. It made my very being ache to touch him.
I spoke softly as I moved about getting myself and a couple of things ready. When I touched him he jumped a mile and I giggled softly.
modesty inserted So things progressed very nicely from there.
The mind fuck? I hear you ask.
Well, afterwards he told me that he was CONVINCED that with the way I spoke and moved about while he was blindfolded, that I had brought one or even two people inside with me !!!!
Glorious :P
Lady Midnite
One of my favorite mind fucks I ever did was while I was at a plat party one night. I was doing some knife play on a boy and "accidentally slit his throat". Hehehehe. (Thanks for the help on that one silas! I still laugh every time I think about it.)
Switch
Hmmm it seems i remember that one. he he. I remember playing a new girl one night and once her hands were tied over her head i brought out a set of clothes pins about 8 in long and 2 in wide. They are scarry as hell to look at and i turned to her and said i have been waiting for some wonderful nipples to put these on. I thought she would wet herself. lol She started wiggling trying to get loose it was so nice to watch. The thing is they are so un scarry i put one on my tongue and it did not have enough strength to stay on it fell off. But like it says it is all in the mind.
silas
River Butch
I'm willing to share, but please don't try to tell me how stupid it was or dangerous. I was well aware of the danger and what could have happened, but I had full trust in the people that performed this scene.
I attended a very private party. Someone I knew quite well was also invited to this party. She knows that I'm not into bondage, but that soon came into her plan. She had planned out this scene with another Dominant, of course I had no clue. As I was sitting there she approached me with rope in hand, asked me to remove my shirt so she could try out a new tie. I thought nothing of it, and did as she asked. My hands and arms were bound, rather tightly, then she asked me to stand. She removed my pants, and told me she was going to bind my hands to my feet. Again I went along, seeing no harm in her actions.
Next thing I know is a hood was placed over my head, I remember wondering what I had then gotten myself into. I felt two people life me from where I sat, and move me to a spot where my hands were them bound over my head. Yes at this point I'm thinking.. "Oh Shit"
I am left there for what seemed like forever, then I begin to feel her breath on my neck, then I feel something very cold leaning up against my flesh. She removes the hood and before my eyes, she flashes a gun. Yes, I said a Gun. I watched her as she walked around the room, I looked into the eyes of the other people watching.
I knew from the type of work she does that she would Never approach anybody in such a manner with a weapon that could actually be fired. She had no intentions of causing death, but at that point my mind was so out there, all I could do was trust her.
She returned to me and an integration scene began. When I refused to speak, she grabbed my hair, pulling my head back, thus opening my mouth. She placed the barrel of that gun in my mouth and told me she was going to blow me away.... I remember looking briefly into her eyes, just before I heard that gun go "Click"
I think for a moment I passed out, I know I peed all over the floor. She had taken me way beyond any edge that I had ever imagined. But once was enough, I'd never do that again.
Just so you know the woman I spoke about is an FBI agent, and a member of SWAT. So I trusted myself to her, knowing her knowledge and skill. Other wise, this scene would have Never taken place.
Outlaw Tiny
The best mind fuck I've ever given someone would be, I had a transvestite tied in their kitchen doorway hands above there head ankles tied at the bottom secured to each side of the doorjam not exactly spreadeagle but close . There was a nice butcherblock in the kitchen complete with a clevor I slid the block over in front of her and tied a 1/4 rope around the bottom of the block pulling her cock down and holding it against the block . I then blindfolded her and started with a bit of knife play . I then teased her about chopping of her cock for a bit. Then I grabbed the clevor and with one hard blow chopped the rope holding her cock setting it free bobbing in the air and she came . Afterwards we talked and she told me she thought I really chopped it off till I pulled off the blindfold . Ive done other mindfucks aswell like giving someone a tattoo with a tattoogun but with no ink .
Tom the Dom
ok, so here come some of my tamed mind-fucks.
get a cat-food can, and open it with those can openers that remove the lid so you can close it again. empty the cat food. (give it to stray cats if you have none). clean the cat food can
cook home made goulash. fill it into the can
serve it to your guests from the can, heated up in a water bath :D
eat your own portion with delight
if you want to ante it up, invite them for a HELLO KITTY THEMED DINNER


along the same lines and not cooked up by me, but by a famed Czech theater (and cinema) actor, during the communist reign no less... on a flight to Prague from a fellow east block country.... he smuggled meat salad into the plane
mid flight with turbulences he ate the sald (filled his mouth) and than faked to get sick. he grabbed the puking bags, and "puked" (spit it out) in such a manner everyone had to notice. once that was completed he took a fork and ate it back up from the bag
the whole plane fell for his mind fuck and puled... but they didnt eat it back up
giggles
Ms Neta
A mini 'mind fuck' was - my submissive prepares me a picnic lunch once a fortnight. White crockery, glassware, cloth serviettes - its very 'refined'. He serves me an entree: salmon and cream cheese, or brie on cracker bisuits. Main: will be a meat sandwich with salad. Dessert: A homemade fruit salad or a cream dessert. OK I just had to give you a picture of how well my boy pampers me.
I advised him to be at my workplace, 1.00pm sharp, with my lunch. No problems. At 11.30am, I sent him to text to be at my workplace 12.30pm sharp. He freaked as he was still in the supermarket buying the goodies... oops, wrong story.
A few weeks back I sent bill a text to say "where are you, I'm waiting for you outside for our lunch get together." He freaked (he does this often ha ha ha). "but, but, but Mistress I didn't realise we were meeting today". We weren't, but I was in a playful mood. It took him a while to calm down from that mini mind fuck angelic smile -he hates to disappoint me in any way.
Wicked Mz Toni
I started playing with a new guy I met at the munch. He wanted to be my devoted personal servant and talked about all the experience he had. I told him that I was extremely sadistic and that I might be too much for him, that he should ask around.
We had our first dungeon date. I like to do a 'mapping' where I take all sort of toys to the date and see what they do. It was pretty obvious that all his 'experience' had been was being lightly spanked (probably by a prodomme).
I had him tied securely to a massage table and was doing a bit of cbt. He wasn't going anywhere.
I pulled out my scuba knife and told him to hold VERY still, my knive was extremely sharp and that if he were to move just a little bit into the blade, he might be very badly cut and that I didn't want that to happen to him.
I made sure he knew he was completely immobilized and then started running the knife over his body. I started acting all crazy, telling him how much I loved the the look and feel of blood and sometimes I found it hard to control myself around it. I made sure to show him that crazy, vacant look in my eyes. You know, the lunatic gaze...
I took the point of the knife and had it over his trachea and was holding it in such a manner that I could easily plunge it into his throat.
While still holding the knife over his throat, I whispered in his ear, "If you want to live for me, you had better be prepared to die for me." and made a move like I was going to push it into his throat.
He started shaking uncontrollably with fear. I imagine this sort of fear is what serial killers got off on. It was delicious!
That knife was dull as hell and probably couldn't have opened a letter ....later on he told me, "I've rafted down class 5 rapids, I've jumped out of an airplane and had my parachute fail, but I've never been more afraid in my life!!!
kohinoorD
I define it as an altered state of mind, where your mind tells you x is happening, but in fact something else is happening. Example - you see the top get his knife out, and maybe even demonstrate how sharp it is.. are then blindfolded, cant see anymore, but you feel the knife on your skin.. you might be bound and gagged too, there might be a body-bag waiting on the floor near you, who knows. You may even feel the insertion of the knife into various crevices. Eeks! Or so your mind is telling you. ;)
Ultimately, it turns out that at no point in time did the blade ever touch your body. It was the spine of the blade, or even just the edge of a credit card. LOL
That was a pretty good one I received, a couple years ago. I remember feeling fear, for real. And fear is not an emotion I feel often.
I believe I am currently going through what may come to be the best mind-fuck ever, in my experience, but I don't think I can tell of it just yet ;P
Tom the Dom
actually even tame "phrases" used in the spankng thene are mind fucks...
  • wait till we get home
  • you will be crying your eyes out long before this is over
  • thats enough bratting, young lady ...
to name a few
kohinmoor
@Tom - Yes, the mind has a way of interpreting these phrases and lending associations to them, that are sometimes quite out of touch with reality ;P
Tom the Dom
@kohinoorD
yes, it has. a mind fuck could maybe defined as a play on fears
kohinoorD
@Tom - It doesn't have to be fears, specifically. It can be anxieties, or on the other end - fantasies. Every deviant mind and his or her warped patterns, yanno? A mind-fuck that hasn't to do with fears can be dropping hints at say.. a collaring/wedding. LOL
Tom the Dom
kohinoorD,
it can be and yet it plays with fears... because anxieties, and anticipations, dwell in fear as well
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but i am tired and maybe just wrong.
you are right about the fantasies.
setting a mind in fire with smoke, like Amergin once wrote
kohinoorD
Tom, interesting food for thought. No pun intended :)
Tom the Dom
ok reporting a beautiful mind fuck...
i had mentioned elsewhere on FL, that my fetlist would make for a nice punishment ... count the fetishes...... write it down by hand ...(learn by heart as the worst of all) giggles.
a friend of mine read the post and when we YIMmed told me, to forget that punishment on her because she wouldnt do it ever - its way over the top.
we kept chatting and she said something or the other and i told her that she now is in trouble - (she had mildly crosse dme). anyway so she kept teasing and watcha gonna do and stuff, so i said well i will double your trouble. she kept going and i asked in a seripous tone if she realyl wants me to triple the trouble she is in?
she snapped back into her true self, and apologized and asked. so what is the trouble i am in about (as in what punishment equals trouble)
i told her, calmly, that single trouble would have been writing down my fetlist, but as she wanted double the trouble, she is to write is down on paper twice
she paled. well, she stopped communicating, and then started to REALLY APOLOGIZE
i told her dont worry, i just mind fucked you
thanks for being such a good punishee.
see?
beautiful mind fuck.
Humiliatrixx
Ahhhhhhhhh the mind and the many ways you can fuck it inside and out! hahahaha
One of my favorites and one I will never ever forget.
I had my boy bound, doing some flogging, cbt, etc..
He had always had a dislike/limit for knives. He knew I loved knife play, but I never pushed it with him. This particular day, I made sure he could see the knives in my bag, before I blindfolded him, I continued with the cbt, flogging n such. Then I went to the restroom, had an empty syringe that I had filed the tip on, made it feel like a knife. Filled the syringe with warm lube. I walked up to him, teasing his body, whispered in his ear and asked if he trusted me. He said he did.
I began slowly dragging the tip of the syringe along his chest, very lightly at first, adding pressure here and there, and allowing a bit of the lube to just ooze out. Before long he was soaring, I loved seeing his chest rise, begging for more. After I was done, I released him from the bindings, took the blindfold off, I had to snicker because he didn't look to see what (if) anything was done to his chest. Instead he snuggled at my feet, coming down from subspace. Finally he looked up and asked if he could go look in a mirror, I said he could.
He was very disappointed that he didn't have any actual markings, came back to my feet and begged for me to mark him. He still has no clue, it's been over 10 yrs, and when we talk, he still talks about that night, like it was yesterday ;) In his mind, I used knives... but in actuality I didn't lol. After that night we enjoyed many knife play scenes and he loved them!!!
Tom the Dom
@AngelDeR. i love your testimony showing how healing even a mind fuck can be :)
Slave2hersadism
@AngelDaRainha The intensity of that scene is both scary and intriguing to me Mistress. i know how Your boy must have felt because i have felt You get inside my head in the same way many times. Not as a mind fuck, but inside my head as You taunt and tease me as if You know my every desire
Humilatrixx
Another one of my favorites was with the same guy. He was bound to the bed, spread eagle and blindfolded. I toyed with him for quite awhile, before a knock came at the door (I had pre-arranged for a hotel worker to come deliver a newspaper at that time), I stepped outside, just enough all he could hear was mumbles. When I came back in, I slipped into the restroom which was right by the door... put on a new perfume (one I never used before), different outfit. I began toying with him again, but in a different mannerism, changed my responses to no words, just sounds in a different tone so he had NO clue it was me the whole time, he truly thought it was someone else, infact he still thinks that 10+ yrs down the road.

The Zen of Submission

I came across this along time ago and I am unable to credit the person who created it.  My apologies, and thank you to the writer.  Its an interesting read...and task.

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Quiet reflection on who and what you are and who and what you desire can bring peace, arousal, and hopefully a better understanding of what you want from BDSM.

Items Required – Collar or ribbon Any phallic object (a real sex toy or some other phallic object) 2 clothespins or nipple clamps Ruler Candle and matches (test the candle wax first on the back of your hand prior to beginning) Small blanket or towel Kitchen Timer.

Task – At the same time every day for 5 days you will perform this ritual. You can do this in the morning, afternoon or evening it is up to you but make time for it in your busy day, make it a priority. It should also be a time when you have peace and quiet. If you need to get up early please do so.

Each day’s session will be the same but you will vary your submissive activity during each session. You will begin in a dimly lit and quiet room, you will strip naked and put your small blanket on the floor (fold it so that it is just big enough to sit on). You will sit or kneel on the blanket in a way that is comfortable for you. Set your timer for 15 minutes and perform the following –

Day 1 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise you collar/ribbon to your mouth and kiss it. A collar is a symbol of control and your submission. Contemplate that while buckling/tying your collar around your throat. Once your collar is on you will sit straight and proud and with your hands fingers interlaced behind your neck so that you are touching your collar.

Day 2 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your phallic symbol to your mouth and kiss it. This symbolic cock is a sign of control you give to a Master or Mistress. It is the losing of yourself completely to their sexual and emotional control if only for brief moments that you offer your submission. Contemplate that while slipping the phallic object into your mouth and holding it there. You will sit straight and proud and with your fingers wrapped around your own cock or slipped between your pussy lips aware of the sexuality you offer.

Day 3 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your clothespins or clamps to your mouth and kiss them. These are symbols that your body is not always your own while participating in this scene. It is the offering up of your body that you offer up your submission. Contemplate that while placing one on each nipple. You will sit straight and proud and with your hand lifting up your breasts (female) or resting just under your nipples (male) as if offering them to a Mistress or Master.

Day 4 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your ruler your mouth and kiss it. This is a symbol of the pain you offer to accept from your Mistress or Master. It is the offering up of this acceptance of pain that you will often find your submission. Contemplate that while giving yourself one smack on each inner thigh and one to your cock or pussy. You will then sit straight and proud and with the ruler between your teeth and you will give to yourself again any necessary smacks should the sting subside.

Day 5 – Slowly and with contemplation you will raise your candle to your mouth and kiss it. This is a symbol of the extraordinary sexual deviations you will offer to your Mistress or Master. It is the offering up of this wax on your body that you offer up your submission. Light your candle and contemplate that while dripping a line of wax down your chest so that it drips towards your sex. You will then sit straight and proud and with the candle in your hands.


While doing each of these you will sit quietly for your 15 minutes. Each day you should consider a new mantra of sorts. I am or I offer to my Master/Mistress __. (Fill in the blank daily.).  Repeat this in your head, close your eyes and picture yourself as you are here offering your submission. When your time is up get up slowly, clean up as necessary and go about your day.


Reporting – At the end of this Task you will submit a report detailing this experience. Briefly describe each day. What time did you perform? Any thoughts or feelings while you performed? Any other ideas, thoughts or feelings you would like to share.



A thank you after attending a Goddess afternoon tea

Thank you so much for coming and adding your energy to the mix!  You made the day for me.  Everyone loved you and insists we do it again.  I am so very pleased that you enjoyed everything!!! And thank you so much for my oils...

Miss V
25/9/11

An email I received

I received this email in early Sept 2011 from a chap on a Kinky site I am a member of.  It amused me so much I just had to share as it a communication I have never quite received from anyone before...

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Mz Neta
I saw your profile and wondered if you would consider me acceptable for your requirements.

I am new to this scene but have been wanting to adventure into a stronger lifestyle for quite a while. You would have to teach me your ways, which you would hopefully enjoy. I'm also not too sure how close our compatabilites are but let me tell you where your profile could meet my tastes.

I viewed your photos and was very excited by your beauty, your body, your colour and your wardrobe.

I don't think I'd want any pain infliction to be extreme, however I have a decent pain threshold. I also am a good actor and in the intrest of role playing, I would be happy with a modicum of flogging and whipping and I would enjoy giving a performance of pain, fear and desperation. If you wanted to humiliate and deride me, my behaviour would be submissive and subordinate. I would like to perform this part.

You profile mentioned strap-ons. While I have been penetrated there, it has been a rare occurence and I'd like to enter such activities with an understood limitation.

You mentioned CBT. I don't know what that means but most things on your profile sound interesting. I woner what this stands for.

You also say "A D/s dynamic is expected". If your meaning here could be clarified, I could then tell you if it sounded like me.

You mention BDSM events intra and interstate. If you were to favour me with some "Casual play sessions" and I found myself enjoying them, I would then be open to intrastate events. Interstate events would be a more difficult matter but, depending on how involved I become, not an impossibility.

You also mention "no vanilla sex" and I am of the same mind.

To tell you what I imagine, remembering I have little to no experience, I would enjoy you commanding me, abusively, to pleasure you. That is an aspect I fantasize about. A beautiful woman demanding my physical attention and working my privates. I derive great enjoyment from the fulfilment of my lovers. In particular I would like to tire my lips and tongue in the service of a mistress. I could handle some medium pain and might even extend my limits if a level of trust can be gained. I am also happy with some fake bondage, situations that look ensared but infact were escapable if need be. This area would have to develope a sense of trust between master and slave.

As for who I am. I am a 45 year old, professional from Hobart. I am 6 foot 1 and slim. I have short red hair and am reasonably attractive. I am very intelligent with a gentlemans demeanor. My member is a size to take pride in. It has been called handsome and is often remarkably durable.

If this initial approach leaves you thinking we might be mutual, I would love an email stating such and hope to enter into a correspondence with you.


GG.