Arrival Home after Social Outing

Feeling Great

Obsessed 2 (2491)

Today, I met with an old friend.  It was very lovely to catch up with my friend again. 

This friend provided me with documentation about this male dominant who is completely obsessed by me.  So much so, everything he does is aimed at trying to destroy my reputation in one way or the another, or to grab my attention.

And when I say everything he does, I mean everything in the Lifestyle.  He does loopy things hoping to have an effect on me.  I don't care but apparently he wants me too.

Today, I laughed at the silliness of this person but his obsession is a little concerning and some other folk are concerned by his unhealthy 'love' for me. He may deny this but its true he has an obsessive love for me. 

Oh well... I will keep a closer eye on things to see how they pan out.

~Ms Neta~
With Dark Romance in Mind

Obsessed 1

I am amused - it appears my stalker has returned and watching everything I do and then comments on something I've commented on, or becomes friends with people I've recently become friends with.  

Its blatant, irritating but still amusing.  It appears he is obsessed by me even though he denies this vehemently.  Aah, the drawcard of Ms Neta's charisma, reputation and beauty.  Modest aren't I?  ha ha ha

Meeting this evening: 6/10/11

I met with the kinkster this evening.  He now identifies as a submissive.

We met at a coffee chain place.  He was prompt.  He was nervous.  I like that.

We chatted about his expectations in this life and what his interests were.

I decided to help by informing him that he should explore spanking, flogging and research D/s relationships, join my local group, make comments on topics which will reinforce his genuineness in this Life and alert Dominants to his existence.  He was very open to these suggestions and has commenced the journey.

We spent an hour together.  And he decided to approach me because he knew I had been around for a while and considered me a leader and prominent in the local scene.  He was seeking answers and felt I was the best person to approach.

I am impressed with his effort in taking the first step in his BDSM journey.  Well done to him.  I hope he succeeds, and with my support, he will do well.

~Ms Neta~

Email received: 4/10/11

I received this from a kinkster yesterday.  He has contacted most Mistresses in this state but never follows through in meeting them even though he has been invited.  I also tried to meet with him but he always avoided a meeting.  Anyway I received this email yesterday which I found quite respectful and 'almost' genuine.  I have arranged for us to meet tomorrow at 5.30pm.  I will keep you informed  if he does show this time.  It will be an interesting meet, I'm sure.

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Good Afternoon Ms Neta,

i know i have messaged you a number of times before, and i apoligise for that, i was simply eager to learn and serve.

Now i have been here for a while, i understand the protocols involved in contacting someone like yourself.

Please accept my apoligies for the previous said messages.

After a long time, reading and exploring the kink world, i have a greater understanding and respect for it. I am still yet to experience anything, but i am happy to wait to find the right person.

I would very much like to talk more with you, to get a greater understanding of this world, if you would allow me to.

Thanks for your time.

*he signed off with his name which I will not print due to discretion*

Today's lunch: 5/10/11

It was my half day RDO today.  So I decided to visit my submissive, bill.

 

I had a lovely three course lunch made for me today and served beautifully by my submissive.

The first course was prawns.  Yum.  They were really rather delicious.

The main course a lovely chicken, avocado, onion, lettuce salad.  Absolutely delicious.

The dessert was bill’s fantastic fruit salad.  Exquisite.

As I was being served, he was practicing for the High Protocol Dinner for next week.  His ‘bow’ was good.

Afterwards I massaged his sore back with dencorub to help his deep back pain.  

bill will do well as head server for our formal Dinner.

 

 

~Ms Neta~

FDTC Drinkies: 4/10/11

Ten people attended the monthly drinkies on Tuesday.

3 new faces.  7 Dominants, 1 Top, 2 submissives.  It was a great turnout with terrific energy.

We discussed various subjects and agreed upon next day for our Dec, Jan drinkies as well as our next PP in February which will be themed Vampires and Zombies.  Interesting.

Great to see the group growing.

I am concerned about three comments at various times mentioned during the night about the division between the two groups.  What division?  One group is for all local kinksters, and our one is for Female Dominants and male/female submissives.  What's the problem?  Nothing.  I am so sick of the politics.  We are minding our own business but it appears we are getting noses out of joint again because we are minding our own business *sighs*.

Well that's their insecurity not ours.  We will continue to do our thing and enjoy it ignoring any gossip or interference from others.  If they don't like it - bugger them!

Who was present?  Myself, bill, Miss S, SK, H, HD, dave, PP, A, debbie.  A good turn out indeed.


~Ms Neta~

What is Power Exchange?

A discussion on power exchange that I found extremely interesting to read and to obtain knowledge.  All contributions have been credited.


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In the world of commerce an exchange is generally considered to be where a buyer and a seller “exchange” value for value, i.e. a product is exchanged for money. The exchange is negotiated in such a way that the amount of money paid is equal to the value of the product in usefulness. In the Leather Lifestyle, people often talk of a power exchange, or an energy exchange. In this exchange there is still the basis of value for value. In a Dominant/submissive relationship this exchange is very important; it is the foundation of the relationship.

In a successful D/s relationship the principles of value for value in the exchange should be the same as in commerce. Many will speak of the D/s relationship as not being equal in that the Dominant is the one in control, the one in the power position. However, equal does not always mean the same, it can mean equal value. The Dominant gives to the submissive those things that nurture and support the relationship, provides stability and direction. The submissive gives to the Dominant those things that nurture and supports the relationship, provides stability and partnership. The particular “gifts” from each one may be different in outward appearance, but the value of each should balance.

What each gives to the relationship is a part of themselves and the degree to which they give is the measure of the value. The relationship, to be successful and on going, must have balance much like the balance in a ledger book. The perceived value the partner gets are the assets and the difference in what is received verses what is expected are the debits. Each action, each inaction of the partners is recorded in the ledger book as either an asset or a debit. Any single action or inaction, whether asset or debit, may have little consequence, but the sum of all actions impacts the value given or received.  r

It is important for each partner to work toward a positive balance in the relationships ledger book. Each choice, each action or lack of action is recorded in the relationship. Each partner must be aware of their contribution and what side of the ledger the contribution is recorded.  NCMaster

This point is one of the reasons I strongly dislike the trend amongst 'some' s types toward the whole "my submission is a gift" tosh. Their whole assumption and attitude is that they are the only ones bringing anything of value to the table. They totally disregard the value of Dominance, the responsibility being taken up by the Dominant partner, the stability, structure and building that needs work to build and maintain consistently.

Ying and yang are not the same but they are complimentary and equal in value, it takes BOTH to create a stable lasting balance.  RavenMuse

What each gives to the relationship is a part of themselves and the degree to which they give is the measure of the value. The relationship, to be successful and on going, must have balance much like the balance in a ledger book. The perceived value the partner gets are the assets and the difference in what is received verses what is expected are the debits. Each action, each inaction of the partners is recorded in the ledger book as either an asset or a debit. Any single action or inaction, whether asset or debit, may have little consequence, but the sum of all actions impacts the value given or received.

It is important for each partner to work toward a positive balance in the relationships ledger book. Each choice, each action or lack of action is recorded in the relationship. Each partner must be aware of their contribution and what side of the ledger the contribution is recorded.

This in my opinion is wonderfully said. Is it romantic? Perhaps not, but realistic- absolutely. We each have needs that must be met or the relationship will wither and fade. Good relationships take real work but the reward when both parties commit to fostering and caring for it is a great one. I believe it is important to take responsibility for yourself and your actions. Instead of thinking, 'Gee, what has my Owner/Master/Dominant /sub/slave/pet done for me lately?' your focus instead should be, 'Have I been doing all that I agreed to do? Lately has my focus been on fulfilling my end of the bargain?' Also equally important, is to recognize and praise all the things that are being done RIGHT. 'Thank you Master/Mistress/Sir/Ma'am/slave/sub/pet for doing 'X' and being 'Y', please know that I appreciate your actions.'

For better or worse, we are the sum total of our parts. Working to improve ourselves a little at a time ultimately improves our interactions and relationship as a whole.  Miss Rebecca

and... more C.B.T

1. Ice is fun. I've also had great success using pumice stones, sandpaper, emery boards, and that kind of thing. Start gently and work up. I like to alternate between teasing him and getting him hard and then CBT so his cock just doesn't know what to do!
2. Get a ginger root and carve a small penis plug. heh heh heh.
3. I like spanking them. We call it "naughty nuts"...you can do all sorts of variations. I will tie them off and smack them, or I like to have him stand with his legs spread and smack them to watch them swing back and forth.
4. whip his cock and tell him you will stop when he comes up with a new way to torture it.
   you will see
5. Get your boy a nice hand made celice like I sell them and let him wear it around his leg, including his balls and penis.
   Every movement will make him more aware of his private parts.
6. Crazy glue. Or staples.
7. For CBT, try tying his cock and balls up tight then writing on them with a ball-point pen. It feels to him like you're slicing them open, and you can write nice humiliating things on them.
8. Scratch, bite, pinch, ice, hot wax (messy!), wartenburg wheel, those little bitty toothy hair clips are my all time CBT favorites, spanking with the brush side of a brush as well as the back side, ring-toss, my rubber-band guns are great fun. There's all kinds of possibilities out there.
9. Listerine breath strips. Or else pop rocks. Spritz his junk enough to make it all stick, then apply candy and spritz periodically to renew sensation.
10. Mix salt and a small amount of olive oil into a dry rub. Massage his cock with it. If you wish to be nice, you can mix in a little essential oil. Nothing quite like exfoliating a hard cock.
11. I am partial to the parachute...
12. Deep heat rub is also fun.

Sadist?

To identify as a sadist is to say you become aroused when you make someone else feel pain.

Full stop.

How you do that is your own personal sadistic expression, whether it takes the form of psychological, emotional or physical pain is just you describing yourself.

Anything you do deliberately to cause pain just because you want to could be considered a sadistic act. You cause pain to bring yourself pleasure. No other reason.

Aleni