Pampering with Massage:30/10/11

Went to visit my submissive scott last night (Saturday).  He was due for a punishment - 10 straps - along wiht a reward to massage my legs - from feet to arse cheeks.  Japanese musk oil was used since the rest of his oils were stale.  Ugh. 

We chatted for 45 minutes about the politics in the local scene, and the obsession by the male d type.

My legs were massaged for one hour.  It was pleasant.  He can only improve. 

I had to urinate three times as the massage was cleaning out my system obviously... ha ha ha.

Nice view of the trees whilst being massaged.

I like being massaged.  Completely non-sexual, just a nice relaxing massage for a glorious Mistress by her lovely secondary submissive.  Delightful.

~Ms Neta~

The difference

Dominance is not about pain play - it's about being in charge, being responsible.
 

Sadism isn't about anger, or revenge it's about a sexual orientation in which you get sexual pleasure from giving pain in certain settings.
 

There are two kinds of sadists - those who do it non-consensually, and that's who many of your serial killers are, and where abusers fit in; and those who do it consensually to masochists to have a sexual orientation in which they get sexual pleasure from receiving pain play in certain settings.
 

Consensual S&M is an intimate sharing of mutually compatible sexual desires, one to give and the other to receive pain.

Reminder about stupidity

Interesting I discovered some news today which was extremely amusing and slightly irritating.

As everyone knows we had our High Protocol dinner which was not well presented by the Hostess.  In fact it was extremely disorganised and the whole presentation was inferior.

What I found out today was the hostess complained about me to another Mistress about my nit picking on the night of the dinner.  Oh really?  If she thought that was nit picking my goddess she'd hate to see my out and out criticism of her bullshit exaggeration about regularly arranging formal dinners.  What a crock a shit the little idiot is. 

Now don't get me wrong I am very pro Women but there are just those handful out there who are so stupid they don't even realise they are stupid!!!

Anyway just had to write that down as a reminder about the poor efforts of this foolish woman who embarrassed the Group and Guests through her ignorance, tastelessness, awful food, inferior style and poor presentation of the dinner.

Yes Ms Neta has spoken, and Ms Neta is not impressed with this little 'big' diva.

Lunch 13/10/11

On Thursday, my submissive bill made me a lovely lunch prior to our big weekend with our interstate guests.  This is what he write...

Thursday, my last day to relax before busy Friday and the High Protocol Dinner. Well I didn't really relax. Washed the car and cleaned inside for my Mistresses presence. Also grocery shopped then made some lunch for my lovely Mistress. Was thinking salmon would go well with avocado and cheese on a sandwich but my Mistress had other ideas so was in a bit of a panic about that. That was the only meat I had to serve on the sandwich. Opened the fridge looking for other options but there were not any. Did this two more times but knew the same result would apply. Crazy ! My Mistress was very happy with the lunch I had prepared for her, though only salmon and cheese sandwiches she did not complain and thanked me for them. A loving and appreciating Mistress certainly makes dog adore her even more ! We had a great chat again. My Mistress was concerned about the planning for the dinner, being non-existent but not to feel bad about it, it is out of our control. We have done all we can.

Isn't he an amazing person, everyone?  And, he belongs to me completely.

My friend: Miss S.

sub scott pic

Received some sad news today.  My friend, Miss S, told me she has two years to live.  She has bone cancer and has been in and out of hospital for weeks.

Last week she was informed she had bone cancer.

Today she was informed she has two years - she may have only 12 months or she may have max. 3 years.  I was shocked and my heart felt heavy.  I suppose I was in denial for a while when I found out she had cancer but the reality hit me today.  I looked at her thinking of the great loss of her.

I am sad because this Woman is lovely, a good person, and perhaps we don't agree on some things but overall she has been a support to me and vice versa. 

Myself, along with others, will ensure the last few years of her life will ROCK.

Sending tight hugs to you my friend.

Journal for the week: 22/10/11 - 30/10/11

Saturday 22/10/11 - Jack and our son went to Melbourne to visit relatives.  The girls and I remained home and had a wonderful night together.

Sunday 23/10/11 - The girls, myself and bill went to MONA.  It was very enjoyable to see the artworks again.

Monday 24/10/11 - Had a busy day dealing with alt life - very irritating - but dealt with to our satisfaction.  John and our son returned from Melb that evening so picked them up from airport.  A late night.

Tuesday 25/10/11 - Woke up with a booming headache.  Not fun at all.  My morning was extremely productive.  I caught up with Miss S at lunchtime and received some sad news.  She has cancer and has two years to live.  I feel sad today.

Wednesday 26/10/11 - Off to see Ms A to chat about her new spanking group and preparation for that.  It is my half day.  Lovely.

Thursday 27/10/11 - Busy day.  Board meeting then function afterwards.

Friday 28/10/11 - It will be a low key day and catch up with bits and pieces.

Saturday 29/10/11 - Catching up with my secondary submissive for some pampering.

Sunday 30/10/11 - In the morning, catching up with a Kinky friend for a coffee.  In the afternoon, my primary submissive will be visiting to assist Jack with some painting and then we will all have a lovely dinner together.  Ain't life grand?!!

Beautiful Women

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Bondage

Bondage is a tool used by the Dom to restrict the movement of, or to immobilize the sub. Binding can be used for correction, but it is often used for pleasure, depending on the particular D/s relationship. During bondage, the Dom has complete control over the sub, but this depends on the type of binding used. There are a variety of restraints you can purchase at your local adult bookstore, or through catalogs. Each one has its own use and purpose. Regardless of the style of restraint, they should all be somewhat comfortable to wear but restrictive, and should not cut off blood circulation. If the sub is extremely uncomfortable, they will have attention on their body and not fully on the Dom.

During bondage, the Dom has almost complete control of the sub's body, and can use the time for instruction, punishment, teasing, or can bring the sub to orgasm at the Dom's wishes. In order to be bound, there has to be a deep level of trust by the sub for the Dom. It is at this time more than any other that the Dom needs to be very perceptive of the cues the sub will give. When a sub is bound, the chance for injury jumps drastically, and the sub is not in a position to defend or assist herself. It is an act of total submission to allow yourself to be bound, and the sub is trusting the Dom to do the right thing. Therefore, the Dom must be in complete control of himself while handling a bound sub. Drinking or taking drugs before bondage is not recommended.

NOTE: The following items should be used with extreme care. It is very easy to permanently injure or even kill another person with these items. If you are unsure of how to use these items, get the assistance of experienced D/s couples.

Ropes
Rope bondage is the most common. This includes rope, scarves, neckties, belts, or any other multi-purpose item used to restrain the sub. Usually, the hands are bound to each other, but they can be bound to the thighs, waist, behind the back, or above the head. The sub can also be bound to another object such as a chair, shower curtain rod, hook in the ceiling, and many other places where you can tie off a rope. The feet can also be bound together, or apart.

NOTE: Care must be taken with rope. It is very easy to cut off circulation, or cause rope burns. Use a soft, large diameter rope, such as nautical rope. Check your sub frequently. The more the sub struggles, the tighter the rope becomes.

Dominance and submissive roles

In order for any venture to be successful, there must be basic guidelines. I understand that every couple is different, and no two D/s relationships are the same. Nevertheless, basic agreements exists, or else you go outside the boundaries of what is considered a D/s relationship. Every couple will have their own set of agreements, however, I feel there are some that are universal. 

1.     No actual injury should occur to the sub. That does not suggest that spankings, discipline and correction do not occur, they just are not calculated to produce real injury, either to body or mind. In D/s, pain is sometimes used to correct behavior, or as a pleasurable experience depending on the people involved. It is not the central focus of the relationship.

2.     Pre-agreed limits. It is simply an agreement on what the Dom and sub will and will not do. These limits are different for all couples. A pre-agreed limit is simply the boundaries established by the relationship. As an example, some couples put a limit on other people joining them for a scene. It is important to discuss honestly with each other what your personal limits are before beginning a D/s relationship. These are lines that are not crossed without at least some discussion beforehand. These boundaries do change with time as the relationship progresses.

3.     The sub should have a "safeword", or something they can say to halt the present time activity. The safeword is a word that is understood by both parties to mean that action needs to stop. It could be that the sub is in great pain, or the Dom wants to clarify a situation outside of the action he is engaged in. Usually, it is that a line is being crossed that was not discussed in the pre-agreed limits, but just now came up. D/s is supposed to be enjoyed by both parties. Limits and safewords are type of guarantee that things don't get out of control on either side. If the couple are in the middle of a caning, and the sub is having a problem with the situation, the safeword is used to stop the action. When the safeword is spoken, the action must stop at that moment. This will allow the Dom and sub to discuss what the problem is, or correct a painful or dangerous situation outside the "scene".

Communication between the Dom and sub is crucial to a successful D/s relationship. The sub must be willing to talk about their feelings and the Dom must be receptive. The Dom also must be conscious of the non-verbal cues the sub gives. For a satisfying D/s relationship, it helps to have an underlying affinity for the other partner. The Dom is attempting to perfect their sub to their ideal of what the sub should be. The sub must want that goal, too. If either of these points do not exist, the D/s can degrade into an abusive relationship, or the partners go off, dissatisfied. D/s is for the mutual enjoyment of both partners. Limits and safewords assist in ensuring both parties experience pleasure, and neither gives up all control.

Over time the use of safewords and limits may diminish, however many couples in a long term relationship still use them