I wish to dedicate this post to my submissive, bill.
He is a beautiful and loyal male who has supported me through many emotions... particularly, recently. His service to me for the past 20 months has been exemplary. Sure he has been less than perfect at times but overall, the man has been spot on in his service.
During our time away in Canberra, he was a strong support to me whilst my Caramel was dying. He pampered me non-stop which also included him just sitting beside me listening to my sentimental memories and tears. He encouraged me to go out for dinner or have a drink just to get out of the hotel room. His attentiveness was 10 out of 10.
Of course, the pampering of my feet was particularly special and always melt when my feet are worshipped.
I always liked the Pancake Parlour so he took me there... well it took us bloody half an hour to find the place but once we got there a Potato and Cheese pancake for me with cottage fries. Ok food cheers me up too.
I went to get a haircut and bill waited outside for me patiently. We were in the Canberra Centre and walked forever just to find me a pair of boots. bill wanted to buy me some... just because. I wasnt too thrilled with all the walking though and was about to give up but he persevered and finally we found Betts. bill bought me a pair of Leather boots, and I have to say they look rather stunning on me, and so very comfortable. I think I will stick to leather footwear for comfort from now on.
bill is a great driver and navigator and drove me everywhere, patiently, and even when I became impatient with his slow driving he wasnt perturbed... he just kept driving every so often say "Yes, Mistress"... ha ha ha
When Caramel died last Saturday, I cried and I am not ashamed to say that. We, Mistresses, are human after all even though many put us on a pedestal and see us as untouchable, unfeeling goddesses. bill, being the empathetic man that he is, joined me in tears. We are bonded... and I believe he will be with me for a long time... well, unless he meets a future wife.
Thank you bill for your stoic support last weekend, and for your impressive service in the past, present and future.
Wednesday, 30 May 2012
Quote: 30/5/12
As author Vikki Gemmell says: Everyone has a public life , a private life and a
secret life.
Flogging scene
On Friday, 30th April, I visited my submissive
for the evening.
Our plan for the evening involved chat, dinner, flogging
scene and aftercare.
I arrived at 5.00pm and was greeted by my submissive, naked,
kneeling, smiling.
I was provided with a glass of wine, then my submissive sat
down at my feet whilst we chatted about events for an hour.
Dinner was served at 6.00pm.
A lovely potato bake with roast chicken throughout. Most enjoyable meal as my submissive sat down
at my feet eating his food.
We relaxed for a while.
I then watched my submissive set up the room, set out my floggers and
prepare the area for our scene. He also
assisted me in tightening me up in my new outfit. At 8.15pm, once my submissive was placed in
arm suspension, we commenced our flogging session.
I proceeded with the purple friend, moved on to the rubber
foe, then to the red friend and then to the purple net foe which looks like a
friend but is truly a foe now. I
alternated between floggers and hearing my submissive whimper, and hearing his
tears made me wet.
The only criticism I have about this planned scene was the
music. I felt it did not quite connect
us in this scene and so it was a little ‘off’ for us both. I did not quite feel complete but it was
still enjoyable enough.
I will enjoy I have the right music for impact play in two
weeks’ time.
I flogged my submissive for one hour. It was intense and then it was INTENSE at
times.
We finished our flogging scene at 9.15pm. Our aftercare commenced. This involved discussing how my submissive was
feeling. He was trying to understand why
he feels such sadness after an intense scene together. He cannot comprehend why his Mistress cares
for him yet inflicts great pain on him.
He does not understand that his giving of pain, giving himself to me,
brings me pleasure and that is what I sought from him. It is still about my submissive it appears…
it is not about me completely. His
thoughts cross into vanilla thinking rather that remaining in the D/s
thinking. This will take time but I will
need to enslave him more… in time.
We have agreed, yes, he has consented, that we will increase
our impact play in order to densenitise my submissive against what it is we
do. The in-between scenes, he will be
rewarded with bondage and strap on play…activities he particularly enjoys
;) generous aren’t I? *smiles and winks*
Next, I received my aftercare. A foot and leg rub. Next, some pampering worship. It was, as always, very enjoyable.
My submissive gave me a lovely bunch of flowers as I
departed for the evening. He is a
beautiful soul who still struggles at time with his submission… but he does do
fabulously majority of the time!!
Caramel - R.I.P. cont'd
I wrote a post last week about the impending death of our Caramel. However I did not expect it to occur 2 days after I visited the Vet. Too damn quick!!!
Whilst I was in Canberra, he died on the Saturday at 2.35pm, 26th May 2012 on our child's lap. As he passed from this world, he was surrounded by love, and definitely did not die alone. He was buried in our backyard with some final words from our children. This was hard for them losing a member of the family, a beloved pet.
Assignment 3 from my trainee:28/5/12
Assignment 3 - I was pleased with my trainee's efforts. Some submissives who want to "serve" can't undertake assignments like this because they don't have the commitment to learn and embrace the higher level of Kinkiness. Many just want Kinky sex without the knowledge or understanding behind what drives many of us in this journey.
Edgeplay
Edgeplay is any
type of play that would be considered “edgy” and comes very close to crossing a
submissive/slave’s limits or goes very close to the edge of what is considered
“safe play”. Certain activities like breath play (strangulation and
asphyxiation), needle play, knife play and blood play are all examples of edge
play. However, as different people have different limits, what people consider
edgeplay is also different. One person may consider needle play to be within
the scope of “normal” BDSM activities whereas another may consider it to be
edgeplay. Severe humiliation is also another example of edgeplay and for some
people even mild humiliation would be considered to be on the edge. Edgeplay is
different for different couples as everyone is different and has different
limits and skills. It is also possible for activities such as needle play that
may start out as being considered to be edge play by the couple to after a few
times of doing it for it to no longer be so close to the limits set down at the
beginning of the relationship.
Safewords
Safewords or safe
signals are words or signals that the submissive/slave uses in a scene to
inform the Dominant that the scene is either going too far and they want it to
stop completely and immediately or they just want the Dominant to stop a
particular activity but to continue the scene. It is important to have
safewords/signals as they are a very clear way to tell the Dominant how the
submissive/slave is feeling about the scene at any particular point in time and
when the scene is getting too much for the submissive/slave and they would like
it to either stop immediately or just slow down. It is especially useful when a
relationship is new, especially if one or both, people in the relationship are
new to the BDSM world and play or when an established couple are testing out
new limits. Not respecting and acting on a safeword/signal given by the
submissive/slave is grounds for the immediate termination of the relationship.
RACK vs SSC
RACK stands for
Risk-aware consensual kink and has the intent of educating and making the
players in a relationship aware of the risks inherent in the activities they
undertake as part of the D/s relationship. It means that the players in the
relationship are both aware and have consented to the risk. If both players
have appropriate knowledge of the risks and have consented to them then go
ahead. This is the basic idea which is at the core of RACK. RACK is especially
important when considering whether or not to undertake any form of edge play.
SSC on the other
hand stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual. It has the intent of helping to make
sure that all the players in a D/s relationship are safe, the submissive/slave
is unharmed, sane, neither party is intoxicated at the point of play and are
able to clearly differentiate fantasy from reality and consent fully to all
activities that are going to be undertaken. Another important part of keeping
the players in a relationship safe is to make sure that the submissive/slave
has no underlying injuries or conditions that will be aggravated by the play
being performed.
In short RACK seems
to deal more with the activities that are being undertaken and SSC is more
about the people who are undertaking the activities, whether they are the
Dominant or the submissive/slave.
Monday, 28 May 2012
Visit to Canberra - Part 2 (10702)
It was fantastic.
I will be back to write up the experience in a day or so.
On 26th May 2012, I attended a combined birthday for WM and KF in Canberra. There were about 100 guests from all over Australia and we celebrated it fabulously at the Temple. I travelled to the party with my submissive, bill, MM, nick and fox. There was a burlesque show, a fire twirling demonstration, and an impressive whipping scene with a bullwhip. There were plenty of submissives/slaves and Dominants of both genders. The Fetish outfits of many were wonderful to observe. So wonderful to be around Kinky folk who enjoy Fetish gear, and Fetish gatherings.
There were so many people I caught up with and they were so friendly, so approachable. Grounded people, my kind of people. WM looked beautiful in her gorgeous corset and her submissive was very attentive to her needs. KF had an anime cutesy look and she looked gorgeous in pink.
The Temple was impressive with a tree in the middle of the lounge room which was used for a mummification scene. It was terrific to watch. There was leash play combined with trampling by the gorgeous N. The new dungeon had a newly made cage, a rack and all sorts of kinky goodies to play with. One day, I hope to have my own dungeon and play with all the naughty boys, and perhaps some naughty girls...I gave MM's submissive a punishment with my leather strap. 10 straps he got as he did something inappropriate to me a few weeks ago. At the end of the strapping, he was shaking. His Mistress gave him aftercare and I went on conversing to other kinksters. We left the party about 2.00am to head back to Canberra city. I must say thank you WM for an amazing event, and the Birthday Cake of delish!
Corner Time 2
A Corner Time punishment from the lovely A. She is such a delight and I had to share her experience with you all. Enjoy the description of what she endured. Yum.
It was my pleasure to implement the punishments, A. Believe you me :)
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First of all I put on my stockings and my (3 sizes too small) 9 cm (3.5")
high heel open toe sandals. Then I wrapped my ankles in the spreader bar and
stumbled to the corner. I set my alarm for 62 minutes (I always add a few
minutes to make sure that I do my full time). I placed my arms behind my back,
left hand holding right wrist, set my chin to my chest and closed my eyes. I
said: "Thank you, Ms Neta, you have been a marvelous punisher".
While standing there with my eyes closed I was thinking back at this past
dreadful week. It started all with Miss G giving me a purple punishment (1600
lines) for wearing black instead of white knee socks with my school uniform. I
had to write these lines in one single day, and Miss G had given me a strict
schedule: wake up at 3 am, do my morning duties and dress up in full school
uniform (with white knee socks of course). From 4 am to 5 am: one hour Corner
Time. From 5 am to 11 am: 6 hours writing lines. Then 1/2 hour lunch and toilet
break. From 11.30 am to 5.30 pm: 6 hours writing. Another 1/2 hour toilet and
dinner break. And then from 6 pm until the finish (8.30 pm): writing the rest of
my lines. Then from 8.30 pm to 9.30 pm another hour of Corner Time. Then I still
had to scan all my lines (40 pages) and upload them for Miss G's inspection. I
had to indicate my errors in red, and I made about 16 errors.
The next day I was confronted with Ms Neta who gave me an amber punishment
of 460 lines - every 20th line in a different color, for cheating on my
Statistics exam. It took me about 4 1/2 hours to write these. I sent them to Ms
Neta, and I had indicated that I had made 3 errors. Her verdict was that I had
to write an additional 85 lines for making errors, intermittently poor
handwriting, sending in my lines too early and loss of concentration. The cherry
on the cake was one hour Corner Time. I had to sit on the floor, eyes closed and
think about why I had sent in my lines too early and what would be the
consequences for Ms Neta. I had to write 1/2 A4 report about that.
The next day I got my verdict from Miss G for making errors in my 1600
lines: I got a red punishment of 800 lines, but she gave me 5 days to complete
them. However, as long as my lines were not handed in, I would have to do
a daily one hour Corner Time. I started writing the same day and finished some
400 lines.
The next day I met Ms Neta again who gave me an amber punishment of 500
lines for smoking, every 15th line in a different color. This one also took me
about 4 1/2 hours to complete. I didn't make any errors this time and so I
didn't get additional lines. But I had to do 75 minutes of Corner Time, sitting
on the floor in a white T-shirt and white shorts, cross-legged, hands on hips (a
position that was impossible to hold for 75 minutes), eyes fixed on the wall. I
also wrote a report about that punishment.
My last and final punishment came once more from Ms Neta. I had been
talking in class and was not paying attention to what the teacher was talking
about. I asked for an amber punishment (maximum 500 lines) and was at first
nicely surprised that Ms Neta only gave me 420 lines, every 10th line in a
different color. But then I saw the line: it was actually about 1.5 lines long,
thus it would be equivalent to about 630 lines (a red punishment). But I
couldn't refuse this from the fantastic Ms Neta. After all, she is doing all the
hard work, using up her precious time to compose a decent line that fits the
crime, checking my lines for errors, and finding a right position for my Corner
Time. Compared to that, writing the lines and standing in the corner is peanuts.
It took me about 6 hours and 15 minutes to finish my lines, and then it was time
to take my position in the corner, standing in my heels and with the spreader
bar between my legs.
Finally my alarm went off, and I repeated once more: "Thank you, Ms Neta,
you have been a marvelous punisher". My feet really hurt now. What a horrible
experience!
That was probably my last punishment this
year, I must now try to be a good girl, but I will probably make new errors and
then Ms Neta will be there again to correct my attitude and turn me into a
better girl again. Ms Neta, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being
such a kind lady and such a wonderful punisher. We'll probably meet again, don't
know where, don't know when. But I know we'll meet again some sunny day!
Visit to Canberra: 25/5/12 - 27/5/12 - Part 1
I went to Canberra with my submissive on Friday, 25th May 2012.
Unfortunately it was not as good as I was hoping it to be. Our family was enveloped in sadness due to one of our pets falling ill. I won't go into too much detail except to say he died on the Saturday so it has been an emotional rollercoaster for me being away from my family during this very sad time.
My submissive bill was extremely supportive during this weekend and what I would like to say to him is THANK YOU for being an amazing support to me. If it wasn't for him, Ms Neta, would have gone 'insane' with grief.
Unfortunately it was not as good as I was hoping it to be. Our family was enveloped in sadness due to one of our pets falling ill. I won't go into too much detail except to say he died on the Saturday so it has been an emotional rollercoaster for me being away from my family during this very sad time.
My submissive bill was extremely supportive during this weekend and what I would like to say to him is THANK YOU for being an amazing support to me. If it wasn't for him, Ms Neta, would have gone 'insane' with grief.
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