The "Do Mes"

I saw this post about Do Mes and I had posted a writing earlier in my blog but liked this comment by a very well known and respected Dominant, Ms S, and decided posted part of it on my blog as her words ring very true.

“Yeah there are plenty of screw up, wannabe's, jerks and nimrods out there but its us that allows the behavior in the first place. If you set personal standards and NEVER let them past it, none of us would have these stories to share. These are not submissives, and to equate them to submissives is an affront to every person out there that embraces submission and slavery and brings honour to it, themselves and their Owner/Dominant/Mistress/Master.”

“Neither of my submissives play games, they do what they need to do and what they are required to do to serve me, their submissive peers and our community at large. I am blessed to be friends with some of the finest male submissives out there, and the reason they are not available is that their Owners know what to do to keep them happy and do so, all the while never being topped from the bottom.”

The majority of the comments were about experiences with “do mes” and  many of us, Dominants, have experienced these types but many of us also forget these types are NOT submissives or slaves.  They are pretend submissives who will try their best to fool Dominants.  Half of us pick up on their shit, others don’t.  In my earlier days, I was fooled by a few but can now pick up their pretension pretty quickly.  There are also a lot of “do mes” who have a fetish about "submission" and only enjoy this fetish every so often when they’re in the mood – otherwise many of them are ‘vanilla’, "bedroom kinksters" or even ‘male dominants’.  Not interested in D/s dynamics at all... well, only during their fetish moments.

Anyway the reason why I am posting this is just a reminder that it is important not to lump the “do mes” in with the real submissives and slaves out there who are extremely genuine in their submission and slavery.

We admire and honour the genuine in this Life.